Master Dating Thread

[Dr Rick Daris]

oh hey babe. hey, when was that thing that was super important to you again? oh darn. i just found out i have the opportunity to do something more fun on that same day, so i'm going to do that instead of that thing that is super important thing to you that you really want me to do with you. but that doesn't mean you can't still go and have fun though! take some pictures!

[The Tonya Harding of Twitter Users Creep]

rough birthday, rick?

[The Tonya Harding of Twitter Users Creep]

Just wanted to say that I've had a girlfriend for about 4 months now. I'm putting this here in case I want to talk about it later. K Thanks.

Sounds pretty serious!

She goes to school 7 hours away but is from Topeka originally.

7 HOURS AWAY? sounds rough ridin' stupid.

[Dr Rick Daris]

well i know that her recital is tonight. what i'm telling you is that it's bryn's last week and the recital is right in the middle of kona happy hour and it's not like you can't just take a video of it on your phone and i can watch it later. god why do you have to be like this!

[8manpick]

Just wanted to say that I've had a girlfriend for about 4 months now. I'm putting this here in case I want to talk about it later. K Thanks.

Sounds pretty serious!

She goes to school 7 hours away but is from Topeka originally.

7 HOURS AWAY? sounds rough ridin' stupid.

[CNS]

Either way, this wedding conundrum needs to end with either ben ji or ben ji GF posting the results in the Shame Yourself thread.

['taterblast]

god i'd love to see this chicks reaction if her best friend in the entire world was getting married and she was the maid of honor or whatever and was going to have to a speech and bought a new dress and had been telling benji about it for months and then all of the sudden benji was all like "hey babe when was that wedding thing this spring? oh sorry. just got an invite to the big trains wedding from goEMAW.com and it's in dallas that same weekend. looks like i can't make it to you're thing. you have fun though!"

she'd flip her crap and i'd make her own that. i mean give her the choice and all i guess but make sure she knows she wouldn't be ok w/ it if the shoe were on the other foot. make her know how immature she is being. i mean it's benji's best friend in the entire world and he's the best man and he wants her to go. it shouldn't even be an option for her and the non chalantedness of this girl about the whole thing is making me angry.

yep

[420seriouscat69]

Jesus, RD is dropping mics all over this thread.

[scottwildcat]

Just wanted to say that I've had a girlfriend for about 4 months now. I'm putting this here in case I want to talk about it later. K Thanks.

Sounds pretty serious!

Haha it is. Actually met on OkCupid. The only reason I messaged her was because she said she disliked smokers. I thought that was a pretty harsh comment to lump them all together. I think inconsiderate smokers are terrible. Anyway, four months later, he we are. She goes to school 7 hours away but is from Topeka originally. It's rough, but she graduates in May. Then maybe we'll be moving to California!!!

What HS did you two go to?

[The Tonya Harding of Twitter Users Creep]

is the OKCupid thing a joke? has to be a joke, right?

[raquetcat]

god i'd love to see this chicks reaction if her best friend in the entire world was getting married and she was the maid of honor or whatever and was going to have to a speech and bought a new dress and had been telling benji about it for months and then all of the sudden benji was all like "hey babe when was that wedding thing this spring? oh sorry. just got an invite to the big trains wedding from goEMAW.com and it's in dallas that same weekend. looks like i can't make it to you're thing. you have fun though!"

she'd flip her crap and i'd make her own that. i mean give her the choice and all i guess but make sure she knows she wouldn't be ok w/ it if the shoe were on the other foot. make her know how immature she is being. i mean it's benji's best friend in the entire world and he's the best man and he wants her to go. it shouldn't even be an option for her and the non chalantedness of this girl about the whole thing is making me angry.

yep

Get out the hammer, RD nailed it!

[raquetcat]

If this girl is wife material, which by the length of time you've been dating her you probably think she is, this sets a horrible precedent. If I was best man in a wedding I would expect my wife to show barring an emergency and I know I would do the same for her. Maybe it's just a lack of respect or something or maybe you haven't communicated the importance of this event, but honestly if she knows it's your bff and knows you're the best man, she really shouldn't even be considering going any where else that day.

[michigancat]

Maybe Ben ji doesn't really like his friend that much.

[Daddy Claxton]

If I were Ben Ji, I'd just be thankful that i didn't have to go to the wedding of my SO's work friend. Then I would realize that my SO probably feels the same about the wedding I'm going to and this is a great situation because everyone gets out of doing something they don't want to while having fun with their friends.

Are people really this concerned about their SO not liking their other friends?

[CNS]

If I were Ben Ji, I'd just be thankful that i didn't have to go to the wedding of my SO's work friend. Then I would realize that my SO probably feels the same about the wedding I'm going to and this is a great situation because everyone gets out of doing something they don't want to while having fun with their friends.

