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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #75 on: February 15, 2012, 10:11:19 PM »
What if we had a goEMAW bachelorette, did video podcasts this summer and auctioned off competition spots for our 2012-2013 goEMAW Philanthropy?

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #76 on: February 15, 2012, 10:13:34 PM »
What if we had a goEMAW bachelorette, did video podcasts this summer and auctioned off competition spots for our 2012-2013 goEMAW Philanthropy?

Oh my.

Can we use the offices of Powercat Illustrated so the contestants can get ready in privacy?

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #77 on: February 15, 2012, 10:19:21 PM »
What if we had a goEMAW bachelorette, did video podcasts this summer and auctioned off competition spots for our 2012-2013 goEMAW Philanthropy?

Oh my.

Can we use the offices of Powercat Illustrated so the contestants can get ready in privacy?

Still live in Philly 

I dont think any contestants would even be close enough.

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #78 on: February 15, 2012, 10:23:26 PM »
clams, sd and torts all come with good stuff here. also, my guess is that bluetooth is gay (not that there's anything wrong w/ that), but that's for a different thread.

in addition to some of the stuff that clams said, my guess is that you are somewhat introverted and for some reason not as confident as you should be. go out on dates. a lot of them. you can go out with a guy once or twice and tell him you aren't interested. that's an ok and normal thing to do. the more you do it, the better you'll get at it. dating is basically like job interviewing and jobs. sometimes you want the job and they don't want you and sometimes it might be the opposite. maybe you get the job but decide you don't like it six months later. idk... but the more that you interview and the more jobs you have then the better you are at both getting them and keeping them if you want them and at declining them and resigning or whatever if you don't.

you def need to find a way to get involved and meet a lot of people outside of work, but it's prob hard because i'm guessing you're very busy work wise. honestly, internet seems like a good option for you. good luck with whatever you decide.

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #79 on: February 15, 2012, 10:29:02 PM »
clams, sd and torts all come with good stuff here. also, my guess is that bluetooth is gay (not that there's anything wrong w/ that), but that's for a different thread.

in addition to some of the stuff that clams said, my guess is that you are somewhat introverted and for some reason not as confident as you should be. go out on dates. a lot of them. you can go out with a guy once or twice and tell him you aren't interested. that's an ok and normal thing to do. the more you do it, the better you'll get at it. dating is basically like job interviewing and jobs. sometimes you want the job and they don't want you and sometimes it might be the opposite. maybe you get the job but decide you don't like it six months later. idk... but the more that you interview and the more jobs you have then the better you are at both getting them and keeping them if you want them and at declining them and resigning or whatever if you don't.

you def need to find a way to get involved and meet a lot of people outside of work, but it's prob hard because i'm guessing you're very busy work wise. honestly, internet seems like a good option for you. good luck with whatever you decide.

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #80 on: February 15, 2012, 10:38:18 PM »
Are you independent?
What is your career?  Does it define you?
How many cats do you own?
How do you dress when you go out?
Describe the men you have been with.
What kind of guys are you going for?
Do you identify with feminists?

Asking this first, then I'm going to read the rest of this thread and see how much bad advice is being given.  Answer these questions truthfully, and I will send you on the right path.

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #81 on: February 15, 2012, 10:42:26 PM »
Are you independent?
What is your career?  Does it define you?
How many cats do you own?
How do you dress when you go out?
Describe the men you have been with.
What kind of guys are you going for?
Do you identify with feminists?

Asking this first, then I'm going to read the rest of this thread and see how much bad advice is being given.  Answer these questions truthfully, and I will send you on the right path.

i've met emawgeddon twice and feel super qualified to answer...

yes.
law. yes and no.
none.
casual.
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slightly more dominant.
sure. i guess.

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #82 on: February 15, 2012, 10:43:48 PM »
Are you independent? Yes.
What is your career?  Does it define you?  Attorney.  No.
How many cats do you own? Zero.
How do you dress when you go out? Depends.  (NOT FAT)
Describe the men you have been with.  Lately, other attorneys.
What kind of guys are you going for?  I just want someone who is nice and makes me laugh and isnt a total idiot.
Do you identify with feminists?  No.


