clams, sd and torts all come with good stuff here. also, my guess is that bluetooth is gay (not that there's anything wrong w/ that), but that's for a different thread.
in addition to some of the stuff that clams said, my guess is that you are somewhat introverted and for some reason not as confident as you should be. go out on dates. a lot of them. you can go out with a guy once or twice and tell him you aren't interested. that's an ok and normal thing to do. the more you do it, the better you'll get at it. dating is basically like job interviewing and jobs. sometimes you want the job and they don't want you and sometimes it might be the opposite. maybe you get the job but decide you don't like it six months later. idk... but the more that you interview and the more jobs you have then the better you are at both getting them and keeping them if you want them and at declining them and resigning or whatever if you don't.
you def need to find a way to get involved and meet a lot of people outside of work, but it's prob hard because i'm guessing you're very busy work wise. honestly, internet seems like a good option for you. good luck with whatever you decide.
