Master Dating Thread

[mocat]

let's help him formulate this (hypothetical at this point) text bomb 

[puniraptor]

im going with everything is fine also.  she didnt really want to play but wanted you to think that she was cool enough to want to play. all that other stuff is just true.

[j-dub]

yeah, if I were you I would maybe just chill for a while and see if she tries to contact you in the next week or so before I shoot the fatal text blow.

yes this is good advice

[puniraptor]

let's help him formulate this (hypothetical at this point) text bomb 

this is a TOP 5 idea, right here

[0.42]

yeah, if I were you I would maybe just chill for a while and see if she tries to contact you in the next week or so before I shoot the fatal text blow.

I think he needs to text back, "OK, well let me know if you want to get together another time" and leave it at that and don't try to arrange anything until she suggests something.

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[420seriouscat69]

j-dub you are so paranoid, everything is fine

You've been out of the game for awhile. He is not fine. Sorry bud, I knew a few girls like this. I hate that flakey crap. One of them left for denver for an eating disorder I didn't know about, so maybe it's that. 

You're wrong Wacky.  If he's flppant and generally DNGAF he can right this ship.

What for if she's not feeling it? What's the point? She'd make time for him if it was important to her.

[Spracne]

I would've said something like "Thank goodness, I actually found out that I've got something else going on Saturday and was dreading breaking the bad news to you."  Would confuse her, not knowing where your heads at.

[mocat]

yeah, if I were you I would maybe just chill for a while and see if she tries to contact you in the next week or so before I shoot the fatal text blow.

I think he needs to text back, "OK, well let me know if you want to get together another time" and leave it at that and don't try to arrange anything until she suggests something.

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sounds so catty

[j-dub]

im going with everything is fine also.  she didnt really want to play but wanted you to think that she was cool enough to want to play. all that other stuff is just true.

sorry bud. she loves sports. plays in like 3 or 4 leagues a week on the reg (one was wacky's kickball league  )

i failed to mention that she was already over at mid-america playing softball tuesday night. true, she would have had to kill an hour waiting for volleyball but still...

[TownieCat]

Can you give an example of an excuse?

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monday night i texted about her subbing for my sand volleyball team on tuesday night. we had previously talked about her maybe doing it and she was up for it. she went on and on at length about how long her day was on monday and how long it would be on tuesday and how tired she would be but she would play if needed. i told her i would try to find someone else. she again went on and on but said she would play if needed. i told her i'd find someone else. the next morning i found someone else, let her know and received a "thanks!!" in response.

when we parted ways on sunday we had talked about getting together either monday or wednesday, neither one of us had contacted the other about hanging out on monday. so yesterday, i texted her in the afternoon, said i had plans with friends around 9 but that i wanted to see her for at least a little while, could throw around a football or get ice cream, etc.. she texted back when she got off work that she didn't feel very well because of what she'd eaten that day. i called her and said, "that's too bad etc.." and asked her if she wanted to get together with some of my friends on saturday over at cf3's place. she said yeah, that it sounded fun. then around 10 last night, when i was with my bro's watching planet of the apes before one bro went to get his tubes snipped today  she texted me that she'd been poking around her phone calendar and realized she was going to the sporting game on saturday with her roommate.

I think you may be jumping the gun on this a bit. The volleyball thing doesn't seem like a big deal, and I can see how she we be so excited to hang out w/ you at CF3's house ( ) that she would forget about a previous commitment to her roommate. Before you give her "the talk" I'd try to make plans for Sunday first.

[420seriouscat69]

im going with everything is fine also.  she didnt really want to play but wanted you to think that she was cool enough to want to play. all that other stuff is just true.

sorry bud. she loves sports. plays in like 3 or 4 leagues a week on the reg (one was wacky's kickball league  )

i failed to mention that she was already over at mid-america playing softball tuesday night. true, she would have had to kill an hour waiting for volleyball but still...

OMG! I bet i've done her games. Does she know who I am?!

[Emo EMAW]

I would've said something like "Thank goodness, I actually found out that I've got something else going on Saturday and was dreading breaking the bad news to you."  Would confuse her, not knowing where your heads at.

Very manipulative. 

[Mrs. Gooch]

I would like to know how long & how often they have been getting together. At some point she can't prioritize seeing him over everything else in her life no matter how much she likes him.

[j-dub]

im going with everything is fine also.  she didnt really want to play but wanted you to think that she was cool enough to want to play. all that other stuff is just true.

sorry bud. she loves sports. plays in like 3 or 4 leagues a week on the reg (one was wacky's kickball league  )

i failed to mention that she was already over at mid-america playing softball tuesday night. true, she would have had to kill an hour waiting for volleyball but still...