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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #83 on: February 15, 2012, 10:48:37 PM »
Are you independent? Yes.
What is your career?  Does it define you?  Attorney.  No.
How many cats do you own? Zero.
How do you dress when you go out? Depends.  (NOT FAT)
Describe the men you have been with.  Lately, other attorneys.
What kind of guys are you going for?  I just want someone who is nice and makes me laugh and isnt a total idiot.
Do you identify with feminists?  No.



that fact that you said your career doesn't define you but then said that lately you've been dating other attorneys seems somewhat disingenous. not sure if i used that word correctly.

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #84 on: February 15, 2012, 10:49:13 PM »
let me do my best Dr.Clamsphil:

my guess (based upon the little that i know of you), is that you intimidate the majority of the men you're meeting. most guys don't like that, some guys are attracted to it. finding the right combo of guy who isn't intimidated, is single, and interested, is going to be slightly more difficult than what other women have to deal with.  the reality is you're probably fine on your own more often than not and would be in a worse place attempting to be with someone who you try to "make it work with", because you're just not that type of girl.

I AM MORE THAN MY PAYCHECK.

Also this reminds me another guy recently told me he didn't want to date me because I made 3x as much as him  :shakesfist:

Nice call 'clams.  EMAWgeddon, your first mistake was getting a legitimate job.  Most ideal would be schoolteacher, nurse, secretary, something feminine.  It doesn't work well if a woman dates down, so the fact that you have a good job means you've cut the amount of potential mates in half.  This isn't a good thing.


in addition to some of the stuff that clams said, my guess is that you are somewhat introverted and for some reason not as confident as you should be. go out on dates. a lot of them. you can go out with a guy once or twice and tell him you aren't interested.

Women aren't supposed to be the confident ones.  They're supposed to be shy, giggly, submissive, keep in good shape, etc (see Asian girls).  EMAWgeddon, if you want an alpha male, this is the way you're going to have to act.  Otherwise you'll be viewed as a pump and dump.

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #85 on: February 15, 2012, 10:50:45 PM »
Are you independent? Yes.
What is your career?  Does it define you?  Attorney.  No.
How many cats do you own? Zero.
How do you dress when you go out? Depends.  (NOT FAT)
Describe the men you have been with.  Lately, other attorneys.
What kind of guys are you going for?  I just want someone who is nice and makes me laugh and isnt a total idiot.
Do you identify with feminists?  No.



that fact that you said your career doesn't define you but then said that lately you've been dating other attorneys seems somewhat disingenous. not sure if i used that word correctly.

It's hard to meet people who are not attorneys.

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #86 on: February 15, 2012, 10:52:05 PM »
My goodness. She doesn't have to act giggly, dismissive,  and shy to meet a guy. What a joke.

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #87 on: February 15, 2012, 10:53:41 PM »
Are you independent? Yes.
What is your career?  Does it define you?  Attorney.  No.
How many cats do you own? Zero.
How do you dress when you go out? Depends.  (NOT FAT)
Describe the men you have been with.  Lately, other attorneys.
What kind of guys are you going for?  I just want someone who is nice and makes me laugh and isnt a total idiot.
Do you identify with feminists?  No.



that fact that you said your career doesn't define you but then said that lately you've been dating other attorneys seems somewhat disingenous. not sure if i used that word correctly.

It's hard to meet people who are not attorneys.

if your career somewhat defines you than i'm sure it is.  :dunno:

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #88 on: February 15, 2012, 10:55:40 PM »
Are you independent? Yes.
What is your career?  Does it define you?  Attorney.  No.
How many cats do you own? Zero.
How do you dress when you go out? Depends.  (NOT FAT)
Describe the men you have been with.  Lately, other attorneys.
What kind of guys are you going for?  I just want someone who is nice and makes me laugh and isnt a total idiot.
Do you identify with feminists?  No.



that fact that you said your career doesn't define you but then said that lately you've been dating other attorneys seems somewhat disingenous. not sure if i used that word correctly.

It's hard to meet people who are not attorneys.

if your career somewhat defines you than i'm sure it is.  :dunno:

I work like 80 hours a week.  And I have to go to networking things with only other attorneys.  The only people I am friends with here are people I went to law school with who are also attorneys.

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #89 on: February 15, 2012, 11:02:51 PM »
Sounds like everything EMAWgeddon is looking for in a man is equivalent to our fanning.   :blush:

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #90 on: February 15, 2012, 11:04:06 PM »
Are you independent? Yes.
What is your career?  Does it define you?  Attorney.  No.
How many cats do you own? Zero.
How do you dress when you go out? Depends.  (NOT FAT)
Describe the men you have been with.  Lately, other attorneys.
What kind of guys are you going for?  I just want someone who is nice and makes me laugh and isnt a total idiot.
Do you identify with feminists?  No.

