Master Dating Thread

[Dr Rick Daris]

i mean it's your best friend and you are the best man. it's pretty crappy but hey who can blame her? she's gonna go party down w/ her buds instead of going to some other wedding that she wouldn't have as much fun at. i would be like hey do whatever you want but just wait until you are in some wedding that is important to you and instead of going, i tell you i'm going to go hang out at the casinos w/ some bros from highschool. we'll see how cool you think this little thing you are pulling is then.

[slobber]

Why were you on a break? That is a very important question that you don't have to answer here, but you need to evaluate. Any good looking studs that she works with? Did she act like you weren't even invited to the work wedding?

I mean, I am not trying to be a dick, but when you post this stuff, I am trying to help provide answers. The deeper it gets the more questions pop up.

[420seriouscat69]

He posted this awhile back. I feel like this 2nd run has been really good for Ben Ji and Ben Ji's gf from the sounds of it. We all run into a few bumps in the road tho.

[Dugout DickStone]

does she have a work boyfriend?

[CNS]

Givers and takers.  We have to pick who we want to be with. 

Make your choice.  She has made hers.

[ben ji]

Why were you on a break? That is a very important question that you don't have to answer here, but you need to evaluate. Any good looking studs that she works with? Did she act like you weren't even invited to the work wedding?

I mean, I am not trying to be a dick, but when you post this stuff, I am trying to help provide answers. The deeper it gets the more questions pop up.

Yeah, went over that about a year ago in this thread. But no, the only guy she works with is gay.

She was going to invite me to the work wedding, that's why she was asking what weekend my bff's wedding was.

[ben ji]

I'm leaning towards the "Tell her I'd really like her to come to my bff's wedding and it would mean a lot" and if she still wants to go to her work wedding be all like "Whatever, #bro-time #YOLO #blackout"

[XocolateThundarr]

I'm leaning towards the "Tell her I'd really like her to come to my bff's wedding and it would mean a lot" and if she still wants to go to her work wedding be all like "Whatever, #bro-time #YOLO #blackout"

[Tobias]

any particular reason you feel so strongly about wishing she'd come but if she doesn't, it's all good fun time?

[puniraptor]

if i were a chick, i would do anything it took to become ben ji's dad's DIL

[Tobias]

if i were a chick, i would do anything it took to become ben ji's dad's DIL

oh yeah

[Skipper44]

I'm leaning towards the "Tell her I'd really like her to come to my bff's wedding and it would mean a lot" and if she still wants to go to her work wedding be all like "Whatever, #bro-time #YOLO #blackout"

you and your bff may be fine it but I doubt Mrs bff will ever forgive the future Mrs. ben ji. 

Maybe not a big deal if bff lives in Joplin but if you guys are planning to hang out as couples in the future I would make this happen.

[ben ji]

any particular reason you feel so strongly about wishing she'd come but if she doesn't, it's all good fun time?

I would like her to come because its my BFF's wedding and its important to me. If she decides to go to her work wedding I'll just get obliterated with my bro's and still have a great time boozing and gambling. No need to get in a fight over it when both outcomes are enjoyable to me.

[ben ji]

I'm leaning towards the "Tell her I'd really like her to come to my bff's wedding and it would mean a lot" and if she still wants to go to her work wedding be all like "Whatever, #bro-time #YOLO #blackout"

you and your bff may be fine it but I doubt Mrs bff will ever forgive the future Mrs. ben ji. 

Maybe not a big deal if bff lives in Joplin but if you guys are planning to hang out as couples in the future I would make this happen.

That is something I have thought about, I mean, my GF was there when he proposed and we still hang out.

I'm thinking she would be disappointed but I highly doubt mrs. bff will harbor any long term grudges. Who knows tho, wedding make chicks crazy AMIRIGHT?!?

[Tobias]

any particular reason you feel so strongly about wishing she'd come but if she doesn't, it's all good fun time?

I would like her to come because its my BFF's wedding and its important to me. If she decides to go to her work wedding I'll just get obliterated with my bro's and still have a great time boozing and gambling. No need to get in a fight over it when both outcomes are enjoyable to me.

it sounds like she may not understand the level of importance you're placing on it - she should definitely know

[The Tonya Harding of Twitter Users Creep]

I mean... at some point... its just a wedding. yeah, its your best bros, but its just a wedding. is this a hill youre willing to die on?

[pissclams]

How long have you been dating this girl, ben ji?

1.5 years, chicago, 1 year

fyp?

[michigancat]

any particular reason you feel so strongly about wishing she'd come but if she doesn't, it's all good fun time?

I would like her to come because its my BFF's wedding and its important to me.

It would be important to her, too, if she didn't hate your friends.

[ben ji]

How long have you been dating this girl, ben ji?

1.5 years, chicago, 1 year

fyp?

Nope, Chicago was the break.

[Tobias]

any particular reason you feel so strongly about wishing she'd come but if she doesn't, it's all good fun time?

I would like her to come because its my BFF's wedding and its important to me.

It would be important to her, too, if she didn't hate your friends.

yeah, this conversation definitely needs to happen

[Mr Bread]

It's bullshit that she's not going.  It'd be bullshit if you pulled it.  I mostly agree with the1bigwillie though if you aren't prepared to make it a big deal then don't make it any deal.  Bitching about it just makes you a pussy.  Still not good form on her part and a bit troubling.  Every serious relationship I've been in girls lived for this kind of thing.  Hell even the not so serious.  Maybe I dated weird girls. 

[The Tonya Harding of Twitter Users Creep]

have you thought about boning her sister? could solve a few of these issues.

[star seed 7]

I bet it would be boring to go to a wedding where your bf is gone half the time doing wedding party crap and you don't really know the non-wedding party people

[CNS]

I bet it would be boring to go to a wedding where your bf is gone half the time doing wedding party crap and you don't really know the non-wedding party people

After 2.5yrs together, it may be time to start thinking about the feelings and wants of the person you are with and weigh them against a little boredom.  Maybe I am just a super awesome sig other, but that seems like a pretty reasonable thing to expect.

[michigancat]

I bet it would be boring to go to a wedding where your bf is gone half the time doing wedding party crap and you don't really know the non-wedding party people

After 2.5yrs together, it may be time to start thinking about the feelings and wants of the person you are with and weigh them against a little boredom.  Maybe I am just a super awesome sig other, but that seems like a pretty reasonable thing to expect.

yeah. Maybe take this opportunity to get to know some of your significant other's friends? I mean, I know most of my wife's close friends pretty well, so it wouldn't be an issue. But still.