Master Dating Thread

[puniraptor]

I don't want to start another poll right now (wish we could do in-thread polls), but would you rather have a prior bad feeling that you're going to get broken up with, or be completely blindsided when it occurs?

I would rather get the feeling ahead of time because if blindsided then I would want to know why and probably am not going to get that explanation.

you know i don't think i've ever been blindsided. not that i can recall anyway. there is always an inkling at the very least. like i said, i have an acute sense for this sort of thing. for me, it's more about thinking back and identifying those little moments that lead up to it. in the moment some of those clues just slip by..

So, you're good at nothing?

well, that was really mean. 

You might say, you're much ado about it?

enough with the dick jokes. this man is [possibly] hurting.

[j-dub]

I don't want to start another poll right now (wish we could do in-thread polls), but would you rather have a prior bad feeling that you're going to get broken up with, or be completely blindsided when it occurs?

I would rather get the feeling ahead of time because if blindsided then I would want to know why and probably am not going to get that explanation.

you know i don't think i've ever been blindsided. not that i can recall anyway. there is always an inkling at the very least. like i said, i have an acute sense for this sort of thing. for me, it's more about thinking back and identifying those little moments that lead up to it. in the moment some of those clues just slip by..

So, you're good at nothing?

well, that was really mean. 

You might say, you're much ado about it?

dammit spracs 

i'm trying to focus on finding clarity right now!! and you just swoop in with your hidden meanings and your puns and my god you're beautiful 

[Emo EMAW]

I don't think I've ever been broken up with.  A few mutual splits, but never a "hey we need to talk" moment.

[TownieCat]

Can you give an example of an excuse?

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[michigancat]

hopefully she just texts you the breakup

[mocat]

hopefully she just texts you the breakup

that was a really great thread

[Spracne]

hopefully she just texts you the breakup

^ I'm for this.

[pissclams]

if caring too much is wrong, then j-dub doesn't want to be right

[Emo EMAW]

Also, maybe j-dub should just strike first?  Blind side her ass.  Although it would be a dumb move if she has any cute friends he might be interested in.

[michigancat]

Also, maybe j-dub should just strike first?  Blind side her ass.  Although it would be a dumb move if she has any cute friends he might be interested in.

oh man, I didn't even consider j-dub breaking up with HER via text.

[The Tonya Harding of Twitter Users Creep]

big Wednesday break up guy here.

[puniraptor]

Can you give an example of an excuse?

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i think we all deserve some examples here. it's the only way to accurately psychoanalyze.

i hope one was "i got a thing"

[j-dub]

Can you give an example of an excuse?

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monday night i texted about her subbing for my sand volleyball team on tuesday night. we had previously talked about her maybe doing it and she was up for it. she went on and on at length about how long her day was on monday and how long it would be on tuesday and how tired she would be but she would play if needed. i told her i would try to find someone else. she again went on and on but said she would play if needed. i told her i'd find someone else. the next morning i found someone else, let her know and received a "thanks!!" in response.

when we parted ways on sunday we had talked about getting together either monday or wednesday, neither one of us had contacted the other about hanging out on monday. so yesterday, i texted her in the afternoon, said i had plans with friends around 9 but that i wanted to see her for at least a little while, could throw around a football or get ice cream, etc.. she texted back when she got off work that she didn't feel very well because of what she'd eaten that day. i called her and said, "that's too bad etc.." and asked her if she wanted to get together with some of my friends on saturday over at cf3's place. she said yeah, that it sounded fun. then around 10 last night, when i was with my bro's watching planet of the apes before one bro went to get his tubes snipped today  she texted me that she'd been poking around her phone calendar and realized she was going to the sporting game on saturday with her roommate.

[j-dub]

if caring too much is wrong, then j-dub doesn't want to be right

 

[Emo EMAW]

j-dub you are so paranoid, everything is fine

[slimz]

Can you give an example of an excuse?

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monday night i texted about her subbing for my sand volleyball team on tuesday night. we had previously talked about her maybe doing it and she was up for it. she went on and on at length about how long her day was on monday and how long it would be on tuesday and how tired she would be but she would play if needed. i told her i would try to find someone else. she again went on and on but said she would play if needed. i told her i'd find someone else. the next morning i found someone else, let her know and received a "thanks!!" in response.

when we parted ways on sunday we had talked about getting together either monday or wednesday, neither one of us had contacted the other about hanging out on monday. so yesterday, i texted her in the afternoon, said i had plans with friends around 9 but that i wanted to see her for at least a little while, could throw around a football or get ice cream, etc.. she texted back when she got off work that she didn't feel very well because of what she'd eaten that day. i called her and said, "that's too bad etc.." and asked her if she wanted to get together with some of my friends on saturday over at cf3's place. she said yeah, that it sounded fun. then around 10 last night, when i was with my bro's watching planet of the apes before one bro went to get his tubes snipped today  she texted me that she'd been poking around her phone calendar and realized she was going to the sporting game on saturday with her roommate.

