Author Topic: Planning weddings (Read 88815 times)

puniraptor · « **Reply #100 on:** July 29, 2013, 08:48:20 AM »

Never heard of anyone banning kids at a wedding. Probly people with kids just won't come at all.

If I saw ADULTS ONLY on a reception invite I would assume it was a swinger party gang bang.

SkinnyBenny · « **Reply #101 on:** July 29, 2013, 08:51:37 AM »

Quote from: puniraptor on July 29, 2013, 08:48:20 AM

Never heard of anyone banning kids at a wedding. Probly people with kids just won't come at all.

If I saw ADULTS ONLY on a reception invite I would assume it was a swinger party gang bang.

Well yeah, that's what it is.

I hadn't really heard of it either but apparently it's extremely common.
http://www.google.com/#sclient=psy-ab&q=adults+only+wedding+reception&oq=adults+only+wedding+reception&gs_l=hp.3..0l2j0i22i30j0i8.11765.16583.3.16918.31.22.1.8.8.0.204.2141.15j6j1.22.0....0.0..1c.1.20.psy-ab.uj4y_cDMpr8&pbx=1&bav=on.2,or.r_qf.&bvm=bv.49784469%2Cd.eWU%2Cpv.xjs.s.en_US.MpiVkF51mpA.O&fp=7e20858304b2c495&biw=1277&bih=581

read this psycho bitch's post and then the resulting comments that slay her:
http://www.childfreenews.com/2009/11/no-kids-i-boycott-your-wedding.html

Emo EMAW · « **Reply #102 on:** July 29, 2013, 09:18:19 AM »

We had some crazy kids at my wedding (didn't notice at all during the ceremony). But we had the wedding close to home so the turnout was really good. What I'm saying is that if the wedding is far from your families I wouldn't expect many kids to come anyways; those folks will just stay home.

GoodForAnother · « **Reply #103 on:** July 29, 2013, 09:31:11 AM »

I've never heard of adults only at a wedding

there will be like 30 little kids at mine

puniraptor · « **Reply #104 on:** July 29, 2013, 09:38:03 AM »

I think that if you wanted no kids but wanted people with kids to come and have a good time, booking some child care at the hotel would be a pretty stand up thing to do, and show those people that you actually want them to come and have a good time.

Bloodfart · « **Reply #105 on:** July 29, 2013, 09:42:07 AM »

No way I could have gotten away with telling my family no kids allowed. Would be v ugly. On the flip side my best friend did the no kids thing and his family was fine with it. I guess what I'm saying is do what you want.

SkinnyBenny · « **Reply #106 on:** July 29, 2013, 09:57:28 AM »

Quote from: puniraptor on July 29, 2013, 09:38:03 AM

I think that if you wanted no kids but wanted people with kids to come and have a good time, booking some child care at the hotel would be a pretty stand up thing to do, and show those people that you actually want them to come and have a good time.

Yeah I think that's what we'll do. Seems like a good compromise/gesture of good faith. We definitely want people to bring their kids on the trip if they want to...Plus, the parents are coming to New Orleans, so (at least the few that I've talked to right now) seem like they want a night off from the kids to get super blasted in the Crescent City. The main issue is we don't have seats in the place for the at least 20 kids who would come. But also it's just wasteful to pay a ton of money for each kid who A) won't eat/booze much anyway, and B) will probably too young to remember anything anyway.

Dr.Spaceman · « **Reply #107 on:** July 30, 2013, 07:00:34 PM »

so do you have a date for this thingy yet?

SkinnyBenny · « **Reply #108 on:** July 31, 2013, 12:12:41 AM »

Cire · « **Reply #109 on:** July 31, 2013, 12:17:46 AM »

wife's cousin is getting married in NYC. No kids.

AbeFroman · « **Reply #110 on:** July 31, 2013, 01:50:33 AM »

Sounds like a thing that you'd find common on the coasts, but good luck getting away with that in Kansas

Cartierfor3 · « **Reply #111 on:** July 31, 2013, 12:15:47 PM »

Quote from: Saulbadguy on July 29, 2013, 06:34:35 AM

People who get their friends/family members to officiate their weddings are total dorks.

Also have a 100% divorce rate (only counting weddings I've attended)

That's a weird thing to say. What if your friend/family member is a pastor? Better to find some stranger?

