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Title: The Divorce Thread
Post by: WonderMeal on July 30, 2014, 06:34:19 PM
Hey fellow CatFans, happily married WonderMeal here.

In the past few months, several dads I have known with relatively newborn kids (<18 months) have filed for divorce. And in each instance, the mom and kids have moved back in with their parents. I mean, who does that, right? Are people really that bad at picking a spouse that they have to get divorced less than a year (or less than 2 months!) after having a kid?

What I'm saying is that this is a ComboFanning thread to talk about divorce. Yours, your friend's, your parents'...whatever.

Go 'Cats.
Title: The Divorce Thread
Post by: steve dave on July 30, 2014, 06:37:35 PM
Am friends with a shockingly few number of divorcees. I know a ton but of my 100'ish closest friends only one comes to mind. I guess 1/2 or more of those 100'ish are single though.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: libstradamus on July 30, 2014, 06:38:36 PM
People change
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: nicname on July 30, 2014, 06:41:24 PM
Am friends with a shockingly few number of divorcees. I know a ton but of my 100'ish closest friends only one comes to mind. I guess 1/2 or more of those 100'ish are single though.

100 is a lot of friends. You're very popular sd.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: j-dub on July 30, 2014, 06:45:46 PM
got lots of married friends. only 1 has gotten divorced.

it's really shitty man.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: cDubya on July 30, 2014, 06:47:15 PM
Divorced here.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: chum1 on July 30, 2014, 07:11:29 PM
I read that divorce rates are way down in the past decade or so. Like, from 50% to 25% or so.

My sister is on her 3rd marriage. I don't know, but my guess is that's because she's spoiled and doesn't really work hard at anything.

I recently watched Take This Waltz, which features a gal who decides to get divorced.

One idea expressed by that movie is that the gal who wanted to leave her tired, old relationship behind for an exciting new one eventually found herself in another tired, old relationship.

I've had that same idea myself, so I thought the movie made a good point.

I once knew a couple who got divorced and then the guy came out.

I once knew a (different) couple who got divorced and then the girl came out.

That's all I've got.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: libstradamus on July 30, 2014, 07:18:00 PM
My parents divorced after 30 years, it has bettered both of their lives
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: michigancat on July 30, 2014, 07:21:58 PM
people should have kids before they get married so they'll know if they like each other.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Daddy Claxton on July 30, 2014, 07:29:21 PM
My parents divorced after 30 years, it has bettered both of their lives
My parents divorced after 25 yrs and the summer before I started at Ksu. Both are in much better place, personally, than they would have,  but the relationships among the rest of the family are messed up to say the least. My bro is going through his second divorce and IMO it's due to him being messed up from my parents divorce.

Picking a spouse is really effing hard.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: AppleJack on July 30, 2014, 07:31:32 PM
I have a half-sister. What does everyone think of that?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: puniraptor on July 30, 2014, 07:36:17 PM
I have a half-sister. What does everyone think of that?
Which half?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: CNS on July 30, 2014, 07:56:34 PM
Dad is saying vowes to number 4 in a little while.  Parents got divorced when I was 11.  Even then I recognized it as a very good thing. 

As far as my contemporaries go, none are divorced.  Most got married in very late twenties.  Most are very happy. 

A bunch of my friends are products of a divorced family.  Maybe they took their parents example as what not to do?  Maybe my crew hasn't hit the midlife crisis part of existence yet since they started married life almost a decade later than their parents?

I have been married 12yrs.  CNSWife is my BFF.  The thought of divorce makes me super sad.  Especially with kids involved.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: WonderMeal on July 30, 2014, 08:05:18 PM
I totally get the idea of divorce--even if kids are a little older. I had a divorced Grandma, and it was awesome for her because she married a total BITB stud.

What I don't get is when decide to have a kid, and then less than two months (!) later are like, "Man, I can't sleep and my wife is kind of cranky. I'm outta here!"  :buh-bye:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: wetwillie on July 30, 2014, 08:25:59 PM
My sister in law is getting divorced.  This divorce was inevitable from the beginning and a surprise to just about no one though.  Amazing how petty grown people get when it comes to divorce though. 
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: libstradamus on July 30, 2014, 08:38:59 PM
I totally get the idea of divorce--even if kids are a little older. I had a divorced Grandma, and it was awesome for her because she married a total BITB stud.

What I don't get is when decide to have a kid, and then less than two months (!) later are like, "Man, I can't sleep and my wife is kind of cranky. I'm outta here!"  :buh-bye:

I think you are making this up cause I've never heard of it happening before
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Emo EMAW on July 30, 2014, 08:53:08 PM
Anyone ever divorced the same broad more than once?  That's a trip I bet.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Daddy Claxton on July 30, 2014, 08:56:12 PM
Anyone ever divorced the same broad more than once?  That's a trip I bet.

My bro broke off 2 engagements with the same girl. That is apart from his 2 divorces. I still (kinda) blame it on my parents being divorced.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: CNS on July 30, 2014, 08:59:51 PM
Cop out.  No offense
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Daddy Claxton on July 30, 2014, 09:01:26 PM
 Ultimately, it's his own fault. My folks getting divorced really messed him up, tho
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: CNS on July 30, 2014, 09:04:45 PM
Two failed engagements and two failed marriages.   At some point a guy should be able to understand, get some therapy, and avoid the thing he sucks at until he atleast understands it. 

My parents divorce f'ed my older bro up, so I realize it is super easy to say and something else to do, but that or failure are really the only two options.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Spracne on July 30, 2014, 09:18:15 PM
Divorces are hilarious.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Daddy Claxton on July 30, 2014, 09:35:16 PM
Two failed engagements and two failed marriages.   At some point a guy should be able to understand, get some therapy, and avoid the thing he sucks at until he atleast understands it. 

My parents divorce f'ed my older bro up, so I realize it is super easy to say and something else to do, but that or failure are really the only two options.
I think we pretty much agree. My bro's character flaws were there no matter if my parents divorced.

My only point was, in response to seven's valid point that his parent's divorce was for the best, is that divorce still takes a toll on the family.

I love seeing my dad happier than he ever would have been with my mom but that's tempered when I see the how much my bro was (and still is) hurt by it.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: libstradamus on July 30, 2014, 09:43:19 PM
i was 28 when it happened, so like, i didn't really care too much
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: slobber on July 30, 2014, 10:08:26 PM

Divorces are hilarious.
I :lol:

(Not even certain that was the intent)


Gonna win 'em all!
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: slobber on July 30, 2014, 10:09:57 PM

i was 28 when it happened, so like, i didn't really care too much
You really didn't care? It seems like I would care no matter how old they were or I was.

(Serious)


Gonna win 'em all!
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: The Tonya Harding of Twitter Users Creep on July 30, 2014, 10:16:28 PM
Have divorced parents. I turned out alright and my parents both still love me and are friends with each other. Hell, they live in the same neighborhood. Hard to think they were ever married to each other now.

Not all divorces are messy. But yeah, having kids changes the game. So does living together, I guess...

One thing it's taught me is that I have to be very careful about who I choose to marry. Date, move in together, get engaged... Really take things slowly and make sure marriage makes sense for us and not other people or religion or sex or any other dumb reason people get married too soon for.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: michigancat on July 30, 2014, 10:22:19 PM
Everyone's upbringing has an effect on how they act as adults.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: libstradamus on July 30, 2014, 10:25:03 PM

i was 28 when it happened, so like, i didn't really care too much
You really didn't care? It seems like I would care no matter how old they were or I was.

(Serious)


Gonna win 'em all!

no, it didn't bother me at all.  it was a little uncomfortable when they started dating new people, but that went away pretty quickly
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: cfbandyman on July 30, 2014, 10:28:12 PM
Very fortunate that my parents are still together after 31 years and still going strong, and more adorable by the year. But, outside of that the rest of my family is pretty messy. My mom's older brother is like the worst at it and I feel almost intentionally. He has been married at least 5 times, about to be married this fall, again, and has so many gfs in between that at any family gathering it's always someone different. It literally is a dark humor running joke at who my uncle is going to bring next Christmas or Thanksgiving. And the worst is the type of women he gets with, generally good natured women who have just gotten through a divorce of their own. He is like the ultimate rebounder guy who marries them, and then leaves/divorces them after like a year. It's awful to watch and really hard on my two cousins (his sons). He divorced their mom when both were like 8 and 6 i think.

One of his sons has had a kid with a women who wanted to be with him and then just used him to get pregnant, and has also been married and divorce to a women who essentially ended up hating that my cousin had said kid. That cousin though is kind of a loose cannon and easy to fool at times but no one deserves that kind of crap. The other cousin basically deals with it by walking the tightest line with his wife and new son as possible, so that's good but it's hard on him.

My mom's younger sister is almost the female version of their older brother except after the few marriages and divorces and bfs in between she has at least been with the guy she's currently married for about 8 years, so I guess it worked out, but of course it hurt her two daughters, she divorced their dad also at like when they were 8 and 6.

And to top it off their mom and dad, my grandpa and grandma divorced after 40 years. I remember it and it hurt me cause we were a pretty close family, not in the way if it was my mom and dad. I guess I still can't understand how you divorce someone after so long, but all my mom says is that "they got tired of each other" which I guess can happen, just it added and new layer of effing my mom, my two uncles and my aunt. 