OMG! I bet i've done her games. Does she know who I am?!

  i asked her if she knew a guy named heath. but she said there were a ton of people and she wasn't sure.

[TownieCat]

yeah, if I were you I would maybe just chill for a while and see if she tries to contact you in the next week or so before I shoot the fatal text blow.

I think he needs to text back, "OK, well let me know if you want to get together another time" and leave it at that and don't try to arrange anything until she suggests something.

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sounds so catty

The last thing you need to do is send another text message. Pick up the phone and call.

[Cartierfor3]

Guys I'm trying to help J-Dub stay positive but do you know a single person who would rather watch a freaking Sporting game instead of hanging at my house with me, Mrs. CF3, J-Dub, and some other pals? If it were a Royals game yeah totally we'd let it slide.

I'm just saying that J-Dub is right in thinking that the excuse is weak.

[Mrs. Gooch]

yeah, if I were you I would maybe just chill for a while and see if she tries to contact you in the next week or so before I shoot the fatal text blow.

I think he needs to text back, "OK, well let me know if you want to get together another time" and leave it at that and don't try to arrange anything until she suggests something.

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sounds so catty

Passive aggressive maybe, but not catty.

[420seriouscat69]

im going with everything is fine also.  she didnt really want to play but wanted you to think that she was cool enough to want to play. all that other stuff is just true.

sorry bud. she loves sports. plays in like 3 or 4 leagues a week on the reg (one was wacky's kickball league  )

i failed to mention that she was already over at mid-america playing softball tuesday night. true, she would have had to kill an hour waiting for volleyball but still...

OMG! I bet i've done her games. Does she know who I am?!

  i asked her if she knew a guy named heath. but she said there were a ton of people and she wasn't sure.

I'm the head ref. Just say: "Do you know that tall goofy guy, always wearing k-state stuff and running down plays to make a call? Her: Oh yeah, that guy!" You: Yeah, what a goof!"

[0.42]

yeah, if I were you I would maybe just chill for a while and see if she tries to contact you in the next week or so before I shoot the fatal text blow.

I think he needs to text back, "OK, well let me know if you want to get together another time" and leave it at that and don't try to arrange anything until she suggests something.

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sounds so catty

yeah i guess. i get where mrs. gooch is coming from (i.e. putting yourself out there and not closing up shop and acting aloof) but you also raise a valid point

[TownieCat]

Guys I'm trying to help J-Dub stay positive but do you know a single person who would rather watch a freaking Sporting game instead of hanging at my house with me, Mrs. CF3, J-Dub, and some other pals? If it were a Royals game yeah totally we'd let it slide.

I'm just saying that J-Dub is right in thinking that the excuse is weak.

 

This is the kind of post that gets an entire board named after you. Good stuff 

[j-dub]

I would like to know how long & how often they have been getting together. At some point she can't prioritize seeing him over everything else in her life no matter how much she likes him.

2 months. for the past month, 2 or 3 times a week for the most part. sometimes more, sometimes less.

[Emo EMAW]

CF3, I like you, but you have crossed the line.  This girl obviously made an obligation to a friend of hers and she's a good person so she will keep her word even though she'd rather do j-dub.

[Cartierfor3]

CF3, I like you, but you have crossed the line.  This girl obviously made an obligation to a friend of hers and she's a good person so she will keep her word even though she'd rather do j-dub.

Her roommate can come over too and sing oh my darlin' wear a scarf in July if that's what their plans originally were for Saturday. It wasn't gonna be a real formal get together.

[Mrs. Gooch]

I would like to know how long & how often they have been getting together. At some point she can't prioritize seeing him over everything else in her life no matter how much she likes him.

2 months. for the past month, 2 or 3 times a week for the most part. sometimes more, sometimes less.

So she's seeing you 2-3 times per week plus playing on some sporting leagues 3-4 times per week. Assuming she also has a job, it sounds like she is really busy. It would be easy to get double booked.

[Emo EMAW]

CF3, I like you, but you have crossed the line.  This girl obviously made an obligation to a friend of hers and she's a good person so she will keep her word even though she'd rather do j-dub.

Her roommate can come over too and sing oh my darlin' wear a scarf in July if that's what their plans originally were for Saturday. It wasn't gonna be a real formal get together.

I took it as they are going to the game.  If I took it wrong then, sorry j-dub.