Master Dating Thread

[star seed 7]

I bet it would be boring to go to a wedding where your bf is gone half the time doing wedding party crap and you don't really know the non-wedding party people

After 2.5yrs together, it may be time to start thinking about the feelings and wants of the person you are with and weigh them against a little boredom.  Maybe I am just a super awesome sig other, but that seems like a pretty reasonable thing to expect.

yeah. Maybe take this opportunity to get to know some of your significant other's friends? I mean, I know most of my wife's close friends pretty well, so it wouldn't be an issue. But still.

yeah, if she just refused to go i'd agree, but she has another wedding to go to.  i just don't think it's that big of a deal.  obviously ben ji has the right to have his feelings hurt, and i probably would too in the situation, but look at both sides.

[michigancat]

I bet it would be boring to go to a wedding where your bf is gone half the time doing wedding party crap and you don't really know the non-wedding party people

After 2.5yrs together, it may be time to start thinking about the feelings and wants of the person you are with and weigh them against a little boredom.  Maybe I am just a super awesome sig other, but that seems like a pretty reasonable thing to expect.

yeah. Maybe take this opportunity to get to know some of your significant other's friends? I mean, I know most of my wife's close friends pretty well, so it wouldn't be an issue. But still.

yeah, if she just refused to go i'd agree, but she has another wedding to go to.  i just don't think it's that big of a deal.  obviously ben ji has the right to have his feelings hurt, and i probably would too in the situation, but look at both sides.

I almost think the wedding she chose was just as bad as simply refusing to go - she basically said a coworker of 2 years was more important than Ben Ji's BFF.

[star seed 7]

no she didn't.  if she was pressuring him to go to her wedding instead of his, then i could see your point.

we don't know what kind of relationship these 2 girls have beyond "only worked there 2 years", which is arbitrary anyway.  my current bff was my bff after like a month of meeting/working with him and that was 15 years ago.  if they truly are just co-workers, and not friends, then i could be swayed.

[michigancat]

no she didn't.  if she was pressuring him to go to her wedding instead of his, then i could see your point.

we don't know what kind of relationship these 2 girls have beyond "only worked there 2 years", which is arbitrary anyway.  my current bff was my bff after like a month of meeting/working with him and that was 15 years ago.  if they truly are just co-workers, and not friends, then i could be swayed.

Yeah, it's entirely plausible that Ben Ji is downplaying her relationship with this girl. But wouldn't she be in the wedding if they were really close? She just wants to go on a party bus.

[ben ji]

Ya know, on one hand I really want her to be there because its important to me...and on the other hand she is a nurse who works night shift and is super close with all of her co-workers(Vampire Scheules) so I would understand her going to that wedding.

But it doesnt matter.

I will have a great time if she is there, I will have a great time if she isnt there.

So its all her decision.

Conundrum solved!

CASE CLOSED

#1cat

[yoga-like_abana]

Bone the maid of honor


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[SdK]

Just wanted to say that I've had a girlfriend for about 4 months now. I'm putting this here in case I want to talk about it later. K Thanks.

[Dugout DickStone]

Just wanted to say that I've had a girlfriend for about 4 months now. I'm putting this here in case I want to talk about it later. K Thanks.

Sounds pretty serious!

[SdK]

Just wanted to say that I've had a girlfriend for about 4 months now. I'm putting this here in case I want to talk about it later. K Thanks.

Sounds pretty serious!

Haha it is. Actually met on OkCupid. The only reason I messaged her was because she said she disliked smokers. I thought that was a pretty harsh comment to lump them all together. I think inconsiderate smokers are terrible. Anyway, four months later, he we are. She goes to school 7 hours away but is from Topeka originally. It's rough, but she graduates in May. Then maybe we'll be moving to California!!!

[420seriouscat69]

What school, dude?

[Dugout DickStone]

Good, that's exciting

[Dugout DickStone]

What school, dude?

Don't recruit on our board wacky 

[420seriouscat69]

What school, dude?

Don't recruit on our board wacky 

[SdK]

What school, dude?

Don't recruit on our board wacky 

Hahaha I'm not even worried. Bradley.

[michigancat]

Ya know, on one hand I really want her to be there because its important to me...and on the other hand she is a nurse who works night shift and is super close with all of her co-workers(Vampire Scheules) so I would understand her going to that wedding.

But it doesnt matter.

I will have a great time if she is there, I will have a great time if she isnt there.

So its all her decision.

Conundrum solved!

CASE CLOSED

#1cat

Why is this important to you? Because you would have more fun the weekend of the wedding if she went? If so, I think you've got it figured out.

[The Big Train]

i mean it's your best friend and you are the best man. it's pretty crappy but hey who can blame her? she's gonna go party down w/ her buds instead of going to some other wedding that she wouldn't have as much fun at. i would be like hey do whatever you want but just wait until you are in some wedding that is important to you and instead of going, i tell you i'm going to go hang out at the casinos w/ some bros from highschool. we'll see how cool you think this little thing you are pulling is then.

I saw this the other day and feel it can be relevant going both ways, sorta.

['taterblast]

she's cheating on you

[star seed 7]

she's cheating on you

Hadn't considered this, worth investigating

[nicname]

she's cheating on you

Hadn't considered this, worth investigating

Ben ji is far too interesting to be cheated on.

[Stevesie60]

I think the biggest, possibly only, downside to her not going is having to explain to everyone that she chose a coworkers wedding over your BFF's. Especially if you guys are as close with this couple as you have depicted, since they will probably know she's not close with this coworker. At least you have made it sound like she's not very close with this coworker....

[slobber]

she's cheating on you

Hadn't considered this, worth investigating

This has been mentioned at least twice in this thread. How have you not considered it?

[Dr Rick Daris]

god i'd love to see this chicks reaction if her best friend in the entire world was getting married and she was the maid of honor or whatever and was going to have to a speech and bought a new dress and had been telling benji about it for months and then all of the sudden benji was all like "hey babe when was that wedding thing this spring? oh sorry. just got an invite to the big trains wedding from goEMAW.com and it's in dallas that same weekend. looks like i can't make it to you're thing. you have fun though!"

she'd flip her crap and i'd make her own that. i mean give her the choice and all i guess but make sure she knows she wouldn't be ok w/ it if the shoe were on the other foot. make her know how immature she is being. i mean it's benji's best friend in the entire world and he's the best man and he wants her to go. it shouldn't even be an option for her and the non chalantedness of this girl about the whole thing is making me angry.

[steve dave]

rick daris makes a good shoe on the other foot point here

[Institutional Control]

I would kill for an invite to Big Train's wedding in Dallas.

[Trim]

any particular reason you feel so strongly about wishing she'd come but if she doesn't, it's all good fun time?

I would like her to come because its my BFF's wedding and its important to me. If she decides to go to her work wedding I'll just get obliterated with my bro's and still have a great time boozing and gambling. No need to get in a fight over it when both outcomes are enjoyable to me.

Potato, Potahto.