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The Divorce Thread
« on: July 30, 2014, 06:34:19 PM »
Hey fellow CatFans, happily married WonderMeal here.

In the past few months, several dads I have known with relatively newborn kids (<18 months) have filed for divorce. And in each instance, the mom and kids have moved back in with their parents. I mean, who does that, right? Are people really that bad at picking a spouse that they have to get divorced less than a year (or less than 2 months!) after having a kid?

What I'm saying is that this is a ComboFanning thread to talk about divorce. Yours, your friend's, your parents'...whatever.

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The Divorce Thread
« Reply #1 on: July 30, 2014, 06:37:35 PM »
Am friends with a shockingly few number of divorcees. I know a ton but of my 100'ish closest friends only one comes to mind. I guess 1/2 or more of those 100'ish are single though.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #2 on: July 30, 2014, 06:38:36 PM »
People change
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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #3 on: July 30, 2014, 06:41:24 PM »
Am friends with a shockingly few number of divorcees. I know a ton but of my 100'ish closest friends only one comes to mind. I guess 1/2 or more of those 100'ish are single though.

100 is a lot of friends. You're very popular sd.
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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #4 on: July 30, 2014, 06:45:46 PM »
got lots of married friends. only 1 has gotten divorced.

it's really shitty man.
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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #5 on: July 30, 2014, 06:47:15 PM »
Divorced here.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #6 on: July 30, 2014, 07:11:29 PM »
I read that divorce rates are way down in the past decade or so. Like, from 50% to 25% or so.

My sister is on her 3rd marriage. I don't know, but my guess is that's because she's spoiled and doesn't really work hard at anything.

I recently watched Take This Waltz, which features a gal who decides to get divorced.

One idea expressed by that movie is that the gal who wanted to leave her tired, old relationship behind for an exciting new one eventually found herself in another tired, old relationship.

I've had that same idea myself, so I thought the movie made a good point.

I once knew a couple who got divorced and then the guy came out.

I once knew a (different) couple who got divorced and then the girl came out.

That's all I've got.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #7 on: July 30, 2014, 07:18:00 PM »
My parents divorced after 30 years, it has bettered both of their lives
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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #8 on: July 30, 2014, 07:21:58 PM »
people should have kids before they get married so they'll know if they like each other.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #9 on: July 30, 2014, 07:29:21 PM »
My parents divorced after 30 years, it has bettered both of their lives
My parents divorced after 25 yrs and the summer before I started at Ksu. Both are in much better place, personally, than they would have,  but the relationships among the rest of the family are messed up to say the least. My bro is going through his second divorce and IMO it's due to him being messed up from my parents divorce.

Picking a spouse is really effing hard.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #10 on: July 30, 2014, 07:31:32 PM »
I have a half-sister. What does everyone think of that?
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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #11 on: July 30, 2014, 07:36:17 PM »
I have a half-sister. What does everyone think of that?
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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #12 on: July 30, 2014, 07:56:34 PM »
Dad is saying vowes to number 4 in a little while.  Parents got divorced when I was 11.  Even then I recognized it as a very good thing. 

As far as my contemporaries go, none are divorced.  Most got married in very late twenties.  Most are very happy. 

A bunch of my friends are products of a divorced family.  Maybe they took their parents example as what not to do?  Maybe my crew hasn't hit the midlife crisis part of existence yet since they started married life almost a decade later than their parents?

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #13 on: July 30, 2014, 08:05:18 PM »
I totally get the idea of divorce--even if kids are a little older. I had a divorced Grandma, and it was awesome for her because she married a total BITB stud.

What I don't get is when decide to have a kid, and then less than two months (!) later are like, "Man, I can't sleep and my wife is kind of cranky. I'm outta here!"  :buh-bye:

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #14 on: July 30, 2014, 08:25:59 PM »
My sister in law is getting divorced.  This divorce was inevitable from the beginning and a surprise to just about no one though.  Amazing how petty grown people get when it comes to divorce though. 
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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #15 on: July 30, 2014, 08:38:59 PM »
I totally get the idea of divorce--even if kids are a little older. I had a divorced Grandma, and it was awesome for her because she married a total BITB stud.

What I don't get is when decide to have a kid, and then less than two months (!) later are like, "Man, I can't sleep and my wife is kind of cranky. I'm outta here!"  :buh-bye:

I think you are making this up cause I've never heard of it happening before
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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #16 on: July 30, 2014, 08:53:08 PM »
Anyone ever divorced the same broad more than once?  That's a trip I bet.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #17 on: July 30, 2014, 08:56:12 PM »
Anyone ever divorced the same broad more than once?  That's a trip I bet.

My bro broke off 2 engagements with the same girl. That is apart from his 2 divorces. I still (kinda) blame it on my parents being divorced.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #18 on: July 30, 2014, 08:59:51 PM »
Cop out.  No offense

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #19 on: July 30, 2014, 09:01:26 PM »
 Ultimately, it's his own fault. My folks getting divorced really messed him up, tho

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #20 on: July 30, 2014, 09:04:45 PM »
Two failed engagements and two failed marriages.   At some point a guy should be able to understand, get some therapy, and avoid the thing he sucks at until he atleast understands it. 

My parents divorce f'ed my older bro up, so I realize it is super easy to say and something else to do, but that or failure are really the only two options.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #21 on: July 30, 2014, 09:18:15 PM »
Divorces are hilarious.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #22 on: July 30, 2014, 09:35:16 PM »
Two failed engagements and two failed marriages.   At some point a guy should be able to understand, get some therapy, and avoid the thing he sucks at until he atleast understands it. 

My parents divorce f'ed my older bro up, so I realize it is super easy to say and something else to do, but that or failure are really the only two options.
I think we pretty much agree. My bro's character flaws were there no matter if my parents divorced.

My only point was, in response to seven's valid point that his parent's divorce was for the best, is that divorce still takes a toll on the family.

I love seeing my dad happier than he ever would have been with my mom but that's tempered when I see the how much my bro was (and still is) hurt by it.

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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #23 on: July 30, 2014, 09:43:19 PM »
i was 28 when it happened, so like, i didn't really care too much
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Re: The Divorce Thread
« Reply #24 on: July 30, 2014, 10:08:26 PM »

Divorces are hilarious.
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