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Title: Text message breakups
Post by: michigancat on June 20, 2013, 09:31:39 AM
What's so bad about text message breakups? A text seems like a clean, practical way to end something without having to talk about it or seeing someone cry or crying in front of someone or something.

People who have been dumped before via text, how did that make you feel? Do you wish you could have seen that person face-to-face? Why? Are we afraid of technology/the future?
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: steve dave on June 20, 2013, 09:34:44 AM
seems like the best option for both involved
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: mocat on June 20, 2013, 09:43:05 AM
probably depends on the serious levels of the relationship.
1 month of dating? yeah fire away texters
1 year of a real relationship? probably deserves more of a heart to heart than a "we need 2 tk a brk"

imo
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: steve dave on June 20, 2013, 09:47:06 AM
probably depends on the serious levels of the relationship.
1 month of dating? yeah fire away texters
1 year of a real relationship? probably deserves more of a heart to heart than a "we need 2 tk a brk"

imo

I'd rather do the second one after a long term as well. I mean, what's to discuss? plus would save some people from the sad attempt to save it.
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Institutional Control on June 20, 2013, 09:47:57 AM
I think text message breakups should be reserved for the mentally unstable. And you should never be in a relationship with someone mentally unstable longer than a month.
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Emo EMAW on June 20, 2013, 09:49:56 AM
I can always trust mocat to get it 100% right 90% of the time.
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Rage Against the McKee on June 20, 2013, 09:50:39 AM
I generally would take my exes to a nice place when I broke up with them and buy them dinner. Maybe I'm just too nice, but I mean, it seemed like the least I could do if I was going to ruin their whole week.
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: mocat on June 20, 2013, 09:50:56 AM
I can always trust mocat to get it 100% right 90% of the time.

<-- the Sex Panther of posters
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Asteriskhead on June 20, 2013, 09:52:09 AM
I prefer to do it in person.
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Bqqkie Pimp on June 20, 2013, 09:55:24 AM
I prefer to do it in person.

More likely to get a "severance pop" as Shallow Hal put it... amirite??

 :cheers:
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: OK_Cat on June 20, 2013, 09:55:47 AM
this is the thread i was going for until fanning and emo emaw got really creepy.

edit:  bookie pimp found this thread.  welp.
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Institutional Control on June 20, 2013, 09:57:09 AM
this is the thread i was going for until fanning and emo emaw got really creepy.

Wackycat was an innocent in that. Don't shoot the messenger.
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Emo EMAW on June 20, 2013, 09:58:17 AM
I think you guys are being harsh.  My IRL friends loved it.  One still shows me the picture every time he sees me.
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Trim on June 20, 2013, 09:59:25 AM
I like to have frank do it for me.

I need a recap of emo's creepiness.
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Asteriskhead on June 20, 2013, 10:05:31 AM
I prefer to do it in person.

More likely to get a "severance pop" as Shallow Hal put it... amirite??

 :cheers:

True, but that isn't why I prefer to do it that way.
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: OK_Cat on June 20, 2013, 10:10:51 AM
I like to have frank do it for me.

I need a recap of emo's creepiness.

starts with this fanning post   http://goEMAW.com/forum/index.php?topic=27971.msg846089#msg846089 (http://goEMAW.com/forum/index.php?topic=27971.msg846089#msg846089)
Title: Re: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: michigancat on June 20, 2013, 10:15:07 AM
probably depends on the serious levels of the relationship.
1 month of dating? yeah fire away texters
1 year of a real relationship? probably deserves more of a heart to heart than a "we need 2 tk a brk"

imo

But why? What are both parties hoping to gain from a face-to-face?

 I'm assuming that in a long term relationship, attempts to salvage it have already been attempted face to face. If you get to the point it can't be salvaged, just put it out if its misery with a clean shot (text).
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: yoga-like_abana on June 20, 2013, 10:18:34 AM
I like the face to face because it kinda slams the door.. ya know?
Title: Re: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Emo EMAW on June 20, 2013, 10:18:43 AM
probably depends on the serious levels of the relationship.
1 month of dating? yeah fire away texters
1 year of a real relationship? probably deserves more of a heart to heart than a "we need 2 tk a brk"

imo

But why? What are both parties hoping to gain from a face-to-face?

 I'm assuming that in a long term relationship, attempts to salvage it have already been attempted face to face. If you get to the point it can't be salvaged, just put it out if its misery with a clean shot (text).

Feedback is nice.  Sort of a opportunity for lessons learnt.  That's assuming people are mature enough to give honest feedback and receive it without throwing a fit. 
Title: Re: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: mocat on June 20, 2013, 10:20:00 AM
probably depends on the serious levels of the relationship.
1 month of dating? yeah fire away texters
1 year of a real relationship? probably deserves more of a heart to heart than a "we need 2 tk a brk"

imo

But why? What are both parties hoping to gain from a face-to-face?

