I need some personal development

[steve dave]

clams gives good advice there.  you are choosing the wrong guys.  just from our extremely limited personal interactions I think you'd be a hell of a catch.  plus, you were WAY too good for the bluetooth guy anyway.  

[Dingo]

I thought I was going to get some real answers here.

I'm breaking out the Adele.

Move back to Kansas. Find a true EMAW. He won't be able to help but love you in return.

Whatever you do, do not rough ridin' move back to Kansas.  Anywhere else you could be after Kansas is a rough ridin' pleasure cruise.  Take it from the idiot who moved back there on a whim. 

[8manpick]

Real answer, and I know the clowns on the board don't want to hear it.

Stop looking for the future spouse.  Look to have a good time.  Not necessarily putting out, just hanging loose, playing the field.  Nothing drives a man crazier than knowing the woman he is dating MIGHT be with another man as well. 

Years ago in college, I dated a girl who had other guys she was seeing.  It got hot at times, but never went all the way.  She was no virgin but didn't believe in casual sex, so she said.  So we hung out, dated, got to know each other, and I was freaking crazy about her.  At last, of all the guys she picked, I was the one who won.  I was the victor.

Or so I thought.

We are no longer an item but are Facebook friends.  She admitted to me awhile back that there were no other guys, that when we met there was immediate chemistry, but she could tell I was noncommital.  So she played this whole "I'm dating around" game to pique my interest.  It worked ... for awhile. 

Hey, it's worth a shot.  And it probably works even better if you DO have other guys on the side.  That way, when they all get super into you because they want to be the "winner," you can pick the guy who best suits your needs.

Oh, and another thing.  Relationships are overrated and only desired by those who are not in one. 

[Pete]

Obviously I am in no position to give advice on these sorts of matters...



But, my guess is that you are dating douche bags.  Guys who have something about them that leads you to believe you like them, but it's more the idea of them that you like.  It's not working and they pick up on that.  

Go date a dude who is nothing like your last string of dudes.  Also, maybe don't jam a riding crop up their ass until like the 5th or 6th date.

[Stevesie60]

Wow, Dingo's posts have been so entertaining ever since he outted himself as CatMatt.

[SwiftCat]

Stop looking for the future spouse.  Look to have a good time.  Not necessarily putting out, just hanging loose, playing the field.  Nothing drives a man crazier than knowing the woman he is dating MIGHT be with another man as well. 

This is horrible advice. Don't play games, that is the complete opposite of long-term.

[Bloodfart]

My advice is don't take advice.

[Dingo]

Stop looking for the future spouse.  Look to have a good time.  Not necessarily putting out, just hanging loose, playing the field.  Nothing drives a man crazier than knowing the woman he is dating MIGHT be with another man as well. 

I disagree.  Also, if you really want to make it happen, check out a goofy movie on Netflix called Play the Game, starring Andy Griffith.  It's newer.  It's a bit twisted, and there's a disturbing scene where the ugly old broad who played Jerry Seinfeld's mother gives Andy Griffith head, but at the very end Ray Romano's mom and the cute chick who was the receptionist in The Practice spell out exactly their plan to get a noncommital guy to commit.

Love as a feeling is a myth.  It's a freaking action.  The rest is chemical response in the brain brought on by manipulation.  Learn to manipulate, and you'll have your pick of the litter. 

This is horrible advice. Don't play games, that is the complete opposite of long-term.

[star seed 7]

Your proof is a movie?

Is twilight your proof of vampires?

[EMAWgeddon]

Stop looking for the future spouse.  Look to have a good time.  Not necessarily putting out, just hanging loose, playing the field.  Nothing drives a man crazier than knowing the woman he is dating MIGHT be with another man as well. 

This is horrible advice. Don't play games, that is the complete opposite of long-term.

I don't play games that is stupid. 

[EMAWgeddon]

 plus, you were WAY too good for the bluetooth guy anyway.  

This seems to be the consensus. 

I don't know why it is so hard.  I don't have a terrible face, I am well educated, I like sports, I am really easy going. It should be so easy.

[Panjandrum]

Chin up.  I was in the middle of the worst streak of my life, decided I was just going to have a casual relationship for the fun of it, and I ended up marrying the girl.

It's nothing you're doing wrong.  Sometimes, you just get a run of bad luck.  It happens to the best of us.

[j-dub]

 plus, you were WAY too good for the bluetooth guy anyway.  

This seems to be the consensus. 

I don't know why it is so hard.  I don't have a terrible face, I am well educated, I like sports, I am really easy going. It should be so easy.

i don't know you, but you sound great. stay confident and easy going and good things will eventually happen.

[jtksu]

I would suggest more ass-play. 

[Johnny Wichita]

Real answer, and I know the clowns on the board don't want to hear it.