Are people really this concerned about their SO not liking their other friends?

Not specifically speaking to ben ji's sitch, but generally they should be.  Unless you don't care to have a long term successful relationship, that is.

[420seriouscat69]

If I were Ben Ji, I'd just be thankful that i didn't have to go to the wedding of my SO's work friend. Then I would realize that my SO probably feels the same about the wedding I'm going to and this is a great situation because everyone gets out of doing something they don't want to while having fun with their friends.

Are people really this concerned about their SO not liking their other friends?

They should be. Most ppl have been friends longer than they have been w/ their SO's. They should feel like that person should be able to adapt with what's familiar to them if they want a long, substantial, relationship. I've done this a lot in my current relationship. It's also caused fights, cause I didn't feel like she has reciprocated at times. It should go both ways. Girls are the first ones to flip out about stuff like this.

[michigancat]

If I were Ben Ji, I'd just be thankful that i didn't have to go to the wedding of my SO's work friend. Then I would realize that my SO probably feels the same about the wedding I'm going to and this is a great situation because everyone gets out of doing something they don't want to while having fun with their friends.

Are people really this concerned about their SO not liking their other friends?

Not specifically speaking to ben ji's sitch, but generally they should be.  Unless you don't care to have a long term successful relationship, that is.

Beyond that, it's also about having respect for what your significant other considers important. Even if Ben Ji's GF likes the groom, it could potentially hurt the feelings of the groom and/or the bride, which could hurt Ben Ji's long-term relationship with the friends.

on the other hand, what if the party bus has a disco ball?

[raquetcat]

If I were Ben Ji, I'd just be thankful that i didn't have to go to the wedding of my SO's work friend. Then I would realize that my SO probably feels the same about the wedding I'm going to and this is a great situation because everyone gets out of doing something they don't want to while having fun with their friends.

Are people really this concerned about their SO not liking their other friends?

Not specifically speaking to ben ji's sitch, but generally they should be.  Unless you don't care to have a long term successful relationship, that is.

For me it's more of an issue that your SO isn't supporting/doesn't care about something that's important to you.

[raquetcat]

If I were Ben Ji, I'd just be thankful that i didn't have to go to the wedding of my SO's work friend. Then I would realize that my SO probably feels the same about the wedding I'm going to and this is a great situation because everyone gets out of doing something they don't want to while having fun with their friends.

Are people really this concerned about their SO not liking their other friends?

Not specifically speaking to ben ji's sitch, but generally they should be.  Unless you don't care to have a long term successful relationship, that is.

Beyond that, it's also about having respect for what your significant other considers important. Even if Ben Ji's GF likes the groom, it could potentially hurt the feelings of the groom and/or the bride, which could hurt Ben Ji's long-term relationship with the friends.

on the other hand, what if the party bus has a disco ball?

Mich gets it, and it seems like most of the married posters do, coincidence?

['taterblast]

mods, please change michigancat from "Contributor" to "goEMAW's love doctor"

[CNS]

If I were Ben Ji, I'd just be thankful that i didn't have to go to the wedding of my SO's work friend. Then I would realize that my SO probably feels the same about the wedding I'm going to and this is a great situation because everyone gets out of doing something they don't want to while having fun with their friends.

Are people really this concerned about their SO not liking their other friends?

Not specifically speaking to ben ji's sitch, but generally they should be.  Unless you don't care to have a long term successful relationship, that is.

For me it's more of an issue that your SO isn't supporting/doesn't care about something that's important to you.

Which is why I went on to say that it is something to care about if you are interested in a successful relationship.

[Daddy Claxton]

 We'll...I've been married for over 10 years and I'm happy. But I have very few close friends and my wife likes all of them so it's never been an issue anyway. I've also been drug to weddings for people I don't give two shits about, even though my wife did, and it sucks so I care enough about my wife to let her not do something she doesn't want to do, even if I want her to do it.

Actually, if anyone itt "gets it" it's Ben Ji.

[michigancat]

We'll...I've been married for over 10 years and I'm happy. But I have very few close friends and my wife likes all of them so it's never been an issue anyway. I've also been drug to weddings for people I don't give two shits about, even though my wife did, and it sucks so I care enough about my wife to let her not do something she doesn't want to do, even if I want her to do it.

Actually, if anyone itt "gets it" it's Ben Ji.

How did you not have fun at a wedding? Were there rough ridin' kids there?

[CNS]

DC, were those weddings you were drug to close the weddings of your wife's besties or just her acquaintances?  I have skipped out on plenty of weddings of my wife's acquaintances knowing that she is going out of obligation rather than care.  That is a fully different matter and not in the same universe as to what ben ji is describing. 

[EllRobersonisInnocent]

If I'm not in the wedding I feel no obligation what so ever to attend said wedding.