 I'm assuming that in a long term relationship, attempts to salvage it have already been attempted face to face. If you get to the point it can't be salvaged, just put it out if its misery with a clean shot (text).

so you're saying there needs to be face to face talk(s) before the text? ok same page here
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: CNS on June 20, 2013, 10:20:29 AM
Emotional closure, I would guess.

Also, respect, imo.
Title: Re: Re: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: michigancat on June 20, 2013, 10:21:22 AM
probably depends on the serious levels of the relationship.
1 month of dating? yeah fire away texters
1 year of a real relationship? probably deserves more of a heart to heart than a "we need 2 tk a brk"

imo

But why? What are both parties hoping to gain from a face-to-face?

 I'm assuming that in a long term relationship, attempts to salvage it have already been attempted face to face. If you get to the point it can't be salvaged, just put it out if its misery with a clean shot (text).

so you're saying there needs to be face to face talk(s) before the text? ok same page here

only if it's, like, living together serious.
Title: Re: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: michigancat on June 20, 2013, 10:23:21 AM
Emotional closure, I would guess.

Also, respect, imo.

I don't understand why telling someone you don't like them to their face is more respectful, or gives that person more "emotional closure", whatever that is.
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Super PurpleCat on June 20, 2013, 10:26:01 AM
I'm still working on the text message hookups.   :frown:
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Cartierfor3 on June 20, 2013, 10:40:17 AM
Seems cowardly to me, but I could see how if you were hoping for it to end and the other person texted it was over, you might be relieved to just move on.

Title: Re: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Brock Landers on June 20, 2013, 10:56:40 AM
probably depends on the serious levels of the relationship.
1 month of dating? yeah fire away texters
1 year of a real relationship? probably deserves more of a heart to heart than a "we need 2 tk a brk"

imo

But why? What are both parties hoping to gain from a face-to-face?

 I'm assuming that in a long term relationship, attempts to salvage it have already been attempted face to face. If you get to the point it can't be salvaged, just put it out if its misery with a clean shot (text).

so you're saying there needs to be face to face talk(s) before the text? ok same page here


So when Phil Collins notified his wife of a divorce by fax, he was actually a trendsetter.  Stud/boss move IMO
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: michigancat on June 20, 2013, 10:58:43 AM
Seems cowardly to me, but I could see how if you were hoping for it to end and the other person texted it was over, you might be relieved to just move on.



I suppose it's a little cowardly, but bravery is extremely overrated. That's kind of another thread.
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Stevesie60 on June 20, 2013, 11:25:16 AM
I broke up with a girl over AIM when I was a freshman in high school. I thought it went well. We got back together a week later and dated for over a year.
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: The Tonya Harding of Twitter Users Creep on June 20, 2013, 11:27:36 AM
fun fact- ksc has never broken up with a girl. all of them were either mutual or i got dumped. closest i ever got was the girl starting and then i walked out. i count that as mutual.
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Trim on June 20, 2013, 11:32:44 AM
fun fact- ksc has never broken up with a girl. all of them were either mutual or i got dumped. closest i ever got was the girl starting and then i walked out. i count that as mutual.

Did any live?
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Dugout DickStone on June 20, 2013, 11:34:01 AM
I send a form letter but via courier.  I have a wax seal I use to class it up.
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: The Tonya Harding of Twitter Users Creep on June 20, 2013, 11:45:53 AM
fun fact- ksc has never broken up with a girl. all of them were either mutual or i got dumped. closest i ever got was the girl starting and then i walked out. i count that as mutual.

Did any live?

 :lol:
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Panjandrum on June 20, 2013, 11:46:09 AM
I think duration of relationship makes a difference.  A date or two, text seems like it would be okay.  A month or less, a call seems alright.  Longer than that, I think you should go out for a cup of coffee.
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Stevesie60 on June 20, 2013, 11:46:27 AM
fun fact- ksc has never broken up with a girl. all of them were either mutual or i got dumped. closest i ever got was the girl starting and then i walked out. i count that as mutual.

Did any live?

:lol:
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Emo EMAW on June 20, 2013, 11:57:18 AM
Who in the world gets exclusive after a date or two?
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: star seed 7 on June 20, 2013, 12:26:19 PM
i broke up with a girl i had been dating for 2 years with an e-mail.  pretty sure she was in jail at the time, so i'm not real sure she got it.
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: Asteriskhead on June 20, 2013, 12:30:06 PM
i broke up with a girl i had been dating for 2 years with an e-mail.  pretty sure she was in jail at the time, so i'm not real sure she got it.

Quit dating people from our junior high.
Title: Re: Text message breakups
Post by: michigancat on October 24, 2013, 04:45:50 AM

http://www.slate.com/blogs/xx_factor/2013/10/23/breakup_emails_women_and_men_are_equally_likely_to_end_relationships_online.html