And that's just my mom's side, my dad side's not as bad but I can't even explain it mostly cause I don't know them (they all live in Montana-Wyoming-Idaho) and most of those issues revolve around dealing with reclusive and bitter sibling rivalries rather than divorces. Long story short, divorce sucks especially when kids are involved, and while it's usually better for the people involved to live apart it creates and awful mess.
Title: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Pete on July 30, 2014, 10:35:11 PM
This sort of thing is way, way more horrible and complicated than anyone will ever know, until one is faced with it.  Only then can you begin to empathize.

Very few enter into marriage thinking "it won't work out."

I used to "assume" and make judgments about others' situations.  I was wrong to do so.  Very wrong.  It can be a soul crushing event.


I've stood on that precipice.   It's a horrible place, and I'm very thankful I am not there now.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Spracne on July 30, 2014, 10:53:16 PM
Everyone's upbringing has an effect on how they act as adults.

Hey, slow down there, chief...
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: EMAWmeister on July 30, 2014, 10:56:58 PM
My grandparents got divorced when my mom was 40. My grandpa's next girlfriend was 38  :horrorsurprise:



This was 10 years ago, so she's obviously over it now. I was a little worried for a while that it's what would happen with my parents, but they are a year from being empty nesters and doing better than ever I feel.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: SkinnyBenny on July 30, 2014, 11:02:13 PM
And that's just my mom's side, my dad side's not as bad but I can't even explain it mostly cause I don't know them (they all live in Montana-Wyoming-Idaho).

Take it to the vision quest thread :love:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: the_ugly_clown on July 31, 2014, 07:24:22 AM
Anyone ever divorced the same broad more than once?  That's a trip I bet.

I have a co-worker (female) who has done this.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on July 31, 2014, 08:38:50 AM
My parents have been divorced for pretty much my whole life - from as early as my earliest memories. My dad comes to the Thanksgiving/Christmas family gatherings of my mom's family though.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: WackyCat08 on July 31, 2014, 08:41:51 AM
Everyone's upbringing has an effect on how they act as adults.
Hmmm. My parents have been married since they were 17/18. Is that why I've tried to stay single for so long?  :dunno:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: steve dave on July 31, 2014, 08:42:49 AM
Everyone's upbringing has an effect on how they act as adults.
Hmmm. My parents have been married since they were 17/18. Is that why I've tried to stay single for so long?  :dunno:

maybe wc, maybe
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: j rake on July 31, 2014, 08:57:51 AM
if life expectancy was something normal like it was back in the 1800s (40 to 50 yrs old), it would be much easier for people in their 20s and 30s to stick it out and try to make their marriage work. but anymore, with life expectancy being what it is (many of us will live until we're 100), i think lots of couples cut their losses and move onto the next one.

i'm in favor of reforming our current divorce laws. if you stay with someone for 25-plus years and have no children under age 18, you should be able to opt out without penalty or threat of losing assets, income, etc. the idea of "till death do us part" is great, but again, that's when life expectancy was something reasonable. who here wants to marry someone at age 25 and live with them for 75 years. that's horrifying!
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Rage Against the McKee on July 31, 2014, 09:06:19 AM
if life expectancy was something normal like it was back in the 1800s (40 to 50 yrs old), it would be much easier for people in their 20s and 30s to stick it out and try to make their marriage work. but anymore, with life expectancy being what it is (many of us will live until we're 100), i think lots of couples cut their losses and move onto the next one.

i'm in favor of reforming our current divorce laws. if you stay with someone for 25-plus years and have no children under age 18, you should be able to opt out without penalty or threat of losing assets, income, etc. the idea of "till death do us part" is great, but again, that's when life expectancy was something reasonable. who here wants to marry someone at age 25 and live with them for 75 years. that's horrifying!

How do you determine which assets belong to who, though? Seems like losing half of your assets is the only fair way to do it.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: steve dave on July 31, 2014, 09:08:44 AM
OT but imagine a J Rake engagement/marriage/family thread and all the "what do I do in this situation!?" lols.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: slobber on July 31, 2014, 09:10:26 AM
75 years with my wife seems awesome.


Gonna win 'em all!
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Rage Against the McKee on July 31, 2014, 09:11:35 AM
OT but imagine a J Rake engagement/marriage/family thread and all the "what do I do in this situation!?" lols.

"Should I tip extra for having a baby at the table? The baby didn't eat or drink any of the restaurant food, but they did have to bring the high chair out to the table."

 :love:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: steve dave on July 31, 2014, 09:14:05 AM
j rake, it would infuriate sys like nothing else you could do if you had, like, 10 kids. so take that into consideraiton.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: mocat on July 31, 2014, 09:18:19 AM
if life expectancy was something normal like it was back in the 1800s (40 to 50 yrs old), it would be much easier for people in their 20s and 30s to stick it out and try to make their marriage work. but anymore, with life expectancy being what it is (many of us will live until we're 100), i think lots of couples cut their losses and move onto the next one.

i'm in favor of reforming our current divorce laws. if you stay with someone for 25-plus years and have no children under age 18, you should be able to opt out without penalty or threat of losing assets, income, etc. the idea of "till death do us part" is great, but again, that's when life expectancy was something reasonable. who here wants to marry someone at age 25 and live with them for 75 years. that's horrifying!

seems like a pretty sexist law amendment you're talking about
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Dugout DickStone on July 31, 2014, 09:37:53 AM
Have 2 great bros who are divorced.  Both because they got married too young, IMO
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: CNS on July 31, 2014, 09:55:58 AM
Have 2 great bros who are divorced.  Both because they got married too young, IMO

How young is too young?  Do you mean that they were too imature(not meant in neg connotation) at the time?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Emo EMAW on July 31, 2014, 09:57:07 AM
True love is hard to find, guys.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Pete on July 31, 2014, 10:06:37 AM
True love is hard to find, guys.

Not really sure that's the right recipe anyway.  Lot of Indians I know seem to be pretty darn happy with their arranged marriages.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: j-dub on July 31, 2014, 10:11:08 AM
love is a choice. it's something you choose, it doesn't just happen to you. a lot of people don't get that and are too selfish for marriage.



Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Panjandrum on July 31, 2014, 10:11:50 AM
The first year with a kid can be hard.  My wife and I were in the worst spot of our marriage about 9-12 months after my first was born.  I don't think it was ever really super serious, and we worked through it pretty quickly, but things took a pretty sharp downturn fast.

There were a lot of contributing factors, and some of them were out of our control.  However, we really worked on those that were in our control and got things back on track a few months later.  The biggest thing was me really cutting the work travel back so I could spend more time with her and my oldest son.

I don't think the kid is the cause of the issues.  The child is simply an amplifier for things that you don't agree on.  If you aren't on the same page financially, politically, religiously, etc. it can cause a huge issue because it always goes back to, "Is that how you want to raise our child?" 

In all honesty, and I hate saying this (but we say it to each other), but my wife's cancer played a huge part in getting us to our current point, which is the strongest we've ever been.  Going through something like that, with young kids, and not a lot of close family and friends living near you forces you to rely on each other.  We spent the better part of a year team-working everything.  She even said a few months ago that she never really could have known how much I loved her until I supported her through that whole thing.

Aside from my kids, my wife is my favorite person in the world.  I adore the crap out of her. 

Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: j-dub on July 31, 2014, 10:13:02 AM
The first year with a kid can be hard.  My wife and I were in the worst spot of our marriage about 9-12 months after my first was born.  I don't think it was ever really super serious, and we worked through it pretty quickly, but things took a pretty sharp downturn fast.

There were a lot of contributing factors, and some of them were out of our control.  However, we really worked on those that were in our control and got things back on track a few months later.  The biggest thing was me really cutting the work travel back so I could spend more time with her and my oldest son.

I don't think the kid is the cause of the issues.  The child is simply an amplifier for things that you don't agree on.  If you aren't on the same page financially, politically, religiously, etc. it can cause a huge issue because it always goes back to, "Is that how you want to raise our child?" 

In all honesty, and I hate saying this (but we say it to each other), but my wife's cancer played a huge part in getting us to our current point, which is the strongest we've ever been.  Going through something like that, with young kids, and not a lot of close family and friends living near you forces you to rely on each other.  We spent the better part of a year team-working everything.  She even said a few months ago that she never really could have known how much I loved her until I supported her through that whole thing.

Aside from my kids, my wife is my favorite person in the world.  I adore the crap out of her.

you're awesome pan.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Panjandrum on July 31, 2014, 10:14:36 AM
you're awesome pan.

Nope.  I just lucked into meeting an awesome girl 12 years ago and hung on for dear life.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on July 31, 2014, 10:15:18 AM
Hey fellow CatFans, happily married WonderMeal here.

In the past few months, several dads I have known with relatively newborn kids (<18 months) have filed for divorce. And in each instance, the mom and kids have moved back in with their parents. I mean, who does that, right? Are people really that bad at picking a spouse that they have to get divorced less than a year (or less than 2 months!) after having a kid?

What I'm saying is that this is a ComboFanning thread to talk about divorce. Yours, your friend's, your parents'...whatever.

Go 'Cats.

