lunch w/ coworkers

[michigancat]

So, I work in a building w/6 people, 3 of which moved to Mich. from KC, and three that were already here.  I usually bring my lunch, but at lunchtime, the 3 michiganders plus another random coworker (I work on a "campus") will go out to eat and never ask the KCites out, even when it's obv. KC'ers are going out.  And sometimes they seem like they're being sneaky.  (I'll admit I have been excluded a couple times when I didn't bring lunch.  (but when I do bring lunch, I'm all at the lunch situations))

Is this dickish behavior by the Michiganders, or are the KC'ers just being mamsy pamsy's (AKA Trojans)?

[ew2x4]

Seems pretty dickish. Are the other KC'ers really annoying/smell bad?

[michigancat]

Seems pretty dickish. Are the other KC'ers really annoying/smell bad?

They aren't as handsome or clean smelling as me, but that shouldn't be a huge negative.  They're also a little on the boring/old side, but not too bad.  I think I would possibly be in the "in" lunch crowd if the other KC'ers weren't around.  But I don't know, ya know? 

[steve dave]

Tough situation.  I mean, on the one hand I wouldn't want to go out to lunch with "oldies" but on the other hand I don't like mean people. 

[michigancat]

Tough situation.  I mean, on the one hand I wouldn't want to go out to lunch with "oldies" but on the other hand I don't like mean people. 

I know, right?  There also seems to be a lot of sucking up to the "leader" of the michiganders, which may be required.

Easy solution is bringing lunch.  Don't have to pick sides and don't have to be mean and don't have to kiss ass and don't have to be bored w/ old people.

On the other hand, being chummy w/ the mean people could be better career wise. 

[steve dave]

Tough situation.  I mean, on the one hand I wouldn't want to go out to lunch with "oldies" but on the other hand I don't like mean people. 

I know, right?  There also seems to be a lot of sucking up to the "leader" of the michiganders, which may be required.

Easy solution is bringing lunch.  Don't have to pick sides and don't have to be mean and don't have to kiss ass and don't have to be bored w/ old people.

On the other hand, being chummy w/ the mean people could be better career wise. 

In that case I would jump ship and join the hip mean people immediately.  I mean, you gotta get yours (< the hip athletes say this)

[AzCat]

So, I work in a building w/6 people, 3 of which moved to Mich. from KC, and three that were already here.  I usually bring my lunch, but at lunchtime, the 3 michiganders plus another random coworker (I work on a "campus") will go out to eat and never ask the KCites out, even when it's obv. KC'ers are going out.  And sometimes they seem like they're being sneaky.  (I'll admit I have been excluded a couple times when I didn't bring lunch.  (but when I do bring lunch, I'm all at the lunch situations))

Is this dickish behavior by the Michiganders, or are the KC'ers just being mamsy pamsy's (AKA Trojans)?

It's just you dude: you're a douchebag.   

[michigancat]

So, I work in a building w/6 people, 3 of which moved to Mich. from KC, and three that were already here.  I usually bring my lunch, but at lunchtime, the 3 michiganders plus another random coworker (I work on a "campus") will go out to eat and never ask the KCites out, even when it's obv. KC'ers are going out.  And sometimes they seem like they're being sneaky.  (I'll admit I have been excluded a couple times when I didn't bring lunch.  (but when I do bring lunch, I'm all at the lunch situations))

Is this dickish behavior by the Michiganders, or are the KC'ers just being mamsy pamsy's (AKA Trojans)?

It's just you dude: you're a douchebag.   

No, I'm a confirmed non-douchebag.

Tough situation.  I mean, on the one hand I wouldn't want to go out to lunch with "oldies" but on the other hand I don't like mean people. 

I know, right?  There also seems to be a lot of sucking up to the "leader" of the michiganders, which may be required.

Easy solution is bringing lunch.  Don't have to pick sides and don't have to be mean and don't have to kiss ass and don't have to be bored w/ old people.

On the other hand, being chummy w/ the mean people could be better career wise. 

In that case I would jump ship and join the hip mean people immediately.  I mean, you gotta get yours (< the hip athletes say this)

But what if they don't let me in?    <-bringing lunch = no rejection

[steve dave]

In that case I would jump ship and join the hip mean people immediately.  I mean, you gotta get yours (< the hip athletes say this)

You can always talk bad about them to the KC losers

[catdude33]

I think the KCites should get together and make it a point to ask the Michiganders if they want to go out to lunch with them.  The KCites would then seem like the arrogant ones who pity the Michiganders.

