Author Topic: Planning weddings (Read 87150 times)

slimz · « **Reply #75 on:** April 20, 2013, 03:23:03 AM »

Quote from: SkinnyBenny on April 18, 2013, 04:09:38 PM

OK cat, what's the protocol for this?:

Bride has a good friend in Seattle, not in the wedding, who is a pro photog of weddings and babies and stuff. Thinking of asking her. Should we expect her to cut us a deal since she's good buds with Ms. SB or should we pay her what she would normally get? Or, if we offered to buy her flight to NOLA and pay for her hotel room in exchange for her services, would she see that as an insult? Or what? She's pretty laid back most of the time.

OK will be able to provide a more definitive answer, but from what I've seen on wedding photog blogs, some of them want to just attend friends weddings as guests without having to worry about photos, some are willing to do photos. Best bet is probably to approach her as you would any other wedding photographer, and she can say "Oh, I'd like to just attend," or "I'd love to take photos, and I can cut you a deal." But approach it like you're going to pay her the usual rate for her work. It's her business; it's up to her to offer to give you discounted services based on friendship.

Doberman_CATS!!! · « **Reply #76 on:** July 09, 2013, 09:48:53 AM »

I am being forced to attend a wedding in Arnold, KS for one of my fiances gfs. It's totally not a good thing if I tell her I don't want to go right? Has anyone been to Arnold? Thinking about staying in the Hat Friday night then driving to Arnie on Sat before wedding. I don't like driving.

puniraptor · « **Reply #77 on:** July 09, 2013, 09:50:26 AM »

Quote from: Doberman_CATS!!! on July 09, 2013, 09:48:53 AM

I am being forced to attend a wedding in Arnold, KS for one of my fiances gfs. It's totally not a good thing if I tell her I don't want to go right? Has anyone been to Arnold? Thinking about staying in the Hat Friday night then driving to Arnie on Sat before wedding. I don't like driving.

Unless it's interfering with a football weekend, just go party.

Emo EMAW · « **Reply #78 on:** July 09, 2013, 09:57:21 AM »

Small town KS weddings are great because you can pee wherever you want.

Also, wedding I went to did the Capture thing for wedding photos which was a big hit. Recommend.

puniraptor · « **Reply #79 on:** July 09, 2013, 09:59:52 AM »

weddings where you don't know anyone are especially great, cause you don't have to worry about embarrassing anyone. just party.

Tobias · « **Reply #80 on:** July 09, 2013, 10:00:33 AM »

Quote from: puniraptor on July 09, 2013, 09:59:52 AM

weddings where you don't know anyone are especially great, cause you don't have to worry about embarrassing anyone. just party.

yes, love them.

Doberman_CATS!!! · « **Reply #81 on:** July 09, 2013, 10:11:39 AM »

Noted

SkinnyBenny · « **Reply #82 on:** July 09, 2013, 10:49:21 PM »

Quote from: Emo EMAW on July 09, 2013, 09:57:21 AM

Small town KS weddings are great because you can pee wherever you want.

Also, wedding I went to did the Capture thing for wedding photos which was a big hit. Recommend.

Hope you're not talking about photo booths with totes hilarious props because those are a bit played out iyam

GoodForAnother · « **Reply #83 on:** July 09, 2013, 10:53:37 PM »

boy oh boy guys. is there anything more fun than spending a saturday making save the dates? man, just a great time for everyone.

SkinnyBenny · « **Reply #84 on:** July 09, 2013, 11:50:28 PM »

Quote from: GoodForAnother on July 09, 2013, 10:53:37 PM

boy oh boy guys. is there anything more fun than spending a saturday making save the dates? man, just a great time for everyone.

Doing that this Saturday.

SkinnyBenny · « **Reply #85 on:** July 09, 2013, 11:51:40 PM »

LOLJK, partying my brains out Saturday and watching as many old ksu cat football games as I can.

Emo EMAW · « **Reply #86 on:** July 10, 2013, 08:38:29 AM »

Quote from: SkinnyBenny on July 09, 2013, 10:49:21 PM

Quote from: Emo EMAW on July 09, 2013, 09:57:21 AM
Small town KS weddings are great because you can pee wherever you want.

Also, wedding I went to did the Capture thing for wedding photos which was a big hit. Recommend.

Hope you're not talking about photo booths with totes hilarious props because those are a bit played out iyam

No. It's like an app/website where everyone at the wedding can dump their cell phone pics for everyone to see. Especially fun for weddings because holy crap I don't remember taking a many of them once we hit Aggieville for the second time that day.

TheCatFanSpeaks · « **Reply #87 on:** July 10, 2013, 10:38:30 AM »

Quote from: Emo EMAW on July 10, 2013, 08:38:29 AM

No. It's like an app/website where everyone at the wedding can dump their cell phone pics for everyone to see. Especially fun for weddings because holy crap I don't remember taking a many of them once we hit Aggieville for the second time that day.

That's a really good idea, imo.

SkinnyBenny · « **Reply #88 on:** July 10, 2013, 06:47:08 PM »

Will be using.

Shacks · « **Reply #89 on:** July 10, 2013, 08:24:54 PM »

Quote from: Tobias on July 09, 2013, 10:00:33 AM

Quote from: puniraptor on July 09, 2013, 09:59:52 AM
weddings where you don't know anyone are especially great, cause you don't have to worry about embarrassing anyone. just party.

yes, love them.

