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Re: Life Planning Advice From steve dave
« Reply #50 on: April 25, 2013, 04:13:40 PM »
I'm bored these days. What's next for me, SD? I'm trying to drink less and smoke less and kick ass at this new job opportunity. But i'm kinda lost, you know?

you need to buckle down and make your job performance the number one thing in your life. I know you well enough to know this.
Man, I agree. Thanks, SD!  :thumbs:

I disagree. Don't get too ambitious in your new job.

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« Reply #51 on: April 25, 2013, 04:16:12 PM »
I'm bored these days. What's next for me, SD? I'm trying to drink less and smoke less and kick ass at this new job opportunity. But i'm kinda lost, you know?

you need to buckle down and make your job performance the number one thing in your life. I know you well enough to know this.
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I disagree. Don't get too ambitious in your new job.

Yeah, at least not too early on. You need to leave room for improvement later.

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« Reply #52 on: April 25, 2013, 04:25:03 PM »
Here's the thing on jobs: it is cool to pour yourself in to something and succeed.  It feels great.  That said, keep your eyes on what you want several yrs from now. 

What I am getting at is that you can work 12hrs a day and kick ass and stuff and get promoted and everything and that is fine, but promotions come based on what your employer thinks you can do going forward given your work habits.  So if you work 12 hrs a day to get that job, that same level of dedication will be expected of you once you have that job, if not more.  At no point, that I am aware of, do you finally get to a point where you have been promoted to a job where you get to back down to a level of effort less than what you gave to get that job. 

I probably described this poorly, but be aware.  When setting the world on fire, you have to keep feeding the flames otherwise they will burn your ass up.

So fast forward to where you want to be in several yrs.  Does that point in your life still give you room to put as much emphasis on your job then as you are talking about doing now?  Wife, kids, soccer and tball games, etc.  All that crap takes time.  Lots of it, and future you needs to be aware of the hole that present you may be digging.

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« Reply #53 on: April 25, 2013, 04:30:29 PM »
Here's the thing on jobs: it is cool to pour yourself in to something and succeed.  It feels great.  That said, keep your eyes on what you want several yrs from now. 

What I am getting at is that you can work 12hrs a day and kick ass and stuff and get promoted and everything and that is fine, but promotions come based on what your employer thinks you can do going forward given your work habits.  So if you work 12 hrs a day to get that job, that same level of dedication will be expected of you once you have that job, if not more.  At no point, that I am aware of, do you finally get to a point where you have been promoted to a job where you get to back down to a level of effort less than what you gave to get that job. 

I probably described this poorly, but be aware.  When setting the world on fire, you have to keep feeding the flames otherwise they will burn your ass up.

So fast forward to where you want to be in several yrs.  Does that point in your life still give you room to put as much emphasis on your job then as you are talking about doing now?  Wife, kids, soccer and tball games, etc.  All that crap takes time.  Lots of it, and future you needs to be aware of the hole that present you may be digging.

Might be specific to certain industries, certainly hasn't been true in my experience.
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Re: Life Planning Advice From steve dave
« Reply #54 on: April 25, 2013, 04:30:33 PM »
I mean I met with the VP and he told me what some of his middle of the road guys made and I was all like  :surprised:. I mean I need to bust my butt the first 3-6 months to establish myself there. It also makes me want to move downtown. I'm usually good at work/life balance.

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« Reply #55 on: April 25, 2013, 04:34:38 PM »
thinking of getting my masters degree. what should I get it in? also, how long should I take to do it? tia SD!

don't, you won't find a better job than what you have. If you just want to learn stuff, get a library card.

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« Reply #56 on: April 25, 2013, 04:36:06 PM »
thinking of getting my masters degree. what should I get it in? also, how long should I take to do it? tia SD!

don't, you won't find a better job than what you have. If you just want to learn stuff, get a library card.
Unless your job pays for it. Then you have nothing to lose and something in your back pocket.

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« Reply #57 on: April 25, 2013, 04:39:10 PM »
thinking of getting my masters degree. what should I get it in? also, how long should I take to do it? tia SD!

don't, you won't find a better job than what you have. If you just want to learn stuff, get a library card.
Unless your job pays for it. Then you have nothing to lose and something in your back pocket.

you have time to lose. But most importantly, keep in mind this advice was specific to KCFD.

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Re: Life Planning Advice From steve dave
« Reply #58 on: April 25, 2013, 04:39:23 PM »
Pretty sure I am going to get Alzheimer's based on family history, so do I really need to plan for retirement? I mean I'm not going to know what's go on anyway.

you should anyway. you could just be one medical advancement away. also, take fish oil daily.

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« Reply #59 on: April 25, 2013, 04:39:56 PM »
Here's the thing on jobs: it is cool to pour yourself in to something and succeed.  It feels great.  That said, keep your eyes on what you want several yrs from now. 

What I am getting at is that you can work 12hrs a day and kick ass and stuff and get promoted and everything and that is fine, but promotions come based on what your employer thinks you can do going forward given your work habits.  So if you work 12 hrs a day to get that job, that same level of dedication will be expected of you once you have that job, if not more.  At no point, that I am aware of, do you finally get to a point where you have been promoted to a job where you get to back down to a level of effort less than what you gave to get that job. 

I probably described this poorly, but be aware.  When setting the world on fire, you have to keep feeding the flames otherwise they will burn your ass up.