KCite leader (possibly you) should say something like "hey, sorry we never thought to ask if you guys wanted to go out to lunch, but your welcome to join us if you want."

I think this would really "flip the script".  

[michigancat]

I think the KCites should get together and make it a point to ask the Michiganders if they want to go out to lunch with them.  The KCites would then seem like the arrogant ones who pity the Michiganders.

KCite leader (possibly you) should say something like "hey, sorry we never thought to ask if you guys wanted to go out to lunch, but your welcome to join us if you want."

I think this would really "flip the script". 

I have seen this happen when I dine in.  The Michiganders would be all like, "no, we're cool...I brought lunch", and then wait till the KC'ers leave and go out and have michigander-only lunch (with elite michigan celebrities probably).

[AzCat]

So, I work in a building w/6 people, 3 of which moved to Mich. from KC, and three that were already here.  I usually bring my lunch, but at lunchtime, the 3 michiganders plus another random coworker (I work on a "campus") will go out to eat and never ask the KCites out, even when it's obv. KC'ers are going out.  And sometimes they seem like they're being sneaky.  (I'll admit I have been excluded a couple times when I didn't bring lunch.  (but when I do bring lunch, I'm all at the lunch situations))

Is this dickish behavior by the Michiganders, or are the KC'ers just being mamsy pamsy's (AKA Trojans)?

It's just you dude: you're a douchebag.   

No, I'm a confirmed non-douchebag.

That's exactly what douchebags always say; trust me you'll be the last to know.   

[fatty fat fat]

does it bother you rusty? do you want them to like you guys?

if it does bother you, try to do something about it. i mean, do they play tennis? maybe you can play tennis with them. try making up stories that make you look cool. a good way to do this is to listen to someone that does crazy stuff, and completely rip them off of their story.

if it doesn't bother you, good for you. also ask your wife & ty.

[Saulbadguy]

We had a co-worker at my work whom we really despised, but for whatever reason he thought he was best friends w/ us.  Every single day he would go out to lunch, and on the occasion we'd want to go out to lunch he'd want to go with us.  He was very annoying.  We started devising plans to exclude him. If he asked us where we were going to lunch, we'd say we brought our food or something like that, or we just didn't know.  Then we'd all sneak out separate ways and meet up somewhere.  Got real tiring. One day he found us. He was pissed that day but the next day he was our best friend again.

[cyclist]

We had a co-worker at my work whom we really despised, but for whatever reason he thought he was best friends w/ us.  Every single day he would go out to lunch, and on the occasion we'd want to go out to lunch he'd want to go with us.  He was very annoying.  We started devising plans to exclude him. If he asked us where we were going to lunch, we'd say we brought our food or something like that, or we just didn't know.  Then we'd all sneak out separate ways and meet up somewhere.  Got real tiring. One day he found us. He was pissed that day but the next day he was our best friend again.

Was this jeffy ?

[michigancat]

does it bother you rusty? do you want them to like you guys?

if it does bother you, try to do something about it. i mean, do they play tennis? maybe you can play tennis with them. try making up stories that make you look cool. a good way to do this is to listen to someone that does crazy stuff, and completely rip them off of their story.

if it doesn't bother you, good for you. also ask your wife & ty.

you know, it kind of bothers me, but it kind of doesn't, ya know?

Good advice.  Maybe we could play some one-on-one basketball or something.

[jeffy]

So, I work in a building w/6 people, 3 of which moved to Mich. from KC, and three that were already here.  I usually bring my lunch, but at lunchtime, the 3 michiganders plus another random coworker (I work on a "campus") will go out to eat and never ask the KCites out, even when it's obv. KC'ers are going out.  And sometimes they seem like they're being sneaky.  (I'll admit I have been excluded a couple times when I didn't bring lunch.  (but when I do bring lunch, I'm all at the lunch situations))

Is this dickish behavior by the Michiganders, or are the KC'ers just being mamsy pamsy's (AKA Trojans)?

It's just you dude: you're a douchebag.   

Is this a call for a new emoticon?

[Rick Daris]

does it bother you rusty? do you want them to like you guys?

if it does bother you, try to do something about it. i mean, do they play tennis? maybe you can play tennis with them. try making up stories that make you look cool. a good way to do this is to listen to someone that does crazy stuff, and completely rip them off of their story.

if it doesn't bother you, good for you. also ask your wife & ty.

you know, it kind of bothers me, but it kind of doesn't, ya know?

