Planning weddings

[Cartierfor3]

once that bride who sent the bill has kids, michigancat will need to bookmark her mommy blog. will be absolutely epic

[Brock Landers]

Yeah I saw this story last night too and it made me unusually ragey.  Pretty sure I yelled a profanity or two.

[michigancat]

That story seems too good to be true.

[8manpick]

http://abcnews.go.com/Lifestyle/minnesota-woman-billed-bride-missing-wedding/story?id=34160008&override=twitter

We saw that on the news last night which then caused a discussion about how catering pricing works. Do they charge you for an exact number of people you reserve or do they round up? Like if I say that we need dinner for 79 people do they charge 79 x $ per person or do they round up and charge 80 x $ per person? Or do they just have an option that is "This amount feeds 75-85 people for $$$" and even if you only have 79 people you have to buy that option?

Buffet wedding or sit down dinner served probably makes a difference here.

[Mrs. Gooch]

http://abcnews.go.com/Lifestyle/minnesota-woman-billed-bride-missing-wedding/story?id=34160008&override=twitter

We saw that on the news last night which then caused a discussion about how catering pricing works. Do they charge you for an exact number of people you reserve or do they round up? Like if I say that we need dinner for 79 people do they charge 79 x $ per person or do they round up and charge 80 x $ per person? Or do they just have an option that is "This amount feeds 75-85 people for $$$" and even if you only have 79 people you have to buy that option?

Buffet wedding or sit down dinner served probably makes a difference here.

I assume we are talking about sit down dinner because that lady specifically billed her no-show guests for a very specific entree.

[Gooch]

I rough ridin' said if person A calls and gets a price for 80 people and person B calls up and gets a price for 79 people it will be the same god damn price.

[Mrs. Gooch]

I rough ridin' said if person A calls and gets a price for 80 people and person B calls up and gets a price for 79 people it will be the same god damn price.

Yeah, and mocat proved you wrong.

[SkinnyBenny]

I rough ridin' said if person A calls and gets a price for 80 people and person B calls up and gets a price for 79 people it will be the same god damn price.

Yeah, and mocat proved you wrong.

It has been a month. Have we settled this one yet?

[renocat]

I'd tell the bride to shove the bill up her cheap bung hole.

[star seed 7]

I rough ridin' said if person A calls and gets a price for 80 people and person B calls up and gets a price for 79 people it will be the same god damn price.

Yeah, and mocat proved you wrong.

It has been a month. Have we settled this one yet?

I think the winner got a new grill

[8manpick]

Canadian's friends significant other's parents are very anti-kids at a wedding. Unfortunately most of this friends / family are from out of town and some have young children.  Anyone have experience with this? He is thinking of providing babysitter(s) for the close friends and family affected. Thoughts?

[michigancat]

Canadian's friends significant other's parents are very anti-kids at a wedding. Unfortunately most of this friends / family are from out of town and some have young children.  Anyone have experience with this? He is thinking of providing babysitter(s) for the close friends and family affected. Thoughts?

That sounds like a very nice compromise.

[Mrs. Gooch]

Canadian's friends significant other's parents are very anti-kids at a wedding. Unfortunately most of this friends / family are from out of town and some have young children.  Anyone have experience with this? He is thinking of providing babysitter(s) for the close friends and family affected. Thoughts?

How does the significant other feel about kids at the wedding? That is more important than how her (or his?) parents feel.

[OK_Cat]

Yeah if you are already doing what her parents want instead of what you want then you're mumped

[star seed 7]

possible that the canadian parents are paying, which means they get to have some say

[OK_Cat]

Sounds like Canadian friend is mumped

[WonderMeal]

If your Canadian Friend or his future in-laws agree to pay for babysitters during and after the service, I guarantee that 100% of your friends will prefer this option over dragging their kids to a wedding and leaving early. This is a total class move.

Even if the Canadian In-laws don't pay, you or one of your local friends with kids should arrange to have a trusted babysitter on hand. It'd be pretty rude to say "come to a city where you don't live to attend my wedding and also find a babysitter that you've never met and then pay for them."

If you go with Option #1, your friends with young kids will be  .

[slobber]

If your friends have any older kids, maybe 10-12 years old, let it be known that you will pay them to help babysit the younger kids. Some of your friends will be worried that there are not enough babysitters, or that they don't know the babysitters. If your friends know each other, they might feel better about leaving their kids with the babysitter if they know the babysitter's parents. Still hire at least one professional.


Gonna win 'em all!

[Cire]

My experience with no kid weddings is that a lot of people won't show that have young kids

[SkinnyBenny]

My experience with no kid weddings is that a lot of people won't show that have young kids

My experience was pretty much that everyone with kids still travelled to my wedding and super duper thanked me for giving them a night free to be an adult with other adults. Lit'rally every one. Do what's right for you, but from my own experience I would say kid-free weddings are a blast and everyone thinks so.

[Mrs. Gooch]

IF you are going to provide a babysitter(s) make sure to make it clear that they must let you know in advance how many kids they are bringing....you don't want 50 kids to show up when you planned only 1 babysitter because only 2 kids RSVPd.

Also, consider where the kids/babysitters are going to be. If there is a separate room in the same building (church?) that the kids/babysitters can be in, that might give some parents peace of mind in knowing that they are on site, so that even if something arises with this babysitter that they don't know, then they can come get the parents if needed.

[star seed 7]

Parents are so needy

[420seriouscat69]

I've been awesome at planning this wedding. I just got Ms. Wacky a ring and told her to do whatever she wanted. I told her what four guys I wanted by my side and she agreed to it. Now we're doing something small in Colorado, on top of some random mountain, and having a huge reception when we get back. 

[Mrs. Gooch]

Parents are so needy

Agreed.

[420seriouscat69]

Parents are so needy

Agreed.

Ms. Wacky's fam is kind of pissed we're not doing a huge Catholic wedding. They also want more than 40 in Colorado and that's not what we want. We gave them the huge reception back home. I agree that parents are needy, but I get their side of things too. If they're paying, they want major imput. However, i'm not Catholic and i'm not taking classes to get married in a Catholic church. This being their only daughter out of 6 kids, I get their side of things, but this day isn't about hem.