Just another reason not to have kids.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: WackyCat08 on July 31, 2014, 10:17:47 AM
Sometimes kids can help save a marriage while they're isolated and living in the middle of nowhere with their first job out of college.  :peek: I call it the Thanksgiving miracle. My dad still thanks me to this day for it. They needed a 3rd party to tell them what each was doing to create the mess.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Matt Mckee on July 31, 2014, 10:18:55 AM
Got married when I was 23.  I don't know if I was too young as much as it was that we went too fast.  We dated about 4 months before she moved in and we got married about 6 months later. Divorced 2 years later. We had some problems before we got married but foolishly we thought they would resolve themselves if we were married. No kids, thankfully.  We probably would have tried harder to make it work if there had been kids.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: The Tonya Harding of Twitter Users Creep on July 31, 2014, 10:20:18 AM
did you guys know that if your parents get divorced you get 2 christmases? i mean holy crap. talk about hitting the jackpot.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: j rake on July 31, 2014, 10:24:18 AM
OT but imagine a J Rake engagement/marriage/family thread and all the "what do I do in this situation!?" lols.

had to speak at a wedding a few years ago for a friend of mine. was told afterward: "it's a toast, not a roast."

definitely should have asked here first.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Panjandrum on July 31, 2014, 10:26:16 AM
OT but imagine a J Rake engagement/marriage/family thread and all the "what do I do in this situation!?" lols.

had to speak at a wedding a few years ago for a friend of mine. was told afterward: "it's a toast, not a roast."

definitely should have asked here first.

People take weddings too seriously.

It was probably hilarious, and most folks in the audience probably enjoyed it.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: j rake on July 31, 2014, 10:27:02 AM
How do you determine which assets belong to who, though? Seems like losing half of your assets is the only fair way to do it.

fight for it. winner takes all.

don't like it, don't get divorced.

Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: AppleJack on July 31, 2014, 10:41:04 AM
cohabitation is pretty neat guys.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Emo EMAW on July 31, 2014, 10:43:01 AM
True love is hard to find, guys.

Not really sure that's the right recipe anyway.  Lot of Indians I know seem to be pretty darn happy with their arranged marriages.

Swing and a miss.  First base coach gives you the "wtf are you doing" stare.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: WackyCat08 on July 31, 2014, 10:47:38 AM
Divorce scares me. Mainly cause i've never seen it through my initial family. Like all the way through to my grandparents. I've dated ppl who've experienced it a lot and that has always made me nervous for some reason. Like, from what they've seen, they might think that's a viable option down the road if stuff hits the fan. I also know how naive that thought process is, cause it could work totally opposite of that, those experiences might make them want to never experience that themselves. 
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Panjandrum on July 31, 2014, 10:52:56 AM
True love is hard to find, guys.

Not really sure that's the right recipe anyway.  Lot of Indians I know seem to be pretty darn happy with their arranged marriages.

Swing and a miss.  First base coach gives you the "wtf are you doing" stare.

1) Pete is absolutely right

2) If you make a decision that you want a partner, you need to look at compatibility as your primary driver.  And compatibility is a pretty subjective term.  However, in my limited experience, my wife and I couldn't be more different across the board.  However, we have both acknowledged the following things:

* We are absolutely on the same page regarding religion (both not religious)
* Both on the same page politically...for the most part
* Both on the same page financially
* We are each other's physical "type"
* We share a very similar sense of humor

Aside from those five things, we are polar opposites.  But those core things contribute to compatibility.  If people get married for "love", they're almost destined to fail.  Marriage is partially about love.  A lot of people still love each other after they're divorced.  They just can't live together.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Ghost of Stan Parrish on July 31, 2014, 10:53:10 AM
Safest thing I think is not to get married before age 30.  That's when you really know who you're going to be, IMHO.

I got married at 25 and was married for 5 years.  I'm still friendly with my ex, but there we no kids.  With kids in the picture, it gets so much harder.  Oddly, when I got divorced New York (where I live) was the only state in the U.S. that did not allow no-fault divorce.  You either had to have cause (abuse, etc.) or wait a year after signing a separation agreement.  I actually think waiting a year with the separation agreement in place is a good thing, although now NO state requires it and every state allows no-fault divorce.  I think it SHOULD be hard to get a divorce.

Sometimes, though, divorce is the right thing for the couple: my mom had a bad (short) first marriage and then married my dad.  They've been together happily for decades.  But my older bro, who was born during my mom's first marriage, was a bit messed up by it.  He'll never get married.  It IS hard on kids, and that really is something else you need to think about before a divorce.

Bottom line, I guess: don't rush into marriage.  Take it real DAMN serious.

On a related note, it's a terrible idea to date a recently-divorced person.  I've been that guy, and then later I dated a girl in that position.  Folks coming out of divorces aren't always in their right minds.

Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: steve dave on July 31, 2014, 10:56:01 AM
good advice gosp
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Emo EMAW on July 31, 2014, 11:00:16 AM
True love is hard to find, guys.

Not really sure that's the right recipe anyway.  Lot of Indians I know seem to be pretty darn happy with their arranged marriages.

Swing and a miss.  First base coach gives you the "wtf are you doing" stare.

1) Pete is absolutely right

2) If you make a decision that you want a partner, you need to look at compatibility as your primary driver.  And compatibility is a pretty subjective term.  However, in my limited experience, my wife and I couldn't be more different across the board.  However, we have both acknowledged the following things:

* We are absolutely on the same page regarding religion (both not religious)
* Both on the same page politically...for the most part
* Both on the same page financially
* We are each other's physical "type"
* We share a very similar sense of humor

Aside from those five things, we are polar opposites.  But those core things contribute to compatibility.  If people get married for "love", they're almost destined to fail.  Marriage is partially about love.  A lot of people still love each other after they're divorced.  They just can't live together.

Guys I was just quoting my good buddy Mitch.

(http://images.fanpop.com/images/image_uploads/Old-School-luke-wilson-252947_480_272.jpg)
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: michigancat on July 31, 2014, 11:02:45 AM
Everyone's upbringing has an effect on how they act as adults.

Hey, slow down there, chief...

It seems like a simple thing, but people always dismiss upbringing as a factor in how people live their lives (as evidenced in this thread). No, a mumped up childhood isn't an "excuse" for not being good with relationships as an adult, but it's a factor that definitely makes it harder for some people.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Spracne on July 31, 2014, 11:34:11 AM
Everyone's upbringing has an effect on how they act as adults.

Hey, slow down there, chief...

It seems like a simple thing, but people always dismiss upbringing as a factor in how people live their lives (as evidenced in this thread). No, a mumped up childhood isn't an "excuse" for not being good with relationships as an adult, but it's a factor that definitely makes it harder for some people.

Take it to the Say Something Noncontroversial thread.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: deputy dawg on July 31, 2014, 12:13:53 PM
Men are always, regardless of actual circumstances, regarded as the bad person in a divorce. 
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: CNS on July 31, 2014, 12:22:54 PM
Getting married before 30 seems to be getting a bad rep.  I imagine a bunch of 50yr olds would tell you that you don't know who you are until you are in your late 40's. 
If you are good friends with your partner, know them well, and are willing to grow and evolve as a partnership, age doesn't matter at all.

Divorce is not always just the product of someone being a shitty husband/wife, but often of someone being a shitty friend.   
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: steve dave on July 31, 2014, 12:31:38 PM
I got married at 24. so far so good.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Stevesie60 on July 31, 2014, 12:35:31 PM
My experience has been that you know when you know. I think if you have this plan to date this long, be engaged this long, live together this long, etc. then you're just going to follow that plan with someone no matter if it feels right. But when you meet someone and you think "I need to marry this girl (or guy) ASAP, the timeline I had in mind is stupid" then you're in the money.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Kat Kid on July 31, 2014, 12:36:33 PM
I got married at 22 and it has been a good life choice.  I didn't marry some loser like some others apparently though so that probably made a difference.

Who got divorced WM?  MHS alums?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Dr Rick Daris on July 31, 2014, 12:45:34 PM
so gosp has been married before? man you learn something new every day on here. her loss, obviously.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Emo EMAW on July 31, 2014, 12:46:42 PM
Men are always, regardless of actual circumstances, regarded as the bad person in a divorce.

I don't think that's true at all.  I don't know many dudes who have been divorced but of those that I do it sounded like, generally speaking, they married crazy bitches.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on July 31, 2014, 12:48:11 PM
Men are always, regardless of actual circumstances, regarded as the bad person in a divorce.

I don't think that's true at all.  I don't know many dudes who have been divorced but of those that I do it sounded like, generally speaking, they married crazy bitches.

It is always the one you aren't friends with that was the crazy bad person that caused the divorce.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Emo EMAW on July 31, 2014, 12:50:22 PM
Men are always, regardless of actual circumstances, regarded as the bad person in a divorce.

I don't think that's true at all.  I don't know many dudes who have been divorced but of those that I do it sounded like, generally speaking, they married crazy bitches.

It is always the one you aren't friends with that was the crazy bad person that caused the divorce.

Sounds like deputy dawg is not friends with lots of divorced people.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: slobber on July 31, 2014, 12:56:21 PM
If only men would marry from the correct quadrant:
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Gonna win 'em all!
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Cartierfor3 on July 31, 2014, 01:14:39 PM
Honestly saying "don't get married until you're 30" or something like that is pretty naive.  If you love someone and want to commit to them, take it seriously, but don't set some arbitrary age or length of engagement, or something like that. I think Stevesie put it really well.