Good advice.  Maybe we could play some one-on-one basketball or something.

it kind of bothers you because it seems like maybe they don't want to eat lunch with you (and the other kc'ers). if they did want you to eat lunch w/ them i bet you'd try to find a way out of it (bringing your own lunch). i bet it's kinda like when person A wants to break up with person B but person B does it first. it leaves person A going "wft? how can THEY be the one breaking up w/ me?"

[cireksu]

I'm totally that way with new people.

[jthutch]

If you want to go out to eat with the michiganers I would just follow them to where ever they are going to eat, but pretend like you didn't know they were there.  Sit at a table kinda close to them but with your back to them.  If they see you and say nothing then you know they are dicks, if they invite you to join them then they are not I guess.

[michigancat]

does it bother you rusty? do you want them to like you guys?

if it does bother you, try to do something about it. i mean, do they play tennis? maybe you can play tennis with them. try making up stories that make you look cool. a good way to do this is to listen to someone that does crazy stuff, and completely rip them off of their story.

if it doesn't bother you, good for you. also ask your wife & ty.

you know, it kind of bothers me, but it kind of doesn't, ya know?

Good advice.  Maybe we could play some one-on-one basketball or something.

it kind of bothers you because it seems like maybe they don't want to eat lunch with you (and the other kc'ers). if they did want you to eat lunch w/ them i bet you'd try to find a way out of it (bringing your own lunch). i bet it's kinda like when person A wants to break up with person B but person B does it first. it leaves person A going "wft? how can THEY be the one breaking up w/ me?"

I know!  I mean, I'm cool, right?  

I'm totally that way with new people.

how long are they new?

[Thin Blue Line]

Do their girlfriends/wives/sisters/daughters if old enough. That will teach them.

[jeffy]

Do their boyfriends/fathers/pets/sons if old enough. That will teach them.

+1

[Thin Blue Line]

Do their boyfriends/fathers/pets/sons if old enough. That will teach them.

+1

Anything you'd like to tell us, Jeffy?

[sys]

michiganders and northern indianandites are like that.  it's their culture.  nothing you can do.  just have an apple and enjoy the greenery.

[steve dave]

michiganders and northern indianandites are like that.  it's their culture.  nothing you can do.  just have an apple and enjoy the greenery.

sys always has good social commentary

[michigancat]

michiganders and northern indianandites are like that.  it's their culture.  nothing you can do.  just have an apple and enjoy the greenery.

sys always has good social commentary

Agreed. 

Told my wife about the situation, and she said, "You sound like a bunch of 8th grade girls."  I really couldn't argue. 

[steve dave]

michiganders and northern indianandites are like that.  it's their culture.  nothing you can do.  just have an apple and enjoy the greenery.

sys always has good social commentary

Agreed. 

Told my wife about the situation, and she said, "You sound like a bunch of 8th grade girls."  I really couldn't argue. 

Ask her WTF does she have against 8th grade girls?  Then, tell her she prolly didn't get to sit at the cool table at lunch in 8th grade. 

[cireksu]

does it bother you rusty? do you want them to like you guys?

if it does bother you, try to do something about it. i mean, do they play tennis? maybe you can play tennis with them. try making up stories that make you look cool. a good way to do this is to listen to someone that does crazy stuff, and completely rip them off of their story.

if it doesn't bother you, good for you. also ask your wife & ty.

you know, it kind of bothers me, but it kind of doesn't, ya know?

Good advice.  Maybe we could play some one-on-one basketball or something.

it kind of bothers you because it seems like maybe they don't want to eat lunch with you (and the other kc'ers). if they did want you to eat lunch w/ them i bet you'd try to find a way out of it (bringing your own lunch). i bet it's kinda like when person A wants to break up with person B but person B does it first. it leaves person A going "wft? how can THEY be the one breaking up w/ me?"

I know!  I mean, I'm cool, right?  

I'm totally that way with new people.

how long are they new?

Well the way I see it is,  I don't want to go "Out to eat" with a complete stranger.  I am a lunch bringer 90 % of the time so what I would do to get to know someone is just take a seat by them and chit chat until I am comfortable with them enough that I could take them with my friends out to eat.

If they haven't tried that then they are either huge dicks or just expecting you to invite yourself (kinda dickish).

[chum1]

Overly friendly people are annoying.  You should be thankful that they don't bother you.