If they say they don't want you to do anything it's ALWAYS a trap.
ALso... Why the f(ck are you spending money on HER parents anniversary dinner??? F(ck that.
It was her parents 25th Anniversary. We met up with her two bros who do really well for themselves. We thought we were all doing seperate checks, but obviously wanted to pick up her parents tab. It did not play out like that. Her bro's kept ordering top shelf wine, appetizers, and top end sirloin steak at Grand St. Cafe. When it came time to pay, her jackass bro said: "Just split the check three ways." $250 later, we decided that would be her Valentins Dinner. Sorry if that comes off dickish, but it is what it is.