update: days 20 and 21 have kicked our ass. i am 99% sure we have a gassy/colicky baby. Starting to be inconsolable for 45 minutes after each feeding.
been pretty emotional today wondering if something is wrong. plus feeling resentment towards parents who seem to have a "happy" baby. not proud of it.
Thankfully my mother-in-law will be staying with us starting Sunday. I start working from home on Monday so this will be a big help.
FWIW - I think lots of new parents (including us) went through a similar phase of being convinced about colic. Tried simethicone and all that. Ultimately time helps more than anything, but for us the most effective thing for at least helping with spit up was just holding them on your chest/upright for a good 30-40 minutes after eating. Great excuse for sitting on the couch and watching football.
Also, for our first especially we ended up determining he was actually just still hungry and wanting more. Growth spurts can look a lot like gas/colic when it comes to inexplicably crying just 30 minutes after a meal.
@catastrophe this post ended up being pretty spot on. Past 6 weeks now and going much smoother. Still some bad days here and there but much better at deciphering what the issue is. ie tired/gassy/hungry. Not as worried about colic at the moment.
Gotta say having the mother in law stay for 2 weeks was the best thing yet. So nice to have another person around.
Biggest thing now is getting him to sleep at night in his bassinet. Doesn't like sleeping on his back by himself. Can maybe get a 2 hr stretch outta him at night, but nothing longer than 20 min after that. Just off and on grunts, kicks up his legs, sometimes farts and eventually wakes himself up. ms. ww goes back to work in 2 weeks and then nights become a higher % my duty. Hoping his digestive system keeps improving.
Also just found out our daycare provider may have COVID. May not be able to start that in 2 weeks like we thought.