Also, the 50% of marriages end in divorce stat is completely bogus.

 http://www.nytimes.com/2005/04/19/health/19divo.html?_r=1& (http://www.nytimes.com/2005/04/19/health/19divo.html?_r=1&)
http://www.truthorfiction.com/rumors/d/divorce.htm#.U9qHLvldVqU (http://www.truthorfiction.com/rumors/d/divorce.htm#.U9qHLvldVqU)
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: WildcatNkilt on July 31, 2014, 01:16:53 PM
I got married at 24 and still going strong.  I feel like my marriage gets better every year.  We continue to grow as a pair and it's awesome.  I hope anyone and everyone who is or intends to get married will experience the same happiness with their significant other as I do. 

I'm also a huge believer in cohabitation prior to marriage.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Emo EMAW on July 31, 2014, 01:18:28 PM
If you're old enough to die for your country, you're old enough to get married and have a beer at your wedding.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Panjandrum on July 31, 2014, 02:44:31 PM
I met my wife when I was 21 and she was 19.  We got married when I was 25 and she was 23.

We lived together first.

Not once did I wish I would have met her later in life.  However, while she disagrees, I don't regret spending 3-4 years dating/being engaged.  That was very beneficial for us in my opinion.

That may be different for others, but nothing about our relationship really changed the day we got married.  We already lived together, bought vehicles together, had pets together, etc.  That transition had already occurred prior to being married.  We just had a really nice wedding and honeymoon, and then it was back to business as usual.  That worked for me.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: j rake on July 31, 2014, 02:48:53 PM
I met my wife when I was 21 and she was 19.  We got married when I was 25 and she was 23.

How old are you now? Is your wife still two years younger?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Emo EMAW on July 31, 2014, 02:55:45 PM
I met my wife when I was 21 and she was 19.  We got married when I was 25 and she was 23.

How old are you now? Is your wife still two years younger?

 :bwpopcorn:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: deputy dawg on July 31, 2014, 03:05:42 PM
Men are always, regardless of actual circumstances, regarded as the bad person in a divorce.

I don't think that's true at all.  I don't know many dudes who have been divorced but of those that I do it sounded like, generally speaking, they married crazy bitches.

It is always the one you aren't friends with that was the crazy bad person that caused the divorce.

I'm not saying that men are the bad person in a divorce, but are usually blamed for the divorce whether they initiated it or not.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: puniraptor on July 31, 2014, 03:06:52 PM
That may be different for others, but nothing about our relationship really changed the day we got married.  We already lived together, bought vehicles together, had pets together, etc.  That transition had already occurred prior to being married.  We just had a really nice wedding and honeymoon, and then it was back to business as usual.  That worked for me.

this is right. it's the people who thing marriage is like a magic spell that changes everything that are in trouble
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: steve dave on July 31, 2014, 03:09:56 PM
Men are always, regardless of actual circumstances, regarded as the bad person in a divorce.

I don't think that's true at all.  I don't know many dudes who have been divorced but of those that I do it sounded like, generally speaking, they married crazy bitches.

It is always the one you aren't friends with that was the crazy bad person that caused the divorce.

I'm not saying that men are the bad person in a divorce, but are usually blamed for the divorce whether they initiated it or not.

I don't think this is accurate
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Emo EMAW on July 31, 2014, 03:10:56 PM
Men are always, regardless of actual circumstances, regarded as the bad person in a divorce.

I don't think that's true at all.  I don't know many dudes who have been divorced but of those that I do it sounded like, generally speaking, they married crazy bitches.

It is always the one you aren't friends with that was the crazy bad person that caused the divorce.

I'm not saying that men are the bad person in a divorce, but are usually blamed for the divorce whether they initiated it or not.

I don't think this is accurate

Agree.  I think blame is usually appropriately placed or shared.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Panjandrum on July 31, 2014, 03:27:14 PM
I met my wife when I was 21 and she was 19.  We got married when I was 25 and she was 23.

How old are you now? Is your wife still two years younger?

Shockingly enough, yes.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: mocat on July 31, 2014, 04:28:55 PM
i thought women aged faster  :confused:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: CNS on July 31, 2014, 04:32:04 PM
Nominal Age vs Actual Age.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: mocat on July 31, 2014, 04:32:41 PM
well they hit puberty faster that's for sure. panj, when did your lady friend go through her growth spurt?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: puniraptor on July 31, 2014, 04:40:01 PM
well they hit puberty faster that's for sure. panj, when did your lady friend go through her growth spurt?

how about that cereal commercial where the daytime lady show hosts are like "sex after 80! its great!" and then that old lady just wolfs down her bowl of kix because of it's purported life extension qualities! how about it!
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Emo EMAW on July 31, 2014, 04:40:48 PM
Hey guys, y'all checked out your future MIL because popping the quesh, right?  Portal into the future right there my friends.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: mocat on July 31, 2014, 04:42:09 PM
have you older folks found that to be true?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Rage Against the McKee on July 31, 2014, 04:45:23 PM
I've noticed that my generation is a whole lot more health-conscious than my parents', so hopefully that makes a pretty big difference.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: slobber on July 31, 2014, 04:46:16 PM

Hey guys, y'all checked out your future MIL because popping the quesh, right?  Portal into the future right there my friends.
Hey Emo, you all checked out the great post in this thread from a couple of hours ago? Portal into the future right there my friend.
:insertlinktogreatdobberpostaboutwhichwomentomarry:


Gonna win 'em all!
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Emo EMAW on July 31, 2014, 04:48:13 PM

Hey guys, y'all checked out your future MIL because popping the quesh, right?  Portal into the future right there my friends.
Hey Emo, you all checked out the great post in this thread from a couple of hours ago? Portal into the future right there my friend.
:insertlinktogreatdobberpostaboutwhichwomentomarry:


Gonna win 'em all!

(http://www.animationplayhouse.com/Telephone-1.gif)  I AIN'T PICKIN' IT UP DOBBS!   :lol: :lol:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: slobber on July 31, 2014, 04:49:27 PM
Emo, I think we'd get along famously IRL.


Gonna win 'em all!
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Emo EMAW on July 31, 2014, 04:50:50 PM
Emo, I think we'd get along famously IRL.


Gonna win 'em all!

Maybe when I look at you it's a portal into my own future.  Mind blown?   :cheers:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: WonderMeal on July 31, 2014, 08:36:45 PM
I got married at 22 and it has been a good life choice.  I didn't marry some loser like some others apparently though so that probably made a difference.

Who got divorced WM?  MHS alums?

The two divorces that sparked this thread are both out-of-stat'rs. In both cases, the hubby pushed to have a kid, then the kid came, then the hubby left shortly thereafter. In both cases, the hubby basically didn't communicate to the wife that he was unhappy until he asked for the divorce--which is pretty terrible. One of my IRL buds (not j rake) said there should be a three-year waiting period after you have a kid before you can get divorced, which I think would have made a huge difference for both of these couples.

Other thoughts:
[email protected] is right--there is some research that shows that overall, family/friends do a better job of picking a long-term mate for a person than that person does for themselves.
-Sounds like goEMAW honorary =Mod?= GOSP had a "starter marriage." It's obviously not ideal, but I know several old people who had starter marriages w/out kids, got divorced, and had long and happy second marriages/families.
-Agree with all the good posters on here who disagree with the "don't get married until you're thirty" stuff. Like Kat Kid, I married a total babe who rules at life in my early twenties, which has proven to be an awesome decision. I can't imagine in any way that my twenties would have been better w/out her, or if we had been together but waited to get married.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: libstradamus on July 31, 2014, 08:38:50 PM
hubby is a hateable word and people that use it are hateable
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: mocat on July 31, 2014, 09:14:19 PM
hubby is a hateable word and people that use it are hateable

Yeah
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: WonderMeal on July 31, 2014, 09:20:44 PM
hubby is a hateable word and people that use it are hateable

Yeah

I expected something like that from seven, but that hurts coming from poster mocat, one of WonderMeal's favorites on this entire blog.
 :frown:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: mocat on July 31, 2014, 09:39:23 PM
Sorry wonder meal, it's just my mom says it a lot, ick right
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: SkinnyBenny on July 31, 2014, 09:41:46 PM
which is worse: a person calling his/her spouse hubby or wifey?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: libstradamus on July 31, 2014, 09:46:43 PM
Hubby is worse, both are disgusting
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: slobber on July 31, 2014, 09:47:12 PM
Old lady is the absolute worst.


Gonna win 'em all!
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: libstradamus on July 31, 2014, 09:51:17 PM
hubby is a hateable word and people that use it are hateable

Yeah

I expected something like that from seven, but that hurts coming from poster mocat, one of WonderMeal's favorites on this entire blog.
 :frown:

 :frown: I specifically reworded my post away from "I hate people who say hubby" to respect the wondermeal
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: puniraptor on July 31, 2014, 09:52:38 PM
People who say hubby are just really sensitive. Not your fault.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: OK_Cat on July 31, 2014, 09:59:15 PM
Being married isn't that difficult. Find someone who makes you laugh/laughs at your stupid jokes and isn't a huge pain in the ass and you're set.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: slobber on July 31, 2014, 10:12:54 PM
"Hey honey, did you here about those dudes that died really sad deaths?"
 "Hahahaha"


Gonna win 'em all!
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: SkinnyBenny on July 31, 2014, 11:20:34 PM
"Hey honey, did you here about those dudes that died really sad deaths?"
 "Hahahaha"


Gonna win 'em all!


slobber! yes!
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: OK_Cat on July 31, 2014, 11:29:24 PM

"Hey honey, did you here about those dudes that died really sad deaths?"
 "Hahahaha"


Gonna win 'em all!

