here's the deal though... i have a pretty good feeling that stuff just kind of rolls off benji in a way that just doesn't happen for most folks and is maybe why they are a decent fit/have been together for a couple of years. she does something not nice, he doesn't really notice and is like "gonna go catch some crappie real quick, love ya babe" and life goes on for him. not a bad way to live really. i'd still get her to admit that she's being pretty silly and wouldn't appreciate it if you did the same thing to her. i mean at least get her to own up to it.