Kids

[Kat Kid]

Do we have an Old Kids thread?

My youngest is about to go to KSU in the fall.

He is interested in possibly joining a fraternity. I was not involved with that at all back in the day.

Anyone have some cliff notes on what I should recommend, watch out for, etc?

Anyone who was involved, would you do it again knowing what you know?  What would you change?

I was a Theta Xi for like a semester before I basically moved in with my future wife.
Theta Xi has been good in grades and intramurals recently. The truth is it really depends upon the other kids in the class and the house leadership.
Are they trustworthy?
Will they be able to make tough decisions in ethically challenging situations?
Do they seem like they'd work to prevent people dying or being raped?

It seems like these important questions are ones that are only able to be answered after the fact or my son knew someone in the house.

Probably true, but I think asking about how they handle drinking/parties/tailgates is probably a good proxy.

[DQ12]

had a very good experience with fraternity life and would strongly encourage my children to consider it. 

[Stupid Fitz]

Neither Mrs Nicname or I were part of the Greek system. We both agreed that we would encourage our kids to be a part of it. There just seems to be a lot of advantages and opportunities to form strong bonds that aren’t as readily apparent for gdi students.

I was small town white trash and even making it to KSU was a miracle. When I got there it was all pretty big and i struggled at first. Had a few friends, but they were old friends and I knew I wanted to meet more people. I decided to try the greek system and just randomly called a bunch and then visited. Best decision I ever made. It was extremely beneficial for my situation.

[Kat Kid]

had a very good experience with fraternity life and would strongly encourage my children to consider it.

I would agree that your class would be a pretty good result CNS should hope for.

[DQ12]

had a very good experience with fraternity life and would strongly encourage my children to consider it.

I would agree that your class would be a pretty good result CNS should hope for.

you're basically an honorary member

[Kat Kid]

had a very good experience with fraternity life and would strongly encourage my children to consider it.

I would agree that your class would be a pretty good result CNS should hope for.

you're basically an honorary member

 

[Stevesie60]

had a very good experience with fraternity life and would strongly encourage my children to consider it.

I would agree that your class would be a pretty good result CNS should hope for.

Aren't 50% of goEMAW posters from that class?

[michigancat]

Do we have an Old Kids thread?

My youngest is about to go to KSU in the fall.

He is interested in possibly joining a fraternity. I was not involved with that at all back in the day.

Anyone have some cliff notes on what I should recommend, watch out for, etc?

Anyone who was involved, would you do it again knowing what you know?  What would you change?

I don't know if it still goes on but hazing is bad. I knew some people that were pretty mumped up by it.

I'd also ask about what they do to support LGBT members. I knew a guy who was kicked out of his fraternity after coming out to them.

[nicname]

As of today we have an old Jeep Liberty parked in the drive belonging to Nicname Jr*.

*It actually belongs to me.

[mocat]

As of today we have an old Jeep Liberty parked in the drive belonging to Nicname Jr*.

*It actually belongs to me.

Dang they are already in a sorority??


This joke would have killed in like 2007

[nicname]

As of today we have an old Jeep Liberty parked in the drive belonging to Nicname Jr*.

*It actually belongs to me.

Dang they are already in a sorority??


This joke would have killed in like 2007

I did joke to him that it is kind of a girls car. He agreed, but what are we gonna do? My fil is a mechanic and found it, fixed it up and gave it to us for basically nothing.

[nicname]

It even has a window sticker of a stick lady running and a “be kind.” Back wheel cover.

[mocat]

Brother i would have loved to have a jeep liberty in college

[CNS]

Do we have an Old Kids thread?

My youngest is about to go to KSU in the fall.

He is interested in possibly joining a fraternity. I was not involved with that at all back in the day.

Anyone have some cliff notes on what I should recommend, watch out for, etc?

Anyone who was involved, would you do it again knowing what you know?  What would you change?

I don't know if it still goes on but hazing is bad. I knew some people that were pretty mumped up by it.

I'd also ask about what they do to support LGBT members. I knew a guy who was kicked out of his fraternity after coming out to them.

Hazing is my worry.  It’s going to be all up to him, but I want him informed.

[nicname]

Brother i would have loved to have a jeep liberty in college

What about as a HS frosh?!?!?!

[mocat]

Well yes that too obviously but like nobody had a car in 9th grade

[XocolateThundarr]

Do we have an Old Kids thread?

My youngest is about to go to KSU in the fall.

He is interested in possibly joining a fraternity. I was not involved with that at all back in the day.

Anyone have some cliff notes on what I should recommend, watch out for, etc?

Anyone who was involved, would you do it again knowing what you know?  What would you change?