Eternal happiness
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: EMAWmeister on July 31, 2014, 11:58:40 PM
The advice about not setting some arbitrary age on it was very good advice IMO
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: bones129 on August 01, 2014, 12:02:45 AM
Old lady is the absolute worst.


Gonna win 'em all!

Old lady is indeed the worst. Unless you're a hard core biker, which I am not. Their use of the term is accepted within their ranks for whatever lame reason.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: ksupamplemousse on August 01, 2014, 12:08:03 AM
Old lady is the absolute worst.


Gonna win 'em all!

Old lady is indeed the worst. Unless you're a hard core biker, which I am not. Their use of the term is accepted within their ranks for whatever lame reason.

There are lots of groups that endorse using terrible terms to describe people, doesn't make it socially/morally acceptable imo.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: cDubya on August 01, 2014, 07:51:03 AM
I married my now ex-wife when I was 23 and she was 21. I took into consideration the whole "don't get married before..." but was of the opinion stated recently here, that we laughed at each other's jokes, had the same messed up sense of humor, and many others along the lines of career goals, socioeconomic views, etc. But then the unthinkable happened and I was medically discharged from the Navy after a couple shoulder injuries. Once those amazing benefits and paychecks stopped rolling in I saw a new person, not the one I married. Tried for the next 2 1/2 years to make it work (while working 40hrs a week, 15hrs of college/semester and helping raise a newborn) but that wasn't good enough apparently. She cheated. She filed for divorce. I was stupid. Won't happen again.

Long story short, you can THINK you know someone, THINK you've got it all figured out, and even THINK you're doing everything you can to make someone happy... and you can still be dead rough ridin' wrong. Live and learn, I guess!  :driving: moving on to better things!
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: steve dave on August 01, 2014, 08:15:29 AM
I call mrs. dave hun' like a waitress at a truckstop would call everyone. it started as a joke but then it stuck. I'm sure it sounds ridiculous to everyone that hears me say it.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: deputy dawg on August 01, 2014, 08:34:01 AM
I refer to Mrs. Deputy Dawg as "my charming wife" when speaking about her to 3rd parties, and do it sincerely.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Cire on August 01, 2014, 08:38:35 AM
marriage is a coin flip these days.

though divorce isn't as white and midwesterny as it is in other areas.

I went out to eat the other day and sat near an older couple Late 40's ish and they didn't say a word to each other the whole time we were sitting near them.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Emo EMAW on August 01, 2014, 10:06:24 AM
marriage is a coin flip these days.

though divorce isn't as white and midwesterny as it is in other areas.

I went out to eat the other day and sat near an older couple Late 40's ish and they didn't say a word to each other the whole time we were sitting near them.

Sometimes love is being able to sit with your spouse and enjoy a meal without saying a damn thing.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: CNS on August 01, 2014, 10:29:21 AM
I haven't experienced the no talking thing yet.  Sounds horrible.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Ghost of Stan Parrish on August 01, 2014, 10:45:07 AM
I call mrs. dave hun' like a waitress at a truckstop would call everyone. it started as a joke but then it stuck. I'm sure it sounds ridiculous to everyone that hears me say it.

Yeah, gotta be careful there.  I'm friends with a couple who started calling each other "shmoopy" in a fake-lovey way as a complete joke when they started dating, and now they're married and it's actually what they call each other.

And thanks for the good feedback, SD, RD and others.  :D  Been feeling homesick for Kansas -- kind of done with NYC -- so maybe we'll all be IRL buds someday.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on August 01, 2014, 10:52:09 AM
I call mrs. dave hun' like a waitress at a truckstop would call everyone. it started as a joke but then it stuck. I'm sure it sounds ridiculous to everyone that hears me say it.

Yeah, gotta be careful there.  I'm friends with a couple who started calling each other "shmoopy" in a fake-lovey way as a complete joke when they started dating, and now they're married and it's actually what they call each other.

And thanks for the good feedback, SD, RD and others.  :D  Been feeling homesick for Kansas -- kind of done with NYC -- so maybe we'll all be IRL buds someday.

I can't do the sweet lovey dovey nicknames. It feels so cheesy. I would feel super weird the first time I said it. Like, how do you even get into that habit without feeling awkward the first few times you say it?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Spracne on August 01, 2014, 11:00:16 AM
I call mrs. dave hun' like a waitress at a truckstop would call everyone. it started as a joke but then it stuck. I'm sure it sounds ridiculous to everyone that hears me say it.

Yeah, gotta be careful there.  I'm friends with a couple who started calling each other "shmoopy" in a fake-lovey way as a complete joke when they started dating, and now they're married and it's actually what they call each other.

And thanks for the good feedback, SD, RD and others.  :D  Been feeling homesick for Kansas -- kind of done with NYC -- so maybe we'll all be IRL buds someday.

I can't do the sweet lovey dovey nicknames. It feels so cheesy. I would feel super weird the first time I said it. Like, how do you even get into that habit without feeling awkward the first few times you say it?

Do you call Gooch Gooch IRL?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on August 01, 2014, 11:03:10 AM
I call mrs. dave hun' like a waitress at a truckstop would call everyone. it started as a joke but then it stuck. I'm sure it sounds ridiculous to everyone that hears me say it.

Yeah, gotta be careful there.  I'm friends with a couple who started calling each other "shmoopy" in a fake-lovey way as a complete joke when they started dating, and now they're married and it's actually what they call each other.

And thanks for the good feedback, SD, RD and others.  :D  Been feeling homesick for Kansas -- kind of done with NYC -- so maybe we'll all be IRL buds someday.

I can't do the sweet lovey dovey nicknames. It feels so cheesy. I would feel super weird the first time I said it. Like, how do you even get into that habit without feeling awkward the first few times you say it?

Do you call Gooch Gooch IRL?

I call him Gooch when I am talking about him to gE people, but not when I am talking to him usually. I just call him by his real name.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: hemmy on August 01, 2014, 11:20:48 AM
Wait, I assumed everyone's gE name was their real name? Mind blown.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Panjandrum on August 01, 2014, 11:29:38 AM
I call mrs. dave hun' like a waitress at a truckstop would call everyone. it started as a joke but then it stuck. I'm sure it sounds ridiculous to everyone that hears me say it.

Yeah, gotta be careful there.  I'm friends with a couple who started calling each other "shmoopy" in a fake-lovey way as a complete joke when they started dating, and now they're married and it's actually what they call each other.

And thanks for the good feedback, SD, RD and others.  :D  Been feeling homesick for Kansas -- kind of done with NYC -- so maybe we'll all be IRL buds someday.

I can't do the sweet lovey dovey nicknames. It feels so cheesy. I would feel super weird the first time I said it. Like, how do you even get into that habit without feeling awkward the first few times you say it?

What's weird is that when my wife and I had kids, we started calling each other mommy and daddy in front of them.  You get so used to it that, on occasion, I call her that when they're not around out of habit.

I don't like it one bit.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on August 01, 2014, 11:32:07 AM
Wait, I assumed everyone's gE name was their real name? Mind blown.

No, Gooch's real name is Ignacio.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Asteriskhead on August 01, 2014, 11:35:14 AM
Wait, I assumed everyone's gE name was their real name? Mind blown.

No, Gooch's real name is Ignacio.

I thought it was Jeremy Renner.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on August 01, 2014, 11:37:07 AM
Wait, I assumed everyone's gE name was their real name? Mind blown.

No, Gooch's real name is Ignacio.

I thought it was Jeremy Renner.

That's his stage name.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Tobias on August 01, 2014, 11:54:31 AM
:whistle1:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: libstradamus on August 01, 2014, 12:04:55 PM
Wait, I assumed everyone's gE name was their real name? Mind blown.

No, Gooch's real name is Ignacio.

Good ol' nacho
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: ChiCat on August 01, 2014, 12:36:20 PM
My GF's fam (its obnoxious to say fiancee) always told her that if we don't get engaged within a year of dating it will never happen.  They average 2.3 marriages apiece and I had to convince my GF they didn't know crap.  Getting married young may be fine for some people.  Knowing people like KK and SD and how thrilled they are with their spouse definitely speaks to it.  When I was the ages that they got married at, I personally wouldn't have been ready for it.  People thinking their personal experience must be some universal truth are idiots.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: cDubya on August 01, 2014, 01:38:32 PM
My GF's fam (its obnoxious to say fiancee) always told her that if we don't get engaged within a year of dating it will never happen.  They average 2.3 marriages apiece and I had to convince my GF they didn't know crap.  Getting married young may be fine for some people.  Knowing people like KK and SD and how thrilled they are with their spouse definitely speaks to it.  When I was the ages that they got married at, I personally wouldn't have been ready for it.  People thinking their personal experience must be some universal truth are idiots.

