The top 6 things that males and females look for in the opposite sex are all the same (sense of humor, sociability, gets along with friends, etc). 7-9 (when ranked in order of most desirable traits in an international study) for each gender is where it splits. For females, 7-9 are things like hardworking, savings account, etc. For males, 7-9 are all regarding looks.
So while the importance of money and sexiness are different for each gender, they are not the first thing that either gender looks for in the other.