Author Topic: Pet Peeves (Read 185260 times)

BIG APPLE CAT · « **Reply #1975 on:** March 31, 2022, 11:03:28 PM »

Quote from: mocat on March 31, 2022, 09:42:45 PM

Please advise is usually a passive aggressive way of saying the thing you asked me to do is not possible because of some fuckup on your end

Bingo. Also it makes it abundantly clear that the ball is in their court which is a premium power move

Tobias · « **Reply #1976 on:** March 31, 2022, 11:05:36 PM »

sounds like you guys eff up a lot

BIG APPLE CAT · « **Reply #1977 on:** March 31, 2022, 11:08:07 PM »

More like work with people who eff up a lot

Spracne · « **Reply #1978 on:** March 31, 2022, 11:34:14 PM »

E-mail closings can be hard but usually are meant to impart politeness. Sometimes if you just ask somebody to do something and that's the end of the e-mail, it can come off as curt/rude. After thinking about this all day, though, I'm pretty sure I always opt for better closings than "Please advise." Still, "When are you going to get me that thing?" seems colder than "When are you going to get me that thing? Please advise. Thanks."

catastrophe · « **Reply #1979 on:** March 31, 2022, 11:40:32 PM »

Personally I would never say “please advise” to someone I like. But does the recipient know I’m basically giving them double birds when I say it? That’s the fun of email.

Spracne · « **Reply #1980 on:** March 31, 2022, 11:41:53 PM »

I think I also avoid it because I have to pause and concentrate really hard in order to not type "advice" instead.

OB_Won · « **Reply #1981 on:** March 31, 2022, 11:58:10 PM »

This phrase doesn't bother me at all, but upon further reflection I kind of take it to mean...
a. Your problem, not mine (hot potato)
or
b. I don't trust your competency to reply, or in a timely manner

ben ji · « **Reply #1982 on:** April 01, 2022, 12:02:44 AM »

Quote from: BIG APPLE CAT on March 08, 2022, 09:45:53 PM

Dunno if this is a pet peeve, more like one of those things I can’t un-think about, but voicemail greetings. Why is anyone still giving instructions as of answering machines haven’t been around for the last 30+ years?

But to clarify, totally cool if you’re using your voicemail greeting to convey some other info, like “I’m not going to listen to this so if it’s important you should just text me” or “I’m camping in the wilderness until <some date> so if it’s important call somebody else”

This is a good one and I'll tell you why they are still around. Boomers.

WillieWatanabe · « **Reply #1983 on:** April 01, 2022, 08:20:42 AM »

I do "thoughts?" quite a bit.

I also do "Thanks!" too much. I need to quit using the exclamation mark.

star seed 7 · « **Reply #1984 on:** April 01, 2022, 08:39:11 AM »

I'm a serial abuser of "let me know your thoughts"

420seriouscat69 · « **Reply #1985 on:** April 01, 2022, 08:43:44 AM »

"best regards" bitches!

catastrophe · « **Reply #1986 on:** April 01, 2022, 08:44:41 AM »

Quote from: WillieWatanabe on April 01, 2022, 08:20:42 AM

I do "thoughts?" quite a bit.

I also do "Thanks!" too much. I need to quit using the exclamation mark.

A funny thing I’ve noticed about workplace emailing is you have to use WAY more exclamation marks than seems normal in order to avoid looking like a complete jerk.

cfbandyman · « **Reply #1987 on:** April 01, 2022, 08:45:22 AM »

"Please advise" just seems curt and realistically is a the result of a bad lead-up in a an email. Like if you need direction on something you should start the email after formal address with the "Looking at xyz we can see there is an issue, so we need to get this resolved quickly and I need your input before proceeding" or something like that.

Then you end the email with when you need it done by.

"Please advise" reminds me of a guy at work that all he does is use ASAP all. the. time. For literally everything. Sometimes that's warranted but 1) not everything is that important and 2) it leaves actually the power in the hands of who you address. My as soon as possible might be next week, or next month or next year.

BIG APPLE CAT · « **Reply #1988 on:** April 01, 2022, 08:46:17 AM »

The more I think about it, the more I realize my primary use of please advise is when I'm corresponding with a very technical, all business/no nonsense kind of person. They are unimpressed by my regards no matter how warm, and why would they want to tell me their thoughts? What am I their Lisa Frank diary with the heart shaped lock?

star seed 7 · « **Reply #1989 on:** April 01, 2022, 08:50:40 AM »

The sign off for the quality control guy at my company is "have a quality day!" and it makes me lol wholesomely

mocat · « **Reply #1990 on:** April 01, 2022, 09:50:40 AM »

i don't think you can please advise up the food chain. only down.
so you if you've been please advised, your status is below that of the please adviser.

_33 · « **Reply #1991 on:** April 01, 2022, 10:13:33 AM »

What about 'I hope this email finds you well'. Did this email have to travel aboard a steam ship across the Atlantic ocean to reach me? You know I'm well, we were on a zoom together yesterday.

pissclams · « **Reply #1992 on:** April 01, 2022, 03:26:45 PM »

hasta la pasta

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MakeItRain · « **Reply #1993 on:** April 01, 2022, 06:09:04 PM »

I was certain I use please advise and did it recently, so I looked at both email accounts to try to find the context. I did not use please advise but I did find that someone sent me a two sentence email and used it twice

Quote

MakeItRain,
I will be out of the office on Tuesday, March 8th, 2022, so we will not be able to meet. Please advise as to what time on Wednesday would work for you as I arrive back midday on Monday and have interviews and meetings all afternoon into the evening. Please advise.
Guy who missed MIRs meeting

catastrophe · « **Reply #1994 on:** April 01, 2022, 06:13:57 PM »

That’s perfect, and accurately depicts that it’s often used completely needlessly.

8manpick · « **Reply #1995 on:** April 01, 2022, 07:18:29 PM »

eff I used “please advise” this morning. I don’t usually, but I was hungover, so

Tobias · « **Reply #1996 on:** April 01, 2022, 07:19:31 PM »

that one’s a beaut, MIR

chum1 · « **Reply #1997 on:** April 14, 2022, 11:27:32 AM »

https://twitter.com/katiedimartin/status/1514290045078974472

TheHamburglar · « **Reply #1998 on:** April 14, 2022, 11:32:13 AM »

I work for a Swedish company. Their standard email signature was just “BR” for best regards. Nothing else. It’s like code for “end of email”. I loved it.

420seriouscat69 · « **Reply #1999 on:** April 14, 2022, 11:33:02 AM »

"Thanks,"