 :thumbs:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Emo EMAW on August 01, 2014, 01:44:02 PM
I have heard some people say that there's a switch in your brain and it's time based and when it goes off you marry the girl you're dating at the time.  I don't think that's true but some people say it. 
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Rage Against the McKee on August 01, 2014, 01:56:07 PM
Marriage can be a hot potato.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: slimz on August 01, 2014, 02:05:23 PM
Marriage can be a hot potato.

Yep. Marriage, man. Sometimes it can be really rewarding. And sometimes it isn't, at all. Sometimes you're with the one you love, sometimes you just gotta love the one your with. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. Amiright, guys?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Tobias on August 01, 2014, 02:13:29 PM
a veritable coin toss
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: raquetcat on August 01, 2014, 10:47:13 PM
I have a co worker who got engaged to a women who is on a "timeline", and had already been divorced so her timeline has been accelerated even more. He complains about his fiancee a lot and he just doesn't seem that happy about it, but he's moved in with her and for him that makes it a done deal. She has also pressured him into buying a boat (had to take out a loan to do that) and buy a truck to pull the boat. I feel bad for the guy cause he's a super nice guy :frown:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: steve dave on August 01, 2014, 10:50:49 PM
I feel bad for him in that he's a huge dumbass
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: wetwillie on August 01, 2014, 10:54:40 PM
I have a co worker who got engaged to a women who is on a "timeline", and had already been divorced so her timeline has been accelerated even more. He complains about his fiancee a lot and he just doesn't seem that happy about it, but he's moved in with her and for him that makes it a done deal. She has also pressured him into buying a boat (had to take out a loan to do that) and buy a truck to pull the boat. I feel bad for the guy cause he's a super nice

guy :frown:



Is she dragging his ass to lake perry every weekend?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: j-dub on August 01, 2014, 11:05:47 PM
I feel bad for him in that he's a huge dumbass

sometimes like pretty much every time, steve dave just puts it perfectly
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Tobias on August 01, 2014, 11:13:36 PM
my lovely girlfriend of ten years stopped by tonight to take a twin bed up to her grandmas house
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: raquetcat on August 01, 2014, 11:18:24 PM
I have a co worker who got engaged to a women who is on a "timeline", and had already been divorced so her timeline has been accelerated even more. He complains about his fiancee a lot and he just doesn't seem that happy about it, but he's moved in with her and for him that makes it a done deal. She has also pressured him into buying a boat (had to take out a loan to do that) and buy a truck to pull the boat. I feel bad for the guy cause he's a super nice

guy :frown:



Is she dragging his ass to lake perry every weekend?
:sdeek: so you know this guy?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: wetwillie on August 01, 2014, 11:31:22 PM
I have a co worker who got engaged to a women who is on a "timeline", and had already been divorced so her timeline has been accelerated even more. He complains about his fiancee a lot and he just doesn't seem that happy about it, but he's moved in with her and for him that makes it a done deal. She has also pressured him into buying a boat (had to take out a loan to do that) and buy a truck to pull the boat. I feel bad for the guy cause he's a super nice

guy :frown:



Is she dragging his ass to lake perry every weekend?
:sdeek: so you know this guy?

Nope, but I'm moving to your general hood and have come to understand that lake perry is the go to place you go to the lake and seeing as this woman made him get a boat it was just an educated guess. 
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: kim carnes on August 01, 2014, 11:59:53 PM
I have a co worker who got engaged to a women who is on a "timeline", and had already been divorced so her timeline has been accelerated even more. He complains about his fiancee a lot and he just doesn't seem that happy about it, but he's moved in with her and for him that makes it a done deal. She has also pressured him into buying a boat (had to take out a loan to do that) and buy a truck to pull the boat. I feel bad for the guy cause he's a super nice

guy :frown:



Is she dragging his ass to lake perry every weekend?
:sdeek: so you know this guy?

Nope, but I'm moving to your general hood and have come to understand that lake perry is the go to place you go to the lake and seeing as this woman made him get a boat it was just an educated guess.

look man, you need to get another job.  you can't move to topeka.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: EMAWmeister on August 02, 2014, 02:50:08 AM
I feel like I'm too immature to get married. When do I grow out of that?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Cartierfor3 on August 02, 2014, 10:04:45 AM
my lovely girlfriend of ten years stopped by tonight to take a twin bed up to her grandmas house

I hope you at least got off the couch to help load it up
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: CNS on August 02, 2014, 10:07:34 AM
When you get tired of being immature.   No judgment.   Just like any phase of life,  enjoy the hell out of it and make a change when it gets old.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: ChiCat on August 02, 2014, 11:54:35 AM
Bud I work with just found out his wife was leaving him - Went on a bender for a few weeks, ignored multiple warnings, and got fired.  Was really good at what he did before this.  Very sad
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: michigancat on August 02, 2014, 12:00:50 PM
my lovely girlfriend of ten years stopped by tonight to take a twin bed up to her grandmas house

you ok, bud?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Tobias on August 02, 2014, 12:01:50 PM
oh yeah, they literally didn't have enough beds.  weird post by me
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Panjandrum on August 02, 2014, 01:37:36 PM
Bud I work with just found out his wife was leaving him - Went on a bender for a few weeks, ignored multiple warnings, and got fired.  Was really good at what he did before this.  Very sad

A guy at my work had an ex wife run up a ridiculous credit card debt, left him, and he basically cracked, got fired, went bankrupt, etc.

Someone said they ran across him a year or so later and he looked like he was in a lot better shape, but damn, was that a depressing story.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: kim carnes on August 02, 2014, 02:01:00 PM
Bud I work with just found out his wife was leaving him - Went on a bender for a few weeks, ignored multiple warnings, and got fired.  Was really good at what he did before this.  Very sad

Sounds like you work for a pretty terrible company
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: slobber on August 02, 2014, 02:28:56 PM

Bud I work with just found out his wife was leaving him - Went on a bender for a few weeks, ignored multiple warnings, and got fired.  Was really good at what he did before this.  Very sad

Sounds like you work for a pretty terrible company
really horrible.


Gonna win 'em all!
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: ChiCat on August 02, 2014, 03:52:29 PM
Bud I work with just found out his wife was leaving him - Went on a bender for a few weeks, ignored multiple warnings, and got fired.  Was really good at what he did before this.  Very sad

Sounds like you work for a pretty terrible company

You ignore the warnings to get your crap together, thats on you.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: kim carnes on August 02, 2014, 08:18:35 PM
Bud I work with just found out his wife was leaving him - Went on a bender for a few weeks, ignored multiple warnings, and got fired.  Was really good at what he did before this.  Very sad

Sounds like you work for a pretty terrible company

You ignore the warnings to get your crap together, thats on you.

apparently
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Trim on August 03, 2014, 11:59:43 AM
oh yeah, they literally didn't have enough beds.  weird post by me

Do they have any use for a queen size bed and an entire bedroom furniture set?  How about some televisions?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: BIG APPLE CAT on January 18, 2017, 02:47:13 PM
Hi guys.... So um...I officially filed the other day. :Ugh:
Just wanted to get that off my chest. Hopefully it will go smoothly (or as smooth as can be reasonably hoped for) but I'm not holding my breath.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: wetwillie on January 18, 2017, 02:50:48 PM
Sorry to hear that BAC.  Hopefully it's as painless as possible.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Emo EMAW on January 18, 2017, 02:52:37 PM
Sucks, sorry BAC. 

Any advice you might share with much younger BAC?  I'm always curious to hear the wisdom borne through life experience.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: BIG APPLE CAT on January 18, 2017, 03:06:03 PM
Um... My advice would be to trust your instincts. Obviously, as with all big life decisions, you might have doubts or second thoughts before making such a big decision but really do some soul searching and be honest with yourself. If it's just nervousness that's one thing, but if deep down you don't think you're making the right decision then man up and put an end to things. To continue and just hope things will get better just makes everything worse.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: libstradamus on January 18, 2017, 03:52:50 PM
That debt  :sdeek:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: puniraptor on January 18, 2017, 04:29:56 PM
sorry bapcat

but :cheers: to the rest of your life

I blame the big city.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: hatingfrancisco on January 19, 2017, 10:53:58 AM
I feel like I'm too immature to get married. When do I grow out of that?

Marriage #2 if you are one of the lucky ones.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: michigancat on January 19, 2017, 11:42:52 AM
sorry bapcat

but :cheers: to the rest of your life

I blame the big city.

IIRC he was kind of a mess before moving to the city
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: BIG APPLE CAT on January 19, 2017, 12:03:30 PM
sorry bapcat

but :cheers: to the rest of your life

I blame the big city.

