Author Topic: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower? (Read 2783 times)

The1BigWillie · « **on:** May 14, 2014, 10:10:30 AM »

Guy I work with just emailed me an invite to his "baby shower". I would consider said coworker a friend but we've never really hung out outside of work. I've never met his wife.

I've never been to a baby shower, never wanted to go to a baby shower, and you can bet your sweet ass I will NOT be going to this baby shower. Hell, I've never even purchased a gift for a f*cking baby shower...

Question for my fellow GoEmawers.... Should I feel a damn bit guilty for not going and not gifting? I don't. But, should I? Is this a thing? Guys going to baby showers? I mean... WHAT THE TAP DANCING eff? Baby Shower!!?!?!

TownieCat · « **Reply #1 on:** May 14, 2014, 10:12:54 AM »

Your coworker should feel guilty for inviting you.

slucat · « **Reply #2 on:** May 14, 2014, 10:13:13 AM »

don't feel guilty...
however, maybe your co-worker wants to hang outside of work? Maybe he doesn't have non-work pals...and the wife will be surrounded by all her friends and he doesn't want to be chilling at this thing alone.

puniraptor · « **Reply #3 on:** May 14, 2014, 10:14:23 AM »

maybe you can go in the backyard and pound brews and shoot guns and ride 4 wheelers while the ladies do the horrible baby shower stuff?

The1BigWillie · « **Reply #4 on:** May 14, 2014, 10:14:53 AM »

Quote from: slucat on May 14, 2014, 10:13:13 AM

don't feel guilty...
however, maybe your co-worker wants to hang outside of work? Maybe he doesn't have non-work pals...and the wife will be surrounded by all her friends and he doesn't want to be chilling at this thing alone.

Nope, he has tons of out of work pals. Has literally never asked me to hang out outside of work.

The1BigWillie · « **Reply #5 on:** May 14, 2014, 10:15:21 AM »

Quote from: puniraptor on May 14, 2014, 10:14:23 AM

maybe you can go in the backyard and pound brews and shoot guns and ride 4 wheelers while the ladies do the horrible baby shower stuff?

It's in a subdivision in Shawnee.

Mrs. Gooch · « **Reply #6 on:** May 14, 2014, 10:16:05 AM »

Yeah, you shouldn't feel guilty. Unless you have given him some indication that you like to play party games like "Guess the flavor of this baby food" or "Guess how big around the pregnant lady's stomach is".

slucat · « **Reply #7 on:** May 14, 2014, 10:16:49 AM »

Quote from: The1BigWillie on May 14, 2014, 10:14:53 AM

Quote from: slucat on May 14, 2014, 10:13:13 AM
don't feel guilty...
however, maybe your co-worker wants to hang outside of work? Maybe he doesn't have non-work pals...and the wife will be surrounded by all her friends and he doesn't want to be chilling at this thing alone.

Nope, he has tons of out of work pals. Has literally never asked me to hang out outside of work.

feel no guilt. prob just a extra gift in his eyes, knows you are EMAW and would give a $$ gift, but you'll mush his fat face in that load of crap.

TownieCat · « **Reply #8 on:** May 14, 2014, 10:18:39 AM »

Quote from: puniraptor on May 14, 2014, 10:14:23 AM

maybe you can go in the backyard and pound brews and shoot guns and ride 4 wheelers while the ladies do the horrible baby shower stuff?

While this sounds amazing, a baby shower is an awful first bro-date.

Kind of seems like the Seinfeld episode when Jerry helps Keith Fernandez move. What's next...T1BW is supposed to pick this guy up from the airport??

puniraptor · « **Reply #9 on:** May 14, 2014, 10:19:33 AM »

pin the gens on the babe (baby)
eat a cupcake where there is frosting inside that indicates the anatomical sex
purse contents scavenger hunt
purse contents bingo
purse contents blackjack
baby name statistcal trivia

you really want to miss out on all this?

'taterblast · « **Reply #10 on:** May 14, 2014, 10:30:34 AM »

wants gifts

pissclams · « **Reply #11 on:** May 14, 2014, 10:31:35 AM »

would give zero fucks about not going and would be a little disgruntled about him sending me invite but wouldn't fight him b/c he's prob temp insane b/c kid

Mrs. Gooch · « **Reply #12 on:** May 14, 2014, 10:31:56 AM »

Did he invite other office people?

Mrs. Gooch · « **Reply #13 on:** May 14, 2014, 10:34:13 AM »

Quote from: The1BigWillie on May 14, 2014, 10:10:30 AM

Guy I work with just emailed me an invite to his "baby shower". I would consider said coworker a friend but we've never really hung out outside of work. I've never met his wife.