I don't know if it still goes on but hazing is bad. I knew some people that were pretty mumped up by it.

I'd also ask about what they do to support LGBT members. I knew a guy who was kicked out of his fraternity after coming out to them.

Hazing is my worry.  It’s going to be all up to him, but I want him informed.

My oldest graduated last year and finished his KSU career in the Delta Sig house.  He had a great experience after being asked to join.  I've met and talked to a bunch of the guys in his class and they were all very solid dudes.  I was not involved directly with a fraternity when I was in school....however one roomie was an AGR and the other was a Sig Ep.  Also had buds who were Delta Sigs. 

[KST8FAN]

Seems like goEMAW are awesome parents.  Done right, parenting is hard work. Enjoy the stories which just make me look back and wonder how I got thru it.


 Is anyone else here a grandparent yet?  I know I am enjoying the crap out of being Poppa Tom.  We have 4 so far.

Enjoy the off to college talk.  I was the first in our family to go.  Did the dorm all 4 years.  Marlatt was all male then, and we pretty much dominated intramurals.  Being an RA paid for room and board the last 2 years.  Pretty good trade-off for working 2 days a semester (check in/put), run "thick" girls out at midnight, hand out meal cards, deal with the occasional rowdies coming back from Aggieville.


Tom

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[Kat Kid]

Tom that’s fantastic

[steve dave]

Tom that’s fantastic

Yes


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[meow meow]

Tom, i think you meant to say thick girls

[Stupid Fitz]

Do we have an Old Kids thread?

My youngest is about to go to KSU in the fall.

He is interested in possibly joining a fraternity. I was not involved with that at all back in the day.

Anyone have some cliff notes on what I should recommend, watch out for, etc?

Anyone who was involved, would you do it again knowing what you know?  What would you change?

I don't know if it still goes on but hazing is bad. I knew some people that were pretty mumped up by it.

I'd also ask about what they do to support LGBT members. I knew a guy who was kicked out of his fraternity after coming out to them.

Hazing is my worry.  It’s going to be all up to him, but I want him informed.

I'm sure it still happens a bit, but I doubt it's very prominent anymore. If you find a good house that you like, start asking around. With social media and everything out there now, it's pretty tough to keep secrets. All it takes is for one kid to say something and the fraternity is most likely cooked. You can probably look and find the KSU local chapter's ranking nationally or something like that. With all of this in mind, it only takes a couple of pledge classes to change things in a house so you never really know. At the end of the day, I highly doubt significant hazing is very prominent. We had a zero tolerance hazy policy when I was there and I know other houses did. That was 20ish years ago. It's up to the members to enforce it obviously. I just can't imagine being required to do something really crazy or awful these days and it not leaking out immediately.

Honestly, the best piece of advice would be to find a couple of current sorority girls and ask them. They will know which houses to stay away from and everything about the good houses.

[nicname]

Tom, i think you meant to say thick girls

Were there even fat girls in 1980?

[cfbandyman]

Neither Mrs Nicname or I were part of the Greek system. We both agreed that we would encourage our kids to be a part of it. There just seems to be a lot of advantages and opportunities to form strong bonds that aren’t as readily apparent for gdi students.

I was small town white trash and even making it to KSU was a miracle. When I got there it was all pretty big and i struggled at first. Had a few friends, but they were old friends and I knew I wanted to meet more people. I decided to try the greek system and just randomly called a bunch and then visited. Best decision I ever made. It was extremely beneficial for my situation.

Different situation but I know for me joining a house ended up being a net positive. I had a really, really good freshman years not in a house (lived in Moore), and ended up joining a house sophomore year just cause the make up of my floor my second year wasn't as great, not bad by any stretch but needed something that honestly helped keep me going in engineering, as well as in general the HS I went to most people didn't go to Catz U so it was a lot of starting over for me, fraternity life allowed for more consistency.

I have plenty of friends and acquaintances from both in a house and out of, but the ones in the house ended up being overall more enduring and I often talk and hang out with to this day. Very important to having any sort of social safety new when I moved to the KC area and not really knowing anyone.

I just think that as long as any house obviously doesn't haze, party too much, (it's college you're going to experiment and have fun, just within reason right), and I think not take itself too seriously then they are probably good fits. I think my impression having now not been as associated with the day to day going on at my house is since K-State (and a lot of Universities for that matter) have very much distanced themselves from the greek system, I think it has weakened it, but honestly in a good way. I feel like it's more the actual good social and academic groups they intended to be, rather than the super preppy, serious, and often dangerous groups they used to be. But obviously my 

[Stevesie60]

I have a 9 month old daughter and a boy due in June. So they'll be about 15 months apart. Anyone else have kids this close in age and want to tell me I won't die in the first two years?