if your lender says, tortuga, we're going to approve you for a $600,000 home. here's what you do, you spend $600,001. always spend more. it shows them that you're the boss and ensures that in future lending negotiations your voice will be heard at the table. everyone wants their voices to be heard. so you sing. sing to the lenders and you sing a loud and beautiful song of money. when the lender responds in the appropriate manner, you will know that they heard you.