neighbor stories

[Pittcat]

Fiance and I just bought a house (she lives there now, no living in sin for us) and one of the neighbors was nice enough to clear off the sidewalk for us when it snowed last week. That's pretty neat.

Which one of the Spani girls are you marrying?

Not a Spani, but she had a kid so we're setting a "good example". Like the kid isn't going to figure it out eventually anyways.

She has a kid, you're not living together until you get married, you bought a house that only she is living in, and "someone" shoveled the walk for her. Ask her what his name is.

Have you guys meet in person yet?

 

[06wildcat]

Fiance and I just bought a house (she lives there now, no living in sin for us) and one of the neighbors was nice enough to clear off the sidewalk for us when it snowed last week. That's pretty neat.

Which one of the Spani girls are you marrying?

Not a Spani, but she had a kid so we're setting a "good example". Like the kid isn't going to figure it out eventually anyways.

She has a kid, you're not living together until you get married, you bought a house that only she is living in, and "someone" shoveled the walk for her. Ask her what his name is.

Have you guys meet in person yet?

No, why do you ask?

[CNS]

Yeah, the new neighbor is trying to bang your fiance. 

Also, LOL at living in sin.  Ppl that don't live together before really seem to be rolling the dice.  I mean, little things can't be hid from each other when you live there.

Little things like if she takes the trash out or if she bangs the neighbor.

Little things are important.

[Stevesie60]

Yeah, the new neighbor is trying to bang your fiance. 

Also, LOL at living in sin.  Ppl that don't live together before really seem to be rolling the dice.  I mean, little things can't be hid from each other when you live there.

Little things like if she takes the trash out or if she bangs the neighbor.

Little things are important.

According to researchers at the University of Denver, couples who lived together before they were engaged have a higher divorce rate and lower marital satisfaction than those who waited until they were married, or at least engaged, to shack up.

Couples who play house pre-engagement are especially doomed for failure if, as many people do, they live together before marriage as a means of testing the relationship. Word of advice: if you feel the need to test your relationship, you probably already know something's wrong with it.

But researchers think this is where another factor comes into play. Rather than treating cohabitation as a profound and lifelong commitment, couples treat it as another stage of dating. So they're quicker to agree to do it than they would be to marry. But once they're living together, they find out breaking up can be next to impossible. Financially they adjust to having just one rent and utilities payment, and all of their stuff is there. A sort of inertia sets in.

After a few years of this, everybody in your life starts pressuring them to get married and they do it, because "that's just what people do."

[Willesgirl]

Fiance and I just bought a house (she lives there now, no living in sin for us) and one of the neighbors was nice enough to clear off the sidewalk for us when it snowed last week. That's pretty neat.

Hey 06,
One vote here for not living together before you're married. Ignore these guys! They're all going to have at least three wives.

[CNS]

The ppl that study describes sound like real losers.  Was this study focused solely on ppl that are losers?

[CNS]

Fiance and I just bought a house (she lives there now, no living in sin for us) and one of the neighbors was nice enough to clear off the sidewalk for us when it snowed last week. That's pretty neat.

Hey 06,
One vote here for not living together before you're married. Ignore these guys! They're all going to have at least three wives.

Please.  Married 11yrs now and happier now than we ever have been.

[Gooch]

Fiance and I just bought a house (she lives there now, no living in sin for us) and one of the neighbors was nice enough to clear off the sidewalk for us when it snowed last week. That's pretty neat.

Hey 06,
One vote here for not living together before you're married. Ignore these guys! They're all going to have at least three wives.

Please.  Married 11yrs 12yrs now and happier now than we ever have been.

Not sure on the bold'd part Mrs. Gooch will need to confirm. 

[star seed 7]

you guys are really old.

[8manpick]

So that study stevesie quoted must be skewed because the bloc of people that believe in not living together before marriage includes (but isn't limited to) the ultra-religious/conservative people who would not live together before marriage, and would also suffer through a miserable life before getting divorced.

[Stevesie60]

So that study stevesie quoted must be skewed because the bloc of people that believe in not living together before marriage includes (but isn't limited to) the ultra-religious/conservative people who would not live together before marriage, and would also suffer through a miserable life before getting divorced.

The church has a higher divorce rate in America than secular couples.

[8manpick]

So that study stevesie quoted must be skewed because the bloc of people that believe in not living together before marriage includes (but isn't limited to) the ultra-religious/conservative people who would not live together before marriage, and would also suffer through a miserable life before getting divorced.

The church has a higher divorce rate in America than secular couples.

The people that go to church on occasion, or those that would identify as very religious?  That surprises me, though.

