i can't imagine snyder saying "n-word" but i also can't imagine him caring that his players said "nigga" in a private setting.
i respect patterson quite a bit for trying to police the use of that word on his team, and the more so within the dynamic of a white coach/black player.
oth, the thing where he's making fun of the player's girlfriend or whatever he was doing reads as a stereotype of the absolutely worst type of boundary overstepping coach and transitioning from the one to the other does make me question his motives in the way rusty mentions.