Stop looking for the future spouse.  Look to have a good time.  Not necessarily putting out, just hanging loose, playing the field.  Nothing drives a man crazier than knowing the woman he is dating MIGHT be with another man as well. 

Years ago in college, I dated a girl who had other guys she was seeing.  It got hot at times, but never went all the way.  She was no virgin but didn't believe in casual sex, so she said.  So we hung out, dated, got to know each other, and I was freaking crazy about her.  At last, of all the guys she picked, I was the one who won.  I was the victor.

Or so I thought.

We are no longer an item but are Facebook friends.  She admitted to me awhile back that there were no other guys, that when we met there was immediate chemistry, but she could tell I was noncommital.  So she played this whole "I'm dating around" game to pique my interest.  It worked ... for awhile. 

Hey, it's worth a shot.  And it probably works even better if you DO have other guys on the side.  That way, when they all get super into you because they want to be the "winner," you can pick the guy who best suits your needs.

Oh, and another thing.  Relationships are overrated and only desired by those who are not in one. 

Oh, so the method you are prescribing completely failed the one time you had any experience with it?  Probably could have made that post a little shorter.  Thanks for the overshare though. 

[SwiftCat]

 plus, you were WAY too good for the bluetooth guy anyway.  

This seems to be the consensus. 

I don't know why it is so hard.  I don't have a terrible face, I am well educated, I like sports, I am really easy going. It should be so easy.

You seem like a catch to me? Just do things you like and meet genuine people. You'll find somebody.

[Trim]

Okay bros, why don't you guys tell me why men don't see me as long-term relationship material.

A couple theories.  Just brainstorming here.

I was in Canada for the holidays last December and went to a watch party in Edmonton for the Hawaii 'ship game.  Actually ran into a guy that had met you.  He said bluetooth boyfriend or otherwise, you put out a strong lesbian vibe (he was actually doing this when he said it, lol).  Something about you liking things most girls don't.  I don't thing he's right, but maybe whatever vibe you're putting out is scaring dudes - at least those looking for a long-term relationship - off.

Also, FANNING HAS A 9+ PAGE MASTER DATING THREAD, yet you apparently felt you were too good for it.  Are you stuck up?  Do you maybe give off that impression without even knowing it?  Maybe come around goEMAW more often for a slice of humble pie to keep that in check.

If any other possibilities come to mind, I'll post.

I'm printing the crap out of this thread.

This really was fantastic, hemmy.

[puniraptor]

Utilize winks. Winks are amazing.

[Rams]

Mods, please change Dingo's name to "Catmatt a.k.a. DNR". tia

[Stevesie60]

To be far, fanning's thread is about problems dating girls, and funny stories that come along with those problems. EMAWgeddon's is much more personal, and asking a group of guys what they're looking for in girls (more or less).

[Trim]

To be far, fanning's thread is about problems dating girls, and funny stories that come along with those problems. EMAWgeddon's is much more personal, and asking a group of guys what they're looking for in girls (more or less).

It's a master thread, stevesie.

[Pete]

Okay bros, why don't you guys tell me why men don't see me as long-term relationship material.

A couple theories.  Just brainstorming here.

I was in Canada for the holidays last December and went to a watch party in Edmonton for the Hawaii 'ship game.  Actually ran into a guy that had met you.  He said bluetooth boyfriend or otherwise, you put out a strong lesbian vibe (he was actually doing this when he said it, lol).  Something about you liking things most girls don't.  I don't thing he's right, but maybe whatever vibe you're putting out is scaring dudes - at least those looking for a long-term relationship - off.

Also, FANNING HAS A 9+ PAGE MASTER DATING THREAD, yet you apparently felt you were too good for it.  Are you stuck up?  Do you maybe give off that impression without even knowing it?  Maybe come around goEMAW more often for a slice of humble pie to keep that in check.

If any other possibilities come to mind, I'll post.

I'm printing the crap out of this thread.

This really was fantastic, hemmy.

Your Canadian friend was probably just hammered and joking and things were way over blown.  It's the metric system.

[wetwillie]

Have you tried those high roller executive dating services they advertise in skymall? I think it might fast track you to where clams advised you to be.

[Stevesie60]

To be far, fanning's thread is about problems dating girls, and funny stories that come along with those problems. EMAWgeddon's is much more personal, and asking a group of guys what they're looking for in girls (more or less).

It's a master thread, stevesie.

I'm a huge advocate of master threads, but the topics are barely related
.

[EMAWgeddon]

To be far, fanning's thread is about problems dating girls, and funny stories that come along with those problems. EMAWgeddon's is much more personal, and asking a group of guys what they're looking for in girls (more or less).

It's a master thread, stevesie.

It just didn't feel right.