They died of dementia a few years back and not to be ruthless, it might be best for some of them. When they forget your name and say constant racist slurs, there’s no help, because they barely know who you are. I hate that this is effecting the elderly, because I wish my grandma and I left on better terms, but she hated life after grandpa left. Was racist AF on her way out and couldn’t stand I had my black friend in the room when I helped her move last.