Hating Apple has nothing to do with being successful. It has to do with DRM, Fake Sugar Dick (WARNING, NOT THE REAL SUGAR DICK!) control over what programs they allow, forcing such a closed platform, being asshats who unlawfully raid a journalist's house, pushing products with less power, less features, and less capability as "magical" and "revolutionary", etc. etc. etc.
And you may have been asleep the past several months, because phones out now make the 3GS look like a Zach Morris handset in terms of hardware.
As for your comment about hardware and software being better, don't kid yourself. Better to you is simple and easy. You're obviously not talking about the most capable, the most powerful, the most flexible, the most affordable, the most upgradeable, the most open, etc. Because Apple falls into none of those categories in hardware nor software.