Master Dating Thread

[meow meow]

so you go out for dinner/drinks with other couples, and the check comes and you ask them to split it?  what in the world

[420seriouscat69]

so you go out for dinner/drinks with other couples, and the check comes and you ask them to split it?  what in the world

No. When we're in front of ppl, I always buy, but if it's just us, sometimes we split it.

[420seriouscat69]

I know it's dumb, guys. I know, I know, I know.

[Mrs. Gooch]

I know it's dumb, guys. I know, I know, I know.

How do you pay your bills?

[420seriouscat69]

I know it's dumb, guys. I know, I know, I know.

How do you pay your bills?

She pays them and then I write her a check down the middle.

[meow meow]

do you plan on writing your wife checks for half of the water bill for the rest of your life?  what happens when you have kids?  their expenses split down the middle?  she buys Junior some school clothes and then leaves an invoice on your pillow the next morning?

[Emo EMAW]

Hey wacky we kinda do things the same way, but differently.  We have a joint bank account (credit union really) and there are multiple sub accounts.  One common bills, one for me, one for her, one for savings, and some others.

So like bills get written off the bills one, and we each dump equal monies into that account.  Same goes with the savings, we both make committments and contribute equally.  The individual accounts are for us to maintain our own economies.

Also, we have a shared credit card.  So like dinner out goes on that card.  If we take one vehicle on a road trip, the gas goes on that card.  So it's kinda like how you two do it, only the administrative hassle is less (card is paid from the joint bills account), and we don't have to look silly asking waiters to split checks.

[420seriouscat69]

We'll have a joint account when we get married. I'm tight with my money and she spends hers a little more loosely. She doesn't have student loans like I have to worry about.

[420seriouscat69]

Hey wacky we kinda do things the same way, but differently.  We have a joint bank account (credit union really) and there are multiple sub accounts.  One common bills, one for me, one for her, one for savings, and some others.

So like bills get written off the bills one, and we each dump equal monies into that account.  Same goes with the savings, we both make committments and contribute equally.  The individual accounts are for us to maintain our own economies.

Also, we have a shared credit card.  So like dinner out goes on that card.  If we take one vehicle on a road trip, the gas goes on that card.  So it's kinda like how you two do it, only the administrative hassle is less (card is paid from the joint bills account), and we don't have to look silly asking waiters to split checks.

Yeah, that's where we are headed. I probably should take this to the credit card thread, but we both have a southwest card. Can't we just combined ours into one? @stevedave

[Mrs. Gooch]

Hey wacky we kinda do things the same way, but differently.  We have a joint bank account (credit union really) and there are multiple sub accounts.  One common bills, one for me, one for her, one for savings, and some others.

So like bills get written off the bills one, and we each dump equal monies into that account.  Same goes with the savings, we both make committments and contribute equally.  The individual accounts are for us to maintain our own economies.

Also, we have a shared credit card.  So like dinner out goes on that card.  If we take one vehicle on a road trip, the gas goes on that card.  So it's kinda like how you two do it, only the administrative hassle is less (card is paid from the joint bills account), and we don't have to look silly asking waiters to split checks.

Yeah, that's where we are headed. I probably should take this to the credit card thread, but we both have a southwest card. Can't we just combined ours into one? @stevedave

Just cancel one and put the other person as an authorized user on the one you keep.

[420seriouscat69]

  Can I rollover the points?

[meow meow]

it's probably best they keep their points separate, why would they want to pool their resources together, what a silly premise.

[420seriouscat69]

it's probably best they keep their points separate, why would they want to pool their resources together, what a silly premise.

Until it's official, why would I do that? Just saying...

[420seriouscat69]

@gELawyers

[Emo EMAW]

I wonder if anyone has ever listed their points/miles in a divorce hearing?

[Mrs. Gooch]

Can I rollover the points?

I'm not sure if you can combine them, but even if you cancel the credit card you still keep your SW Rewards account with the points.

[steve dave]

idiots

[Mrs. Gooch]

I wonder if anyone has ever listed their points/miles in a divorce hearing?

I remember in Wedding Crashers when they are negotiating for that divorcing couple one of the points of contention was airline miles. 

[lopakman]

I think it's smart to each have a separate account when you get married.  For the past decade Ms. lopak and I each have had our own slush checking account.  Each month $400 is transferred into our individual accounts from our joint account and we can use it for whatever we want.  That way she can't get mad when I spend $150.00 on a bottle of scotch and I can't say anything when she spends $20.00 for a single bar of soap.  It's strictly for selfish discretionary purposes only.  Everything else is out of joint.

[Mrs. Gooch]

How do you decide what is selfish discretionary spending and what is not?

Is gas money discretionary? You need it to get to work, but what if you have to drive all over town and then the KC and back to find your bottle of scotch? Do you have to then make sure to use your discretionary spending account to buy that gas but not regular gas for getting to work?

I would argue that soap is a necessity.

I'm not knocking anyone's system if it works for them, just pointing out the complications and sort of arbitrary buckets of spending.

[lopakman]

How do you decide what is selfish discretionary spending and what is not?

Is gas money discretionary? You need it to get to work, but what if you have to drive all over town and then the KC and back to find your bottle of scotch? Do you have to then make sure to use your discretionary spending account to buy that gas but not regular gas for getting to work?

I would argue that soap is a necessity.

I'm not knocking anyone's system if it works for them, just pointing out the complications and sort of arbitrary buckets of spending.

We don't get petty over it and just kind of use common sense like "hey do I/we really need this or is this just something I want."  Gas is not discretionary (even when I drive to Manhattan) 

I went on a bachelor party a few weeks ago and dropped $250.00 on booze and hotel.  I paid for that out of my personal account because I thought that was the right thing to do. Plus then I didn't have to worry about a budget.  If I wanted to I could have spent more. 

It was honestly more for when we were younger and didn't have as much money.  Now it's kind of an afterthought.  I've got $5,000 in my personal account and don't know what to do with it. 

Soap is a necessity, a single bar of facial soap which sells for $20.00 is not.  You want soap, fine go get some Irish Spring. 

[mocat]

lopakman that sounds incredibly miserable

[lopakman]

I'm not sure why never fighting over money would sound miserable?

[steve dave]

we never fight about money and we have one joint account and spend whatever we want

[Gooch]

@gELawyers

Your're already mumped. Kansas recognizes common law marriage.