Heard from a source today (I cannot grade this source as anything other than a KU fan as he works in our Topeka office, and I've only talked to him in person a handful of times) that Self was grabbed by the throat at a Lawrence bar/restaurant (can't recall what the name was, but I'd never heard of it until he said it) earlier this year by the husband of one of his lady friends and the person doing the grabbing said something to the effect of, "I don't give a eff who you are, if you eff my wife again, I'm going to kick your ass."
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