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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #100 on: July 31, 2014, 04:50:50 PM »
Emo, I think we'd get along famously IRL.


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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #101 on: July 31, 2014, 08:36:45 PM »
I got married at 22 and it has been a good life choice.  I didn't marry some loser like some others apparently though so that probably made a difference.

Who got divorced WM?  MHS alums?

The two divorces that sparked this thread are both out-of-stat'rs. In both cases, the hubby pushed to have a kid, then the kid came, then the hubby left shortly thereafter. In both cases, the hubby basically didn't communicate to the wife that he was unhappy until he asked for the divorce--which is pretty terrible. One of my IRL buds (not j rake) said there should be a three-year waiting period after you have a kid before you can get divorced, which I think would have made a huge difference for both of these couples.

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-@Pete is right--there is some research that shows that overall, family/friends do a better job of picking a long-term mate for a person than that person does for themselves.
-Sounds like goEMAW honorary =Mod?= GOSP had a "starter marriage." It's obviously not ideal, but I know several old people who had starter marriages w/out kids, got divorced, and had long and happy second marriages/families.
-Agree with all the good posters on here who disagree with the "don't get married until you're thirty" stuff. Like Kat Kid, I married a total babe who rules at life in my early twenties, which has proven to be an awesome decision. I can't imagine in any way that my twenties would have been better w/out her, or if we had been together but waited to get married.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #102 on: July 31, 2014, 08:38:50 PM »
hubby is a hateable word and people that use it are hateable
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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #103 on: July 31, 2014, 09:14:19 PM »
hubby is a hateable word and people that use it are hateable

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #104 on: July 31, 2014, 09:20:44 PM »
hubby is a hateable word and people that use it are hateable

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I expected something like that from seven, but that hurts coming from poster mocat, one of WonderMeal's favorites on this entire blog.
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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #105 on: July 31, 2014, 09:39:23 PM »
Sorry wonder meal, it's just my mom says it a lot, ick right

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #106 on: July 31, 2014, 09:41:46 PM »
which is worse: a person calling his/her spouse hubby or wifey?
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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #107 on: July 31, 2014, 09:46:43 PM »
Hubby is worse, both are disgusting
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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #108 on: July 31, 2014, 09:47:12 PM »
Old lady is the absolute worst.


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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #109 on: July 31, 2014, 09:51:17 PM »
hubby is a hateable word and people that use it are hateable

Yeah

I expected something like that from seven, but that hurts coming from poster mocat, one of WonderMeal's favorites on this entire blog.
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 :frown: I specifically reworded my post away from "I hate people who say hubby" to respect the wondermeal
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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #110 on: July 31, 2014, 09:52:38 PM »
People who say hubby are just really sensitive. Not your fault.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #111 on: July 31, 2014, 09:59:15 PM »
Being married isn't that difficult. Find someone who makes you laugh/laughs at your stupid jokes and isn't a huge pain in the ass and you're set.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #112 on: July 31, 2014, 10:12:54 PM »
"Hey honey, did you here about those dudes that died really sad deaths?"
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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #113 on: July 31, 2014, 11:20:34 PM »
"Hey honey, did you here about those dudes that died really sad deaths?"
 "Hahahaha"


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slobber! yes!
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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #114 on: July 31, 2014, 11:29:24 PM »

"Hey honey, did you here about those dudes that died really sad deaths?"
 "Hahahaha"


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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #115 on: July 31, 2014, 11:58:40 PM »
The advice about not setting some arbitrary age on it was very good advice IMO

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #116 on: August 01, 2014, 12:02:45 AM »
Old lady is the absolute worst.


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Old lady is indeed the worst. Unless you're a hard core biker, which I am not. Their use of the term is accepted within their ranks for whatever lame reason.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #117 on: August 01, 2014, 12:08:03 AM »
Old lady is the absolute worst.


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Old lady is indeed the worst. Unless you're a hard core biker, which I am not. Their use of the term is accepted within their ranks for whatever lame reason.

There are lots of groups that endorse using terrible terms to describe people, doesn't make it socially/morally acceptable imo.
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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #118 on: August 01, 2014, 07:51:03 AM »
I married my now ex-wife when I was 23 and she was 21. I took into consideration the whole "don't get married before..." but was of the opinion stated recently here, that we laughed at each other's jokes, had the same messed up sense of humor, and many others along the lines of career goals, socioeconomic views, etc. But then the unthinkable happened and I was medically discharged from the Navy after a couple shoulder injuries. Once those amazing benefits and paychecks stopped rolling in I saw a new person, not the one I married. Tried for the next 2 1/2 years to make it work (while working 40hrs a week, 15hrs of college/semester and helping raise a newborn) but that wasn't good enough apparently. She cheated. She filed for divorce. I was stupid. Won't happen again.

Long story short, you can THINK you know someone, THINK you've got it all figured out, and even THINK you're doing everything you can to make someone happy... and you can still be dead rough ridin' wrong. Live and learn, I guess!  :driving: moving on to better things!

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #119 on: August 01, 2014, 08:15:29 AM »
I call mrs. dave hun' like a waitress at a truckstop would call everyone. it started as a joke but then it stuck. I'm sure it sounds ridiculous to everyone that hears me say it.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #120 on: August 01, 2014, 08:34:01 AM »
I refer to Mrs. Deputy Dawg as "my charming wife" when speaking about her to 3rd parties, and do it sincerely.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #121 on: August 01, 2014, 08:38:35 AM »
marriage is a coin flip these days.

though divorce isn't as white and midwesterny as it is in other areas.

I went out to eat the other day and sat near an older couple Late 40's ish and they didn't say a word to each other the whole time we were sitting near them.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #122 on: August 01, 2014, 10:06:24 AM »
marriage is a coin flip these days.

though divorce isn't as white and midwesterny as it is in other areas.

I went out to eat the other day and sat near an older couple Late 40's ish and they didn't say a word to each other the whole time we were sitting near them.

Sometimes love is being able to sit with your spouse and enjoy a meal without saying a damn thing.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #123 on: August 01, 2014, 10:29:21 AM »
I haven't experienced the no talking thing yet.  Sounds horrible.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #124 on: August 01, 2014, 10:45:07 AM »
I call mrs. dave hun' like a waitress at a truckstop would call everyone. it started as a joke but then it stuck. I'm sure it sounds ridiculous to everyone that hears me say it.

Yeah, gotta be careful there.  I'm friends with a couple who started calling each other "shmoopy" in a fake-lovey way as a complete joke when they started dating, and now they're married and it's actually what they call each other.

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