It’s cultural. They don’t intend it to be rude or mean. And old southern ladies calling you “shugga” can basically mean cocksucker based on tiny little subtleties that our Midwest brains/ears can’t hear.
I think the stereotype is that east coast tells you what they're thinking to your face whereas Midwesterners are nice to your face but talk a lot of crap behind your back.
That pretty much is it, it's like everyone thinking Canadians are nice when really they're hyper passive aggressive and you don't realize it.
FTR also wacky we got a vendor who's based out of NJ, and one of the guys is just the worst type of human being to deal with, regardless of being from NJ or not. They are in general more in your face.
The Canadians I have interacted with are all super nice.
(ben ji making a sales call to the northeast)
"Yeah, I know about your product and told the last guy to stop rough ridin' calling me so now I'm telling you the same thing"
(ben ji making a sales call to Canada)
"Oh ya, I remember your company. In fact we looked into it last year with one of your co-workers. It's a great product but we just don't have a need for it right now, ya know? Sure sure, follow up with me in 6 months."