If most of the games are local you don’t have to go to every game. I did, but was usually a coach. I’m not advocating never going, rarely going, or neglecting kids, but I think riding to a game with a teammate from time to time, and being happy when you do come, rather than expecting you to always be there is a good opportunity for growth, especially with older kids, heading into their teens.
It happens naturally anyway as they age, we didn’t go to every summer league basketball game this year, and the guys exercised their independence by driving one another to some of the games.