I've never been to a baby shower, never wanted to go to a baby shower, and you can bet your sweet ass I will NOT be going to this baby shower. Hell, I've never even purchased a gift for a f*cking baby shower...

Question for my fellow GoEmawers.... Should I feel a damn bit guilty for not going and not gifting? I don't. But, should I? Is this a thing? Guys going to baby showers? I mean... WHAT THE TAP DANCING eff? Baby Shower!!?!?!

I just reread this and realized it was an email invite....he wouldn't even spare an actual paper invitation for you then you shouldn't even have spared the time it took to write this post.

Emo EMAW · « **Reply #14 on:** May 14, 2014, 10:40:23 AM »

Quote from: Mrs. Gooch on May 14, 2014, 10:34:13 AM

Quote from: The1BigWillie on May 14, 2014, 10:10:30 AM
Guy I work with just emailed me an invite to his "baby shower". I would consider said coworker a friend but we've never really hung out outside of work. I've never met his wife.

I've never been to a baby shower, never wanted to go to a baby shower, and you can bet your sweet ass I will NOT be going to this baby shower. Hell, I've never even purchased a gift for a f*cking baby shower...

Question for my fellow GoEmawers.... Should I feel a damn bit guilty for not going and not gifting? I don't. But, should I? Is this a thing? Guys going to baby showers? I mean... WHAT THE TAP DANCING eff? Baby Shower!!?!?!

I just reread this and realized it was an email invite....he wouldn't even spare an actual paper invitation for you then you shouldn't even have spared the time it took to write this post.

Was going to post same thing!

The1BigWillie · « **Reply #15 on:** May 14, 2014, 11:20:27 AM »

Quote from: Mrs. Gooch on May 14, 2014, 10:31:56 AM

Did he invite other office people?

I don't know... I'm going to find out.

star seed 7 · « **Reply #16 on:** May 14, 2014, 11:23:18 AM »

don't the fathers usually skip out on the baby shower?

Mrs. Gooch · « **Reply #17 on:** May 14, 2014, 12:02:54 PM »

Quote from: seven on May 14, 2014, 11:23:18 AM

don't the fathers usually skip out on the baby shower?

Traditionally, yes but somewhat recently some people have changed to include both parents. This goes along with having joint bachelor/bachelorette parties.

waks · « **Reply #18 on:** May 14, 2014, 12:07:16 PM »

Quote from: TownieCat on May 14, 2014, 10:18:39 AM

Quote from: puniraptor on May 14, 2014, 10:14:23 AM
maybe you can go in the backyard and pound brews and shoot guns and ride 4 wheelers while the ladies do the horrible baby shower stuff?

While this sounds amazing, a baby shower is an awful first bro-date.

Kind of seems like the Seinfeld episode when Jerry helps Keith Fernandez move. What's next...T1BW is supposed to pick this guy up from the airport??

michigancat · « **Reply #19 on:** May 14, 2014, 12:16:08 PM »

If it was a good friend that invited you, you should be happy to go. But this doesn't seem like a good friend and it's definitely an odd first social interaction outside of work.

TownieCat · « **Reply #20 on:** May 14, 2014, 12:19:58 PM »

Quote from: waks on May 14, 2014, 12:07:16 PM

Quote from: TownieCat on May 14, 2014, 10:18:39 AM
Quote from: puniraptor on May 14, 2014, 10:14:23 AM
maybe you can go in the backyard and pound brews and shoot guns and ride 4 wheelers while the ladies do the horrible baby shower stuff?

While this sounds amazing, a baby shower is an awful first bro-date.

Kind of seems like the Seinfeld episode when Jerry helps Keith Fernandez move. What's next...T1BW is supposed to pick this guy up from the airport??

Gooch · « **Reply #21 on:** May 14, 2014, 12:41:14 PM »

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OK_Cat · « **Reply #22 on:** May 14, 2014, 12:58:34 PM »

Get them a small baby gift and give it to him at work. You won't go to shower and won't feel guilty. Problem solved.

The1BigWillie · « **Reply #23 on:** May 14, 2014, 01:06:35 PM »

I'm going to ask the kid next to me who makes half what I do if he invited him.

slobber · « **Reply #24 on:** May 14, 2014, 01:08:19 PM »

Quote from: Gooch on May 14, 2014, 12:41:14 PM

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Is he a cool dude? If so, his wife is probably a cool chick. If she is a cool chick, she probably has cool friends. If so, and you don't have anything else planned, then you should go. A gift is like $20. Probably will eat and drink that much at the party. May meet a cool girl. Prosper.