Text message breakups

[michigancat]

What's so bad about text message breakups? A text seems like a clean, practical way to end something without having to talk about it or seeing someone cry or crying in front of someone or something.

People who have been dumped before via text, how did that make you feel? Do you wish you could have seen that person face-to-face? Why? Are we afraid of technology/the future?

[steve dave]

seems like the best option for both involved

[mocat]

probably depends on the serious levels of the relationship.
1 month of dating? yeah fire away texters
1 year of a real relationship? probably deserves more of a heart to heart than a "we need 2 tk a brk"

imo

[steve dave]

probably depends on the serious levels of the relationship.
1 month of dating? yeah fire away texters
1 year of a real relationship? probably deserves more of a heart to heart than a "we need 2 tk a brk"

imo

I'd rather do the second one after a long term as well. I mean, what's to discuss? plus would save some people from the sad attempt to save it.

[Institutional Control]

I think text message breakups should be reserved for the mentally unstable. And you should never be in a relationship with someone mentally unstable longer than a month.

[Emo EMAW]

I can always trust mocat to get it 100% right 90% of the time.

[Rage Against the McKee]

I generally would take my exes to a nice place when I broke up with them and buy them dinner. Maybe I'm just too nice, but I mean, it seemed like the least I could do if I was going to ruin their whole week.

[mocat]

I can always trust mocat to get it 100% right 90% of the time.

<-- the Sex Panther of posters

[Asteriskhead]

I prefer to do it in person.

[Bqqkie Pimp]

I prefer to do it in person.

More likely to get a "severance pop" as Shallow Hal put it... amirite??

 

[OK_Cat]

this is the thread i was going for until fanning and emo emaw got really creepy.

edit:  bookie pimp found this thread.  welp.

[Institutional Control]

this is the thread i was going for until fanning and emo emaw got really creepy.

Wackycat was an innocent in that. Don't shoot the messenger.

[Emo EMAW]

I think you guys are being harsh.  My IRL friends loved it.  One still shows me the picture every time he sees me.

[Trim]

I like to have frank do it for me.

I need a recap of emo's creepiness.

[Asteriskhead]

I prefer to do it in person.

More likely to get a "severance pop" as Shallow Hal put it... amirite??

 

True, but that isn't why I prefer to do it that way.

[OK_Cat]

I like to have frank do it for me.

I need a recap of emo's creepiness.

starts with this fanning post   http://goEMAW.com/forum/index.php?topic=27971.msg846089#msg846089

[michigancat]

probably depends on the serious levels of the relationship.
1 month of dating? yeah fire away texters
1 year of a real relationship? probably deserves more of a heart to heart than a "we need 2 tk a brk"

imo

But why? What are both parties hoping to gain from a face-to-face?

 I'm assuming that in a long term relationship, attempts to salvage it have already been attempted face to face. If you get to the point it can't be salvaged, just put it out if its misery with a clean shot (text).

[yoga-like_abana]

I like the face to face because it kinda slams the door.. ya know?

[Emo EMAW]

probably depends on the serious levels of the relationship.
1 month of dating? yeah fire away texters
1 year of a real relationship? probably deserves more of a heart to heart than a "we need 2 tk a brk"

imo

But why? What are both parties hoping to gain from a face-to-face?

 I'm assuming that in a long term relationship, attempts to salvage it have already been attempted face to face. If you get to the point it can't be salvaged, just put it out if its misery with a clean shot (text).

Feedback is nice.  Sort of a opportunity for lessons learnt.  That's assuming people are mature enough to give honest feedback and receive it without throwing a fit. 

[mocat]

probably depends on the serious levels of the relationship.
1 month of dating? yeah fire away texters
1 year of a real relationship? probably deserves more of a heart to heart than a "we need 2 tk a brk"

imo

But why? What are both parties hoping to gain from a face-to-face?

 I'm assuming that in a long term relationship, attempts to salvage it have already been attempted face to face. If you get to the point it can't be salvaged, just put it out if its misery with a clean shot (text).

so you're saying there needs to be face to face talk(s) before the text? ok same page here

[CNS]

Emotional closure, I would guess.

Also, respect, imo.

[michigancat]

probably depends on the serious levels of the relationship.
1 month of dating? yeah fire away texters
1 year of a real relationship? probably deserves more of a heart to heart than a "we need 2 tk a brk"

imo

But why? What are both parties hoping to gain from a face-to-face?

 I'm assuming that in a long term relationship, attempts to salvage it have already been attempted face to face. If you get to the point it can't be salvaged, just put it out if its misery with a clean shot (text).

so you're saying there needs to be face to face talk(s) before the text? ok same page here

only if it's, like, living together serious.

[michigancat]

Emotional closure, I would guess.

Also, respect, imo.

I don't understand why telling someone you don't like them to their face is more respectful, or gives that person more "emotional closure", whatever that is.

[Super PurpleCat]

I'm still working on the text message hookups.   

[Cartierfor3]

Seems cowardly to me, but I could see how if you were hoping for it to end and the other person texted it was over, you might be relieved to just move on.