here's the thing. The only way you should join a frat is to suckle off the opportunities and tell every one to f off most of the time. Will follow a bubble arc just like a good stock. You come in, you act cool and unconcerned, you do some crazy stuff, you tell everyone to f off, you skip a bunch of "mandatory" house activities, you abuse house privileges, you go unseen at your gf's house for days on end, you start smoking in the house, you never clean your room. Then bad stuff starts happening because everyone views you as an a-hole. Then you leave, then people do that "hey I wonder what that crazy guy is doing now?" then you are all like "married, job, elite." Blows there tractor warming minds.