Cartierfor3 · « **Reply #112 on:** July 31, 2013, 12:17:24 PM »

goEMAW has a really strange "anti-kid" groupthink philosophy sometimes. very bizarre.

puniraptor · « **Reply #113 on:** July 31, 2013, 12:22:50 PM »

Quote from: CartierFor3 on July 31, 2013, 12:17:24 PM

goEMAW has a really strange "anti-kid" groupthink philosophy sometimes. very bizarre.

I think we have several "Child-Free Lifestyle" bloggers occupying powerful positions.

bubbles4ksu · « **Reply #114 on:** July 31, 2013, 12:28:44 PM »

The desire to be childless is an evolutionary novel behavior and thus a symptom of intelligence. I read that in a book once.

Cartierfor3 · « **Reply #115 on:** July 31, 2013, 12:30:43 PM »

Quote from: bubbles4ksu on July 31, 2013, 12:28:44 PM

The desire to be childless is an evolutionary novel behavior and thus a symptom of intelligence. I read that in a book once.

that is stupid.

michigancat · « **Reply #116 on:** July 31, 2013, 12:45:07 PM »

Quote from: CartierFor3 on July 31, 2013, 12:17:24 PM

goEMAW has a really strange "anti-kid" groupthink philosophy sometimes. very bizarre.

I think it's just sys.

Dr Rick Daris · « **Reply #117 on:** July 31, 2013, 01:11:00 PM »

i got invited to a no kid wedding a year ago. it was in tulsa. best thing that could've happened, because it gave us an excuse not to go. ftb.

Kat Kid · « **Reply #118 on:** July 31, 2013, 01:26:32 PM »

My wife is a bridesmaid at a no kid N.O. wedding this fall. Sounds fine. I don't think you are under any obligation to set up child care for people at a hotel. That is insane. People will either not come if they live pretty far away or they will leave their kids at home (especially if they are close). Self-important people will call asking if they are the exception to your rule.

I hope you don't have some idiot friend officiating. Also, don't embarrass yourself by showing up looking like Harry Dunne, save that for your funeral.

jmlynch1 · « **Reply #119 on:** July 31, 2013, 01:34:33 PM »

Quote from: Kat Kid on July 31, 2013, 01:26:32 PM

Also, don't embarrass yourself by showing up looking like Harry Dunne, save that for your funeral.

I like how, given the audience, that this comment is not only completely necessary but also likely to be completely ignored.

_33 · « **Reply #120 on:** July 31, 2013, 01:37:10 PM »

Who will be the ring bearer/flower girl? Looks like you didn't think this through.

XocolateThundarr · « **Reply #121 on:** July 31, 2013, 01:39:36 PM »

Quote from: _33 on July 31, 2013, 01:37:10 PM

Who will be the ring bearer/flower girl? Looks like you didn't think this through.

Dr Rick Daris · « **Reply #122 on:** July 31, 2013, 01:52:26 PM »

i also think that anybody who does something other than the standard wedding w/ a reception that has some food and booze after is a complete trouble making weirdo.

like, you want to reinvent the wheel by having a no kids wedding? lol ok dork. prepare to get made fun of. wedding with no booze and a string quartet in the corner. wtf? great call, idiot. wedding on a sunday evening of a three day weekend because of labor day? oh wow. how'd you come up with that doozy a-hole?

cause at the end of the day it's not really about you. it's about the people that were nice enough to cancel whatever else they could have been doing that weekend to show some support for you and the person that you are choosing to attempt to spend the rest of your life wife. let them bring a kid or two if they want to. let them have a glass of wine or two or six if they choose. i mean my goodness.

Cartierfor3 · « **Reply #123 on:** July 31, 2013, 02:02:08 PM »

I like when at the end of the buffet they have a guy who cuts you a slice of roast beef. Horseradish?

Bonus points if he has a tall white chef hat.

Kat Kid · « **Reply #124 on:** July 31, 2013, 02:03:06 PM »

People that send invitations get to set some terms, people who receive invitations get to decide whether they want to accept those terms and come. All the points you made are from the perspective of a guest at a wedding, most of the stuff he posted is from the perspective of someone planning a wedding. These are two different parties, their interests may not always align perfectly. If you are butthurt enough not to show only because you are not allowed to bring your kids, then the terms of the invitation were an excellent filter.