IIRC he was kind of a mess before moving to the city

"Mess" would be putting it nicely
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: ednksu on January 19, 2017, 01:10:30 PM
Document everything from phone calls, emails, and in person interactions.  Trust no one but your lawyer.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Rage Against the McKee on January 19, 2017, 01:32:26 PM
I wouldn't think divorce would be that complicated if you don't have kids or own a business. It probably is, though.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: WackyCat08 on January 19, 2017, 01:39:22 PM
If i'm tired of going to all these family get togethers, can I get something in writing that if we hit per se 15+ family get togethers in over a year, it's grounds for divorce?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: BIG APPLE CAT on January 19, 2017, 01:39:44 PM
I wouldn't think divorce would be that complicated if you don't have kids or own a business. It probably is, though.
It depends. If she signs the waiver then it's very simple. If she choses to contest it then... Well who knows.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Chingon on January 19, 2017, 01:41:02 PM
Per se?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: WackyCat08 on January 19, 2017, 01:43:12 PM
Per se?
Or some word that makes sense there.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on January 19, 2017, 01:58:09 PM
I wouldn't think divorce would be that complicated if you don't have kids or own a business. It probably is, though.
It depends. If she signs the waiver then it's very simple. If she choses to contest it then... Well who knows.

It should be easy unless one or more parties is an bad person.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on January 19, 2017, 02:01:24 PM
If i'm tired of going to all these family get togethers, can I get something in writing that if we hit per se 15+ family get togethers in over a year, it's grounds for divorce?

You don't need a contract to have a grounds for divorce. The only reason for the contract would be some other consequence, like a financial payment. Like if you have to go to 15+ family events then you will get divorced and she will give you a settlement of $1 million for each year you had been married or something to that effect.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: WackyCat08 on January 19, 2017, 02:03:49 PM
 :thumbs:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Shooter Jones on January 19, 2017, 02:55:25 PM
Met a group of girls last weekend, one of them was really damn cute, but dating a creepy weirdo (who turns out is owner of some company and rich as balls). I guess she had just finalized her divorce, tho. and she says something along the lines of, "the first time you marry, you marry for love. The second time you marry, you marry for money."

So if this is HER first divorce, it sounds like it should be pretty easy to get it done...

Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: steve dave on January 19, 2017, 02:58:48 PM
Per se?
Or some word that makes sense there.

Amaze post WC
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: WackyCat08 on January 19, 2017, 02:59:34 PM
 :)
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Emo EMAW on January 19, 2017, 08:59:18 PM
Met a group of girls last weekend, one of them was really damn cute, but dating a creepy weirdo (who turns out is owner of some company and rich as balls). I guess she had just finalized her divorce, tho. and she says something along the lines of, "the first time you marry, you marry for love. The second time you marry, you marry for money."

So if this is HER first divorce, it sounds like it should be pretty easy to get it done...

It makes more sense to reverse the order, which is also the way I've heard it.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Canary on January 19, 2017, 09:33:54 PM
Hi guys.... So um...I officially filed the other day. :Ugh:
Just wanted to get that off my chest. Hopefully it will go smoothly (or as smooth as can be reasonably hoped for) but I'm not holding my breath.
Sorry about that, man.  Glad you got it off your chest.  Best of luck for a reasonably smooth transition. 
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: IPA4Me on January 27, 2018, 07:27:18 AM
Welp. This is a barrel of fun.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: IPA4Me on January 27, 2018, 07:28:18 AM
Met a group of girls last weekend, one of them was really damn cute, but dating a creepy weirdo (who turns out is owner of some company and rich as balls). I guess she had just finalized her divorce, tho. and she says something along the lines of, "the first time you marry, you marry for love. The second time you marry, you marry for money."

So if this is HER first divorce, it sounds like it should be pretty easy to get it done...
Solid knowledge. I'll be on the lookout for a rich lady.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Pete on January 27, 2018, 07:39:19 AM
Sorry to hear that, IPA.  This is another one of the threads that I shudder to open. 

This too shall pass, man.  This too shall pass.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: libstradamus on January 27, 2018, 08:16:11 AM
That blows bud, I hope it doesn't get too nasty
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: wetwillie on January 27, 2018, 08:20:51 AM
Damnit man, that breaks my heart.   You are an awesome guy and I'm sorry you are facing this.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: hatingfrancisco on January 27, 2018, 08:51:45 AM
Sorry to hear that IPA.   :frown:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: The Big Train on January 27, 2018, 09:26:34 AM
:frown:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: WackyCat08 on January 27, 2018, 09:28:44 AM
Damn bud. Sorry to hear.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: everyone shut up on January 27, 2018, 09:34:06 AM
Met a group of girls last weekend, one of them was really damn cute, but dating a creepy weirdo (who turns out is owner of some company and rich as balls). I guess she had just finalized her divorce, tho. and she says something along the lines of, "the first time you marry, you marry for love. The second time you marry, you marry for money."

So if this is HER first divorce, it sounds like it should be pretty easy to get it done...

I was told (by a lady) first is love, second is sex, third is money. Not sure which step she was on.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: 8manpick on January 27, 2018, 10:16:08 AM
Well crap, sorry IPA
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Saulbadguy on January 30, 2018, 12:04:15 PM
10/10, Would recommend again
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: IPA4Me on January 30, 2018, 12:45:35 PM
It's all good dudes. I'm way happier already. 

I appreciate the kind thoughts.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Dr Rick Daris on January 30, 2018, 01:39:05 PM
saul does really seem to be living life now
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: libstradamus on January 30, 2018, 01:43:15 PM
Does this mean you can stop being a gross uk fan?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on January 30, 2018, 03:17:20 PM
Congratulations.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: IPA4Me on January 30, 2018, 05:56:12 PM
Does this mean you can stop being a gross uk fan?
Yes unless I start spooning another one. 
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: mocat on January 30, 2018, 07:41:01 PM
Wut
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Katdaddy on January 31, 2018, 09:47:03 AM
IPA, I'm not sure you know what spooning is to prison folks.  It's what one does to prepare for anal sex.  :Yuck:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: yoga-like_abana on January 31, 2018, 10:01:08 AM
Woof, sorry buds. I actually enjoy my wife
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: IPA4Me on January 31, 2018, 05:39:43 PM
Woof. Never knew that prison term. I'll try to avoid that issue.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: steve dave on January 31, 2018, 08:13:52 PM
IPA, sorry about your situation. that being said, 100% of the people I know that have been divorced are happier and more successful after. so, just plan for that.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: yoga-like_abana on January 31, 2018, 09:42:56 PM
Woof. Never knew that prison term. I'll try to avoid that issue.
Say what


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Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: IPA4Me on February 01, 2018, 03:15:14 AM
Woof. Never knew that prison term. I'll try to avoid that issue.
Say what


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http://goEMAW.com/forum/index.php?topic=32618.msg1804859.msg#1804859

I was referring to the post above your post.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: MakeItRain on February 02, 2018, 08:53:53 PM
did you guys know that if your parents get divorced you get 2 christmases? i mean holy crap. talk about hitting the jackpot.

(https://m.popkey.co/51918c/0XAoD_s-200x150.gif)
Would have been nice tho
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Kat Kid on February 03, 2018, 10:06:00 AM
Sounds like one of my wife's friends is prepping for this and has a side dude lined up.  Not too worried, but going to do some extra crunches and arm workouts this week just in case my wife starts getting ideas.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: K-S-U-Wildcats! on February 03, 2018, 02:37:27 PM
I’m really sorry for anyone going through such a horrible thing. Prayers for you. I have heard that most people feel they come out better on the other side, eventually, but it’s a long slog.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: DaBigTrain on August 02, 2018, 12:39:30 PM
Wow.

Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Spracne on August 02, 2018, 01:31:25 PM
In other words: roughly 10% of his gross salary. I'd say he got off pretty cheaply...
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Dlew12 on August 02, 2018, 02:12:26 PM
That's why you always sign a prenup

(https://vignette.wikia.nocookie.net/arresteddevelopment/images/6/6c/1x10_Pier_Pressure_%2842%29.png/revision/latest?cb=20120229061749)
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Dugout DickStone on August 02, 2018, 02:36:55 PM
That's why you always sign a prenup

(https://vignette.wikia.nocookie.net/arresteddevelopment/images/6/6c/1x10_Pier_Pressure_%2842%29.png/revision/latest?cb=20120229061749)

You can't sign a unmarried oops made a baby pre-nup.  I mean maybe you can but child support is still coming
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: wetwillie on August 02, 2018, 02:38:01 PM
In other words: roughly 10% of his gross salary. I'd say he got off pretty cheaply...

V weird take
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: libstradamus on August 02, 2018, 02:55:51 PM
Not that kind of lawyer, but 10% seems reasonable
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Dlew12 on August 02, 2018, 03:02:25 PM
That's why you always sign a prenup

(https://vignette.wikia.nocookie.net/arresteddevelopment/images/6/6c/1x10_Pier_Pressure_%2842%29.png/revision/latest?cb=20120229061749)

You can't sign a unmarried oops made a baby pre-nup.  I mean maybe you can but child support is still coming
whoops.  i though it was alimony.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Dugout DickStone on August 02, 2018, 03:05:57 PM
I don't think weirdo Blake ever married her
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: pissclams on August 02, 2018, 03:10:48 PM
on one hand she deserves the money, on the other hand why not just be friends and forget about the dough?  does everything really have to be about money?  friends are more valuable than gold nuggets in many people's minds
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on August 02, 2018, 05:02:08 PM
on one hand she deserves the money, on the other hand why not just be friends and forget about the dough?  does everything really have to be about money?  friends are more valuable than gold nuggets in many people's minds

She should raise his child with her own money?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Trim on August 02, 2018, 06:12:48 PM
She also has to raise Matt Leinart’s kid.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: wetwillie on August 02, 2018, 06:38:49 PM
Quote
While Cameron was still in school, Leinart was drafted to the Arizona Cardinals. Cameron and Leinart broke up after about a year of dating, but shortly after their relationship ended, Cameron learned she was pregnant with Leinart’s child.