Girlfriend just dragged me to my first "don't know anyone except my gf" wedding/reception a couple weeks ago, it was horrible. Like, the wedding itself was nice and there was pretty good food and free beer but I absolutely hated spending that much time around ~300 people I had never met. Plus, it was in her hometown in Nebraska so we were there the whole weekend and I got screwed out of a few hundred dollars (had to miss a big baseball tournament I was asked to umpire that weekend). All in all, I'd rather pay Mike Tyson to use my testicles as a punching bag instead of doing that again. Pulling that crap during football season would be an offense worthy of a break up.

SkinnyBenny · « **Reply #90 on:** July 10, 2013, 08:33:05 PM »

I made it clear to Future Mrs. SB that I don't go to weddings that conflict with khat games. Also made it immediately clear that we would not be getting married during football or basketball season. She was cool with both of those things.

Kat Kid · « **Reply #91 on:** July 10, 2013, 10:10:41 PM »

Quote from: SkinnyBenny on July 10, 2013, 08:33:05 PM

I made it clear to Future Mrs. SB that I don't go to weddings that conflict with khat games. Also made it immediately clear that we would not be getting married during football or basketball season. She was cool with both of those things.

The idea of you married is very weird. Decent chance that thing gets called off?

SkinnyBenny · « **Reply #92 on:** July 10, 2013, 10:50:16 PM »

Quote from: Kat Kid on July 10, 2013, 10:10:41 PM

Quote from: SkinnyBenny on July 10, 2013, 08:33:05 PM
I made it clear to Future Mrs. SB that I don't go to weddings that conflict with khat games. Also made it immediately clear that we would not be getting married during football or basketball season. She was cool with both of those things.

The idea of you married is very weird. Decent chance that thing gets called off?

Emo EMAW · « **Reply #93 on:** July 10, 2013, 11:06:23 PM »

Guys the picture thing is called Capsule. Not Capture. My bad.

SkinnyBenny · « **Reply #94 on:** July 29, 2013, 12:18:50 AM »

So I think we're going to do a hard and fast NO KIDS on this one for both the ceremony and reception. At first I felt like this would be a dick move, but in Googling it apparently it's a pretty common thing to put "Adults only" on the invitation...and even after this it's still common for at least one dillweed to call and ask if she can bring her little angel.

Any of you marriedcats have Adults Only reception? Is it weird or unreasonable to ask that? Because we're going to do it anyway. (First of all, it's really rough ridin' expensive to put on weddings even when you're a

. Every head that walks through the door costs like a billion dollars. Secondly, it's in New Orleans and is going to be a total boozefest shitshow and we want the adults to have fun. Third, been reading a lot of wedding blogs lately you guys and it seems like sometimes when there are a thousand kids there it's often chaotic and turns into a bit of a romper room.

Fourth, really small venue. Precious few seats, both at the ceremony and the reception.

I guess what I'm asking is does this mean I have to provide childcare at the hotel or what? Because we're considering it since so many people will be coming from out of town.

Saulbadguy · « **Reply #95 on:** July 29, 2013, 06:34:35 AM »

People who get their friends/family members to officiate their weddings are total dorks.

Also have a 100% divorce rate (only counting weddings I've attended)

SkinnyBenny · « **Reply #96 on:** July 29, 2013, 08:22:47 AM »

Quote from: Saulbadguy on July 29, 2013, 06:34:35 AM

People who get their friends/family members to officiate their weddings are total dorks.

Also have a 100% divorce rate (only counting weddings I've attended)

Ya that's why we're getting this guy:

puniraptor · « **Reply #97 on:** July 29, 2013, 08:23:58 AM »

Quote from: Saulbadguy on July 29, 2013, 06:34:35 AM

People who get their friends/family members to officiate their weddings are total dorks.

Also have a 100% divorce rate (only counting weddings I've attended)

pro family or friend here. why hire some hobo?

Emo EMAW · « **Reply #98 on:** July 29, 2013, 08:42:41 AM »

Quote from: SkinnyBenny on July 29, 2013, 12:18:50 AM

So I think we're going to do a hard and fast NO KIDS on this one for both the ceremony and reception. At first I felt like this would be a dick move, but in Googling it apparently it's a pretty common thing to put "Adults only" on the invitation...and even after this it's still common for at least one dillweed to call and ask if she can bring her little angel.

Any of you marriedcats have Adults Only reception? Is it weird or unreasonable to ask that? Because we're going to do it anyway. (First of all, it's really rough ridin' expensive to put on weddings even when you're a . Every head that walks through the door costs like a billion dollars. Secondly, it's in New Orleans and is going to be a total boozefest shitshow and we want the adults to have fun. Third, been reading a lot of wedding blogs lately you guys and it seems like sometimes when there are a thousand kids there it's often chaotic and turns into a bit of a romper room. Fourth, really small venue. Precious few seats, both at the ceremony and the reception.

I guess what I'm asking is does this mean I have to provide childcare at the hotel or what? Because we're considering it since so many people will be coming from out of town.

Is this like a destination wedding? Are either you or her from NO?

SkinnyBenny · « **Reply #99 on:** July 29, 2013, 08:46:31 AM »

Canadian friend lives in NO.