Real answer, and I know the clowns on the board don't want to hear it.
Stop looking for the future spouse. Look to have a good time. Not necessarily putting out, just hanging loose, playing the field. Nothing drives a man crazier than knowing the woman he is dating MIGHT be with another man as well.
Years ago in college, I dated a girl who had other guys she was seeing. It got hot at times, but never went all the way. She was no virgin but didn't believe in casual sex, so she said. So we hung out, dated, got to know each other, and I was freaking crazy about her. At last, of all the guys she picked, I was the one who won. I was the victor.
Or so I thought.
We are no longer an item but are Facebook friends. She admitted to me awhile back that there were no other guys, that when we met there was immediate chemistry, but she could tell I was noncommital. So she played this whole "I'm dating around" game to pique my interest. It worked ... for awhile.
Hey, it's worth a shot. And it probably works even better if you DO have other guys on the side. That way, when they all get super into you because they want to be the "winner," you can pick the guy who best suits your needs.
Oh, and another thing. Relationships are overrated and only desired by those who are not in one.