In my experience, if a girl has legit conflicts but actually wants to get together, she'll offer an alternative. Sorry, j-dub. I may need to join #teampreemptivetext here.   

[420seriouscat69]

j-dub you are so paranoid, everything is fine

You've been out of the game for awhile. He is not fine. Sorry bud, I knew a few girls like this. I hate that flakey crap. One of them left for denver for an eating disorder I didn't know about, so maybe it's that. 

[j-dub]

Also, maybe j-dub should just strike first?  Blind side her ass.  Although it would be a dumb move if she has any cute friends he might be interested in.

zero cute friends i'm interested in. operation costanza may be in effect

[j-dub]

Can you give an example of an excuse?

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monday night i texted about her subbing for my sand volleyball team on tuesday night. we had previously talked about her maybe doing it and she was up for it. she went on and on at length about how long her day was on monday and how long it would be on tuesday and how tired she would be but she would play if needed. i told her i would try to find someone else. she again went on and on but said she would play if needed. i told her i'd find someone else. the next morning i found someone else, let her know and received a "thanks!!" in response.

when we parted ways on sunday we had talked about getting together either monday or wednesday, neither one of us had contacted the other about hanging out on monday. so yesterday, i texted her in the afternoon, said i had plans with friends around 9 but that i wanted to see her for at least a little while, could throw around a football or get ice cream, etc.. she texted back when she got off work that she didn't feel very well because of what she'd eaten that day. i called her and said, "that's too bad etc.." and asked her if she wanted to get together with some of my friends on saturday over at cf3's place. she said yeah, that it sounded fun. then around 10 last night, when i was with my bro's watching planet of the apes before one bro went to get his tubes snipped today  she texted me that she'd been poking around her phone calendar and realized she was going to the sporting game on saturday with her roommate.

In my experience, if a girl has legit conflicts but actually wants to get together, she'll offer an alternative. Sorry, j-dub. I may need to join #teampreemptivetext here.   

yep. whenever she had conflicts before, she would always work around them and make an effort to get together anyway. she was going well out of her way to get together. time to pre-empt the crap out of this bad boy

[Spracne]

Can you give an example of an excuse?

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monday night i texted about her subbing for my sand volleyball team on tuesday night. we had previously talked about her maybe doing it and she was up for it. she went on and on at length about how long her day was on monday and how long it would be on tuesday and how tired she would be but she would play if needed. i told her i would try to find someone else. she again went on and on but said she would play if needed. i told her i'd find someone else. the next morning i found someone else, let her know and received a "thanks!!" in response.

when we parted ways on sunday we had talked about getting together either monday or wednesday, neither one of us had contacted the other about hanging out on monday. so yesterday, i texted her in the afternoon, said i had plans with friends around 9 but that i wanted to see her for at least a little while, could throw around a football or get ice cream, etc.. she texted back when she got off work that she didn't feel very well because of what she'd eaten that day. i called her and said, "that's too bad etc.." and asked her if she wanted to get together with some of my friends on saturday over at cf3's place. she said yeah, that it sounded fun. then around 10 last night, when i was with my bro's watching planet of the apes before one bro went to get his tubes snipped today  she texted me that she'd been poking around her phone calendar and realized she was going to the sporting game on saturday with her roommate.

I think you're putin too much stock in your reads here.  I wouldn't russian to a relationship ultimatum here, were I you.

[Emo EMAW]

j-dub you are so paranoid, everything is fine

You've been out of the game for awhile. He is not fine. Sorry bud, I knew a few girls like this. I hate that flakey crap. One of them left for denver for an eating disorder I didn't know about, so maybe it's that. 

You're wrong Wacky.  If he's flppant and generally DNGAF he can right this ship. 

[Spracne]

What you need to do is string her along, as long as it's convenient for you, and then when she gets fed up she'll just leave.

[Tobias]

[michigancat]

yeah, if I were you I would maybe just chill for a while and see if she tries to contact you in the next week or so before I shoot the fatal text blow.

[Mrs. Gooch]

I think he needs to text back, "OK, well let me know if you want to get together another time" and leave it at that and don't try to arrange anything until she suggests something.