A female attorney is about as masculine as it gets for women (besides professional sports).  I asked you 7 questions but the answer is simple really.  Be more submissive, girly, dress more feminine.  When you find a confident guy, let him lead you.  Course you'll have to "test" him for his confidence but don't be cuntish about it.  If you continue to be on the dominant side, it'll drive away the better guys, and eventually you would have to settle for some pussy chump since that is the only option either of you have.

If you want further reading, there is a blog you can read.  While it is mainly directed at men, it has a lot of posts about relationship dynamics, how dominance factors in relationships, etc.  You'll have to search around though.  Posts like this is an example:
http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2011/03/10/she-wants-you-to-help-her-be-less-independent/

For what its worth, searching for the word "lawyer" will not bring pretty results.

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #91 on: February 15, 2012, 11:04:39 PM »
1) Take out a piece of paper and a pen.

2) Write down how much you made this last year.

3) Put it in the mirror you use to get ready in the morning/before you go out.

What does this accomplish?

You have worth.

Jesus christ this is just top shelf

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #92 on: February 15, 2012, 11:04:55 PM »

I work like 80 hours a week.  And I have to go to networking things with only other attorneys.  The only people I am friends with here are people I went to law school with who are also attorneys.

What things do you like besides attorney type things? Do you have hobbies?

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #93 on: February 15, 2012, 11:05:02 PM »
My goodness. She doesn't have to act giggly, dismissive,  and shy to meet a guy. What a joke.

Any more poop you would like to post?

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #94 on: February 15, 2012, 11:10:27 PM »

I work like 80 hours a week.  And I have to go to networking things with only other attorneys.  The only people I am friends with here are people I went to law school with who are also attorneys.

What things do you like besides attorney type things? Do you have hobbies?

ksucats.

I run for fun. 

I go out a lot.  And I make jokes.  Also goEMAW.

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #95 on: February 15, 2012, 11:16:51 PM »
In case you were wondering for entertainment value.

This is how I got rejected tonight via text message:

hey EMAWgeddon So I've had a lot of fun hanging out and would really like to hang out with you again, but only as friends.  I really like you but I dont see a long term relationship blossoming and that's what I'm looking for at this point.  Sorry if we moved things too fast in light of all of this, but I honestly didn't come to this conclusion until now after thinking things through.

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #96 on: February 15, 2012, 11:27:05 PM »
you should break fanning's heart to get your swag back.
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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #97 on: February 15, 2012, 11:27:26 PM »
In case you were wondering for entertainment value.

This is how I got rejected tonight via text message:

hey EMAWgeddon So I've had a lot of fun hanging out and would really like to hang out with you again, but only as friends.  I really like you but I dont see a long term relationship blossoming and that's what I'm looking for at this point.  Sorry if we moved things too fast in light of all of this, but I honestly didn't come to this conclusion until now after thinking things through.
aka I sexed you up, I'm done now.  :rolleyes:

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #98 on: February 15, 2012, 11:28:58 PM »
In case you were wondering for entertainment value.

This is how I got rejected tonight via text message:

hey EMAWgeddon So I've had a lot of fun hanging out and would really like to hang out with you again, but only as friends.  I really like you but I dont see a long term relationship blossoming and that's what I'm looking for at this point.  Sorry if we moved things too fast in light of all of this, but I honestly didn't come to this conclusion until now after thinking things through.

Ouch.

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Re: I need some personal development
« Reply #99 on: February 15, 2012, 11:29:59 PM »
In case you were wondering for entertainment value.

This is how I got rejected tonight via text message:

hey EMAWgeddon So I've had a lot of fun hanging out and would really like to hang out with you again, but only as friends.  I really like you but I dont see a long term relationship blossoming and that's what I'm looking for at this point.  Sorry if we moved things too fast in light of all of this, but I honestly didn't come to this conclusion until now after thinking things through.
aka I sexed you up, I'm done now.  :rolleyes:

Yup. He'll meet you for coffee or lunch if you decide to talk to him again and then you won't hear from him after that.

Go find a dude who enjoys the challenge of dating an independent woman and try and make things work with him. That or do what stunted said, but you'd have to sacrifice more of your personality to do that.