[Stevesie60]

So that study stevesie quoted must be skewed because the bloc of people that believe in not living together before marriage includes (but isn't limited to) the ultra-religious/conservative people who would not live together before marriage, and would also suffer through a miserable life before getting divorced.

The church has a higher divorce rate in America than secular couples.

The people that go to church on occasion, or those that would identify as very religious?  That surprises me, though.

I'm pretty sure it's church members.

[CNS]

Would love to see some comparos of the divorce rate of non-dumbasses compare to that of dumbasses.

I mean, I think that would really help ppl in analyzing their personal situations. 

[8manpick]

If you are married, don't go to church, or you'll probably get divorced.

[CNS]

Wikipedia, bitches:

Barna report:
Variation in divorce rates by religion:
Religion    % have been divorced
Jews    30%
Born-again Christians    27%
Other Christians    24%
Atheists, Agnostics    21%

[XocolateThundarr]

Fiance and I just bought a house (she lives there now, no living in sin for us) and one of the neighbors was nice enough to clear off the sidewalk for us when it snowed last week. That's pretty neat.

Hey 06,
One vote here for not living together before you're married. Ignore these guys! They're all going to have at least three wives.

Please.  Married 11yrs 12yrs now and happier now than we ever have been.

Not sure on the bold'd part Mrs. Gooch will need to confirm. 

We are going on 13 and I am right there with you.

[Mrs. Gooch]

According to researchers at the University of Denver, couples who lived together before they were engaged have a higher divorce rate and lower marital satisfaction than those who waited until they were married, or at least engaged, to shack up.

Couples who play house pre-engagement are especially doomed for failure if, as many people do, they live together before marriage as a means of testing the relationship. Word of advice: if you feel the need to test your relationship, you probably already know something's wrong with it.

But researchers think this is where another factor comes into play. Rather than treating cohabitation as a profound and lifelong commitment, couples treat it as another stage of dating. So they're quicker to agree to do it than they would be to marry. But once they're living together, they find out breaking up can be next to impossible. Financially they adjust to having just one rent and utilities payment, and all of their stuff is there. A sort of inertia sets in.

After a few years of this, everybody in your life starts pressuring them to get married and they do it, because "that's just what people do."

This has not been my experience.

[Emo EMAW]

According to researchers at the University of Denver, couples who lived together before they were engaged have a higher divorce rate and lower marital satisfaction than those who waited until they were married, or at least engaged, to shack up.

Couples who play house pre-engagement are especially doomed for failure if, as many people do, they live together before marriage as a means of testing the relationship. Word of advice: if you feel the need to test your relationship, you probably already know something's wrong with it.

But researchers think this is where another factor comes into play. Rather than treating cohabitation as a profound and lifelong commitment, couples treat it as another stage of dating. So they're quicker to agree to do it than they would be to marry. But once they're living together, they find out breaking up can be next to impossible. Financially they adjust to having just one rent and utilities payment, and all of their stuff is there. A sort of inertia sets in.

After a few years of this, everybody in your life starts pressuring them to get married and they do it, because "that's just what people do."

This has not been my experience.

What's quoted is true for people who are less fortunate than to have degrees and jobs and financial independence.

[Bloodfart]

(sniff sniff)  Smells like Sodom and Gomorrah in here. 

[Mrs. Gooch]

Fiance and I just bought a house (she lives there now, no living in sin for us) and one of the neighbors was nice enough to clear off the sidewalk for us when it snowed last week. That's pretty neat.

Hey 06,
One vote here for not living together before you're married. Ignore these guys! They're all going to have at least three wives.

Please.  Married 11yrs 12yrs now and happier now than we ever have been.

Not sure on the bold'd part Mrs. Gooch will need to confirm. 

[Bloodfart]

Your town is collectively sending you guys a message.   And that message is suck it/move out.

I won't give up on our town just yet.



Time to clean this dump up.

So I talked to some people around town today and come to find out this crap has been happening all over the place. 

[Bloodfart]

I'm going to start leaving gifts on my front porch (a peace offering of sorts) so the hooligans will leave my place alone.  What do trouble makers fancy these days?   

[06wildcat]

JFC bunch of savages in here. Hope I don't live next to any of you sinners.

Not really. As stated before, this arrangement is primarily for the benefit of my soon-to-be stepchild. As for divorce, we're a sociological checklist of what to do before getting married by having our education paid for, no debt outside a few mortgages, stable jobs etc.

[star seed 7]

I'm going to start leaving gifts on my front porch (a peace offering of sorts) so the hooligans will leave my place alone.  What do trouble makers fancy these days?   

5th of jack.