I think the obscene part about the "hero" talk is there were a few guys who allowed him to become more and more revered as a "hero" and just stood around.
It's one thing to go to him and tell him, "we know, kill the charity, stop even talking to young boys, get help, and we might let it slide" -----not that it is right at all, but it is so different than what they did which is to whistle past the graveyard/shower.
There is simply no way to allow Paterno to coach this team or even be involved with the school.