Let's all agree that it would be insufferable to have ok cat and his family over to your house.
"Oh, what? Is that a picture of your kids? The pieces of crap that were burned alive in that car accident?"
"Yeah, it's been a couple months now. Damn drunk drivers. . . "
"Honey, we're leaving, k_m just used foul language, and he knew our children were in the other room."