Incredible timing

Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: pissclams on August 02, 2018, 08:01:46 PM
on one hand she deserves the money, on the other hand why not just be friends and forget about the dough?  does everything really have to be about money?  friends are more valuable than gold nuggets in many people's minds

She should raise his child with her own money?

why not? i wonder if she thought about the answer to that question before copulating with him.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: sys on August 02, 2018, 08:07:41 PM
Quote
which ended with the former Buffalo Bills quarterback paying up to $15,000 in monthly child support.

sibling class warfare.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: steve dave on August 02, 2018, 08:24:04 PM
on one hand she deserves the money, on the other hand why not just be friends and forget about the dough?  does everything really have to be about money?  friends are more valuable than gold nuggets in many people's minds

She should raise his child with her own money?

Clams, crockpot clean up needed on aisle 3.


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Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: ChiCat on August 03, 2018, 08:54:41 AM
I wonder if one child will live a little bit better than the other child
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: ksupamplemousse on August 03, 2018, 12:20:07 PM
So, I know we're talking about Blake Griffin, but I just read this thread front to back today for the first time. Lots of good info in here. My wife and I are potty training our first kid, and I can say with almost 100% certainty, that anybody else I dated other than my wife would not have been a good enough person to put up with me during these difficult times in life. She handles it with a grace and aplomb that is admirable. Also, I think I was just incredibly lucky that I didn't end up with the other ones. There were a couple that I was head over heels for that would have made my life a living hell.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: IPA4Me on August 05, 2018, 04:05:24 PM
Welp. This is a barrel of fun.
I didn't update you fine Cats. We reconciled a few months ago. Life's pretty good now. Gotta stay focused though.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: DaBigTrain on August 05, 2018, 04:13:20 PM
:emawkid:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Rage Against the McKee on August 07, 2018, 11:14:16 AM
I wonder if one child will live a little bit better than the other child

I feel sorry for both of them.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: wetwillie on January 09, 2019, 09:21:40 PM
@Trim



?s=21
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: halfEmpty on January 09, 2019, 09:50:12 PM
@Trim



?s=21

Why did I think he was gay?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: SkinnyBenny on January 09, 2019, 09:53:38 PM
Welp. This is a barrel of fun.
I didn't update you fine Cats. We reconciled a few months ago. Life's pretty good now. Gotta stay focused though.

Have you stayed focused these last ~5 months?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Trim on January 09, 2019, 09:55:45 PM
@Trim

?s=21

Not that kind of lawyer.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Spracne on January 09, 2019, 10:10:27 PM
@Trim

?s=21

Not that kind of lawyer.
Nor I, but I'd happily learn how for a contingent fee arrangement.

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Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: wetwillie on January 09, 2019, 10:11:51 PM
I just assumed your barber might be able to comfort poor Mackenzie in her time of distress
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Trim on January 09, 2019, 10:30:36 PM
I just assumed your barber might be able to comfort poor Mackenzie in her time of distress

He may be what caused the trial separation to proceed to full-on divorce.  :surprised:
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: IPA4Me on January 10, 2019, 04:53:33 AM
Welp. This is a barrel of fun.
I didn't update you fine Cats. We reconciled a few months ago. Life's pretty good now. Gotta stay focused though.

Have you stayed focused these last ~5 months?
Focused on her infidelity. See ya. :/
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: WackyCat08 on January 10, 2019, 08:26:01 AM
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: MakeItRain on January 12, 2019, 11:07:21 PM
She's pretty enough where she'll find some 30 something that will do whatever the hell she wants.

Also we should probably discuss that they are getting a divorce because bezos is smashing his friend's celebrity (minor) wife. Hope it was worth the $72 billion. His mistress isn't even leaving her husband. Both guys are simps.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: DaBigTrain on January 12, 2019, 11:30:46 PM
She's pretty enough where she'll find some 30 something that will do whatever the hell she wants.

Also we should probably discuss that they are getting a divorce because bezos is smashing his friend's celebrity (minor) wife. Hope it was worth the $72 billion. His mistress isn't even leaving her husband. Both guys are simps.

Money is nothing to people of this magnitude. They do what they want, when they want, with who they want.

Obviously money is something to him but he can always make more.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Mikeyis4dcats on January 14, 2019, 10:38:29 AM
She's pretty enough where she'll find some 30 something that will do whatever the hell she wants.

Also we should probably discuss that they are getting a divorce because bezos is smashing his friend's celebrity (minor) wife. Hope it was worth the $72 billion. His mistress isn't even leaving her husband. Both guys are simps.

I believe I read her husband filed for divorce
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: MakeItRain on January 14, 2019, 06:50:50 PM
She's pretty enough where she'll find some 30 something that will do whatever the hell she wants.

Also we should probably discuss that they are getting a divorce because bezos is smashing his friend's celebrity (minor) wife. Hope it was worth the $72 billion. His mistress isn't even leaving her husband. Both guys are simps.

I believe I read her husband filed for divorce

https://people.com/movies/lauren-sanchez-estranged-husband-still-living-together/

She'd have to bounce and leave the kids. Having an affair is one thing but this woman has embarrassed the entire family, publicly. She's made him out to be the fool.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: SkinnyBenny on January 14, 2019, 10:37:16 PM
Welp. This is a barrel of fun.
I didn't update you fine Cats. We reconciled a few months ago. Life's pretty good now. Gotta stay focused though.

Have you stayed focused these last ~5 months?
Focused on her infidelity. See ya. :/


:horrorsurprise:  Sorry to hear that, IRL friend IPA4Me
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: IPA4Me on January 15, 2019, 05:39:39 PM
Thx SB.

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Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: MakeItRain on January 16, 2019, 11:44:19 PM
Thx SB.

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Mackenzie Bezos is kinda cute, she's aged very well.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: IPA4Me on January 17, 2019, 12:18:00 AM
Thx SB.

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Mackenzie Bezos is kinda cute, she's aged very well.
Can you share some digits?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: mocat on January 17, 2019, 12:43:30 AM


Thx SB.

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Mackenzie Bezos has aged very well.

More like she is a transformer

(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20190117/40cb4ed55de528207c75fcc135b38141.jpg)(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20190117/cf7c8b036e4a2f09e92a862060b8ee82.jpg)
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: IPA4Me on January 17, 2019, 05:35:55 AM
Would smash
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: WillieWatanabe on January 17, 2019, 08:21:32 AM
pretty sure Jeff Bezos is half turtle
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Brock Landers on January 17, 2019, 09:52:28 AM
Jeff Bezos used to look like Kevin Spacey's dorkstore brother.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: MakeItRain on January 17, 2019, 10:10:55 AM


Thx SB.

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Mackenzie Bezos has aged very well.

More like she is a transformer

(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20190117/40cb4ed55de528207c75fcc135b38141.jpg)(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20190117/cf7c8b036e4a2f09e92a862060b8ee82.jpg)

LOL, wow
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: chum1 on January 17, 2019, 04:22:05 PM
It's not only men that money can make more attractive.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: Trim on January 17, 2019, 05:03:06 PM
Now of interest to you chiefs people!

https://pagesix.com/2019/01/16/ex-pal-of-lauren-sanchez-says-jeff-bezos-would-be-stupid-to-marry-her/amp/
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: MakeItRain on January 17, 2019, 05:56:07 PM
That article is absurd. It's sole premise is to paint her as a cheater, as if every single person reading that article didn't already know she was a cheater. Maybe they can write another article outlining that DJT likes fast food.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: 8manpick on January 17, 2019, 06:14:12 PM
I mean, it’s Page Six, were you expecting something different?
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: wetwillie on January 17, 2019, 06:19:04 PM
It’s stunning to me how guys like Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos are straight killers in the corporate world and such beta schlubs with women.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: sys on January 17, 2019, 06:44:10 PM
It's not only men that money can make more attractive.

money was working overtime on the both of them.  my goodness.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: MakeItRain on January 17, 2019, 07:40:11 PM
It's not only men that money can make more attractive.

money was working overtime on the both of them.  my goodness.

Right!
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: DaBigTrain on January 17, 2019, 07:44:37 PM
It’s stunning to me how guys like Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos are straight killers in the corporate world and such beta schlubs with women.

You don’t know many extremely smart people then.
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: pissclams on January 17, 2019, 07:59:26 PM
ya those guys are weird as hell, good news is that money can buy a lot of crap including happiness
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: wetwillie on January 17, 2019, 08:08:33 PM
ya those guys are weird as hell, good news is that money can buy a lot of crap including happiness

Elon got married and divorced from the same woman twice!
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: dmartin on January 18, 2019, 08:04:59 AM
It’s stunning to me how guys like Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos are straight killers in the corporate world and such beta schlubs with women.

To some people, money makes sense (not going with the obvious pun here), while women... well......
Title: Re: The Divorce Thread
Post by: michigancat on January 18, 2019, 08:42:39 AM
It’s stunning to me how guys like Elon Musk and Jeff Bezos are straight killers in the corporate world and such beta schlubs with women.
Elon got Grimes to defend friggin union busting in Twitter