MIR, I remember you saying you hated Dear Evan Hansen because the characters were self-serving and every interaction felt transactional. But it seems like here you are suggesting this couple should not share an exciting moment for their family solely because of how it could be perceived by strangers on social media?
I appreciate you saying that YOU as one of the warm and enlightened distant observers would extend some grace before judging too harshly, but why on earth should that not be the minimum standard for every person who doesn't know a single thing about this family? Part of the irony of your statement is that you're suggesting the couple should be aware of the history of racial relations in the US before adopting a black child (not saying I disagree), but that people can legitimately pass judgment on this family who don't know anything about them beyond like a 10 second video clip.
1. Amazing memory on my Dear Evan Hansen review, nailed it.
2. I don't think they should have held the post back because of how it would be perceived on social media. I think if they knew the historical context they likely would have thought twice about not leaving that as an intimate moment for their family only. I know that's a pretty narrow distinction, but it's one nonetheless.
3. I do think the standard should be to cut these people some slack, but I'm not going to get all upset at people who don't, in most cases anyway, like with everything else people can get extreme with their assessments and I couldn't roll with that. White people consistently want the benefit of the doubt but as a whole minorities are given reasons literally every single day to absolutely not believe that white people on the whole don't have our best interests in mind and absolutely don't deserve the benefit of the doubt. After I post this I'm going to run today's headlines in a news aggregation app I use and I bet you I'll find a minimum of five headlines that tell me that, no I shouldn't automatically give the benefit of the doubt. I personally choose to do so because I think it's a miserable experience to always get pissed about white people doing things they may be completely unaware that are harmful. I think this is a product of spending my entire life being the only black dude more than anything else. If I grew up in NYC, DC, or in the deep South, I'd probably be a lot less forgiving.