I mean, here's how I think it probably all went down.
Big 12 person: Hey Kirk, how's it going today? Just thought you should know the KU is threatening to file a complaint against you guys.
Kirk: Oh for Pete's sake
Big 12 person: Yea, it's ridiculous, but you know how it is, we've got to do something
Kirk: Ok, well, how about we just donate $5k to the conference and call it a sportsmanship fine and not have our band director travel to the KU game and call it a "suspension", then have our lawyers write up some mumbo jumbo about upholding sportsmanship?
Big 12 person: Sounds good, maybe say you'll check over their stuff beforehand too.
Kirk: Oh, yea, sure
Big 12 person: Cool, have a good day and good luck this season
Kirk: Thanks. Bye. *click*