Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?

[slimz]

On a somewhat related note, friend told me the other day about a wedding invite he received that was a specific "no plus one." He's single anyway, so he was like, "cool, I'll dance with a bridesmaid or something." But then he received an invite to a couples shower for the happy couple, which he declined because a) he's single and b) kind of a weird mixed message to send after the no plus one invite. I told him I hadn't heard of that type of thing before, but I'd have done the same thing.

[Mrs. Gooch]

On a somewhat related note, friend told me the other day about a wedding invite he received that was a specific "no plus one." He's single anyway, so he was like, "cool, I'll dance with a bridesmaid or something." But then he received an invite to a couples shower for the happy couple, which he declined because a) he's single and b) kind of a weird mixed message to send after the no plus one invite. I told him I hadn't heard of that type of thing before, but I'd have done the same thing.

Yeah, that seems weird, like "You can bring your date to the shower but we don't want her at our wedding"

[Mrs. Gooch]

Get them a small baby gift and give it to him at work. You won't go to shower and won't feel guilty. Problem solved.

There is no need for this.

[mocat]

that is the weirdest thing i've ever heard slimz

[Mrs. Gooch]

Is it normal to invite someone to a wedding with a specific "No plus one"?

[OK_Cat]

Get them a small baby gift and give it to him at work. You won't go to shower and won't feel guilty. Problem solved.

There is no need for this.

It's ok to think of others.

[Cartierfor3]

I have a strict "I do not attend showers, be it wedding or baby" policy. This way its not personal when I decline.

[pissclams]

I have a strict "I do not attend showers, be it wedding or baby" policy. This way its not personal when I decline.

yup, same.  it's even on my card.

[The1BigWillie]

OK... I asked the kid next to me. he didn't get an email invite.... and they have Bro'd before and gone on road trips to KU bball games together.  I asked him if he supposed I got invited because the guy thought I'd buy him something and he wouldn't.   He said... "well if that's what he's thinking, he's at least half right."

EFF this prick and his baby shower stupidity. 

[Cartierfor3]

OK... I asked the kid next to me. he didn't get an email invite.... and they have Bro'd before and gone on road trips to KU bball games together.  I asked him if he supposed I got invited because the guy thought I'd buy him something and he wouldn't.   He said... "well if that's what he's thinking, he's at least half right."

EFF this prick and his baby shower stupidity.

Don't call him names or get upset. Just say Thanks, but no thanks.

[Bloodfart]

Maybe he sent the invite to you by mistake?   

[The1BigWillie]

No... because I ignored it and he came over to me and said... "Hey, did you get my email???"