So fast forward to where you want to be in several yrs.  Does that point in your life still give you room to put as much emphasis on your job then as you are talking about doing now?  Wife, kids, soccer and tball games, etc.  All that crap takes time.  Lots of it, and future you needs to be aware of the hole that present you may be digging.

Might be specific to certain industries, certainly hasn't been true in my experience.

Service industries. 

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« Reply #60 on: April 25, 2013, 04:40:40 PM »
SD, should I open a restaurant/bar? 

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« Reply #61 on: April 25, 2013, 04:44:26 PM »
SD, should I open a restaurant/bar?

yes, absolutely. I've never been so sure of advice I have given.

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« Reply #62 on: April 25, 2013, 04:44:48 PM »
thinking of getting my masters degree. what should I get it in? also, how long should I take to do it? tia SD!

probably not unless your field requires it for certain pay grades (ie. teacher)

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« Reply #63 on: April 25, 2013, 05:01:28 PM »
I am a 21 year old male basketball player at a Kansas college who just won the Big 12 conference regular season title (shared) and made it to the championship game in the Big 12 tournament.  We unfortunately flamed out in the first round of the NCAA tournament and my coach looked like a fool following that loss.  I played pretty poorly in that game also but I had a pretty great year and made some post season all Big 12 teams.  Thing is, my current coach wasn't the one who recruited me and, even though I am likely to be one of the top returning players in this conference and will have a chance to really showcase my skills next season, I also want to be closer to home where my mother is struggling to raise my 2 younger brothers.  What should I do?  Do you need any more info to help me?

PS.  Home is the island of Puerto Rico where there are no Div I schools that play men's basketball.

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« Reply #64 on: April 25, 2013, 05:07:07 PM »
I am a 21 year old male basketball player at a Kansas college who just won the Big 12 conference regular season title (shared) and made it to the championship game in the Big 12 tournament.  We unfortunately flamed out in the first round of the NCAA tournament and my coach looked like a fool following that loss.  I played pretty poorly in that game also but I had a pretty great year and made some post season all Big 12 teams.  Thing is, my current coach wasn't the one who recruited me and, even though I am likely to be one of the top returning players in this conference and will have a chance to really showcase my skills next season, I also want to be closer to home where my mother is struggling to raise my 2 younger brothers.  What should I do?  Do you need any more info to help me?

PS.  Home is the island of Puerto Rico where there are no Div I schools that play men's basketball.
That's quite the pickle, LSOC.

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« Reply #65 on: April 25, 2013, 05:23:05 PM »
SD -

I am looking to meet a female companion, but haven't been on a date in a really long time.  I'm also very shy.  How do I proceed?

deets:  live in manhattan, go to school with a bunch of people way younger than me, go to bars with lots of people that are moderately younger than me

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« Reply #66 on: April 25, 2013, 05:57:55 PM »
SD -

I am looking to meet a female companion, but haven't been on a date in a really long time.  I'm also very shy.  How do I proceed?

deets:  live in manhattan, go to school with a bunch of people way younger than me, go to bars with lots of people that are moderately younger than me

-thanks, seven

Not SD (obviously), but I'll do my level best...

Have you checked out the University For Man?  They offer cooking classes; you can rent a plot in the Community Garden (there are 165 plots, so lots of people to meet all summer long); etc.

Do any of the wine stores in MHK have tasting nights?  Best not to be the creepy guy who is ALWAYS there, but check it out once.

The Manhattan Public Library has lots of free events for adults.  It's best if they're recurring of course.

Ultimately, the key is just being yourself.  It helps if you can find something to do that you're interested in, because that will make you more interesting to others.
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« Reply #67 on: April 25, 2013, 06:17:27 PM »
SD, should I open a restaurant/bar?

yes, absolutely. I've never been so sure of advice I have given.

Oh man.  :bracketmouse:   :bartender:

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« Reply #68 on: April 25, 2013, 07:13:42 PM »
Seven ignore gosp.  He's old as dirt and cannot help you. 
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« Reply #69 on: April 25, 2013, 07:16:46 PM »
Seven ignore gosp.  He's old as dirt and cannot help you.

i hate wine and libraries, so none of it applied anyway   :angry:
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« Reply #70 on: April 25, 2013, 07:36:15 PM »
SD -

I am looking to meet a female companion, but haven't been on a date in a really long time.  I'm also very shy.  How do I proceed?

deets:  live in manhattan, go to school with a bunch of people way younger than me, go to bars with lots of people that are moderately younger than me

-thanks, seven

tough situation given you are surrounded by people younger than you. get involved in philanthropies.

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« Reply #71 on: April 25, 2013, 08:26:06 PM »
JFC, sorry for rough ridin' up your thread SD.

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« Reply #72 on: April 25, 2013, 08:41:48 PM »
SD -

I am looking to meet a female companion, but haven't been on a date in a really long time.  I'm also very shy.  How do I proceed?

deets:  live in manhattan, go to school with a bunch of people way younger than me, go to bars with lots of people that are moderately younger than me

-thanks, seven

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« Reply #73 on: April 25, 2013, 08:44:40 PM »
SD -

I am looking to meet a female companion, but haven't been on a date in a really long time.  I'm also very shy.  How do I proceed?

deets:  live in manhattan, go to school with a bunch of people way younger than me, go to bars with lots of people that are moderately younger than me

-thanks, seven

Play world of warcraft.

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i used to  :sadpeek:
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« Reply #74 on: April 25, 2013, 08:45:41 PM »
sd, are we real life friends?

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