I need some personal development

[treysolid]

EMAWgeddon, are you clingy? What aren't you telling us? I'm just trying to understand why all these guys don't see you as long-term relationship material because it sounds to me like you're a pretty cool chica. 

[EMAWgeddon]

EMAWgeddon, are you clingy? What aren't you telling us? I'm just trying to understand why all these guys don't see you as long-term relationship material because it sounds to me like you're a pretty cool chica. 

I don't even have enough free time to be clingy.

I was hoping you guys would PI me into long term material but everyone is being so nice   

[EMAWgeddon]

So, I read the whole thread.  

1. While what Stunz said is actually pretty true don't change who you are to attract more guys.  That is dumb and you will be miserable.  
2. Prob should date more dudes who are not attorneys (not that attorneys are bad dudes or anything).  
3. Do you want to have kids in the future?

I say and ask these things because you are actually pretty awesome long-term material if, and only if you are willing to not make your job your 95% of your life.  Though I know it may be hard to do that now, but you will have to slow down in the future.  I say your are awesome long-term material for a few reasons,

a. you're smart and independent and can take care of yourself (though this won't win you any macho ultra-provider types it will do you wonders with rational dudes)
b. you're good enough looking (I think I've met you), but you don't look to sexy, or slutty. It is a look that will prob age well
c. you do know sports and are actually cool and not bimboish. this is super important for longterm stuff.

The reason I ask about kids and mention working so much is that if you were to eventually marry a guy I doubt you would want to give up your career forever but making the money you do, regardless of whether or not your dude makes a ton (don't date complete losers) is a real positive.  You can take time off when a kid is young and ave money saved over, while your dude still works.  etc.  Then when the kid/ kids start school you can go back to work or whatever, or you can go back earlier.  I'm just saying it makes for a lot of flexibility.  

I mentioned dating outside attorneys because there are a lot of good jobs that good dudes have that might not make a TON of money but would work well with you.  Teachers, firefighters, these types of jobs attract guys who make okay money, but also attract quality people.  Another positive about this is these guys ave the time to be good husbands/ dads, etc. because they have a lot of time off.  

P.S. I think I met you at the WVU pak but I could be mistaken.  If I didn't disregard the being cool and looks stuff.

Edit:  Another reason I mentioned firefighter, teacher types is because these kinds of dudes know that their careers aren't huge moneymakers but get into them anyway.  So while they probably won't resent you for making good money, they probably won't be the pussy clinger-on types that Stunz was talking about.  It is a good balance.

This is very nice and I will keep it in mind. I am checking out a Michigan game watch tonight with my wing woman but I'm already skeptical because Tom Brady was a Michigan man.

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I was hoping you guys would PI me into long term material but everyone is being so nice  

Wow, shocking that a bunch of dudes on a message board who normally PI the other dudes are gonna be all ass-kissy when a chick starts posting.  

This is the Personal Development FOR SMART PEOPLE Forum.  To us elites, your compliment-fishing expedition was very transparent.

I'm submitting this entire thread to humblebrag.

[EMAWgeddon]

I was hoping you guys would PI me into long term material but everyone is being so nice  

Wow, shocking that a bunch of dudes on a message board who normally PI the other dudes are gonna be all ass-kissy when a chick starts posting.  

This is the Personal Development FOR SMART PEOPLE Forum.  To us elites, your compliment-fishing expedition was very transparent.

I'm submitting this entire thread to humblebrag.

 

[sonofdaxjones]

1) Take out a piece of paper and a pen.

2) Write down how much you made this last year.

3) Put it in the mirror you use to get ready in the morning/before you go out.

What does this accomplish?

It's just a reminder.  For the love of god we can't do everything for you.

I AM MORE THAN MY PAYCHECK.

Also this reminds me another guy recently told me he didn't want to date me because I made 3x as much as him  

I quit reading this thread at this post and I have no good advice for  you, as I am old by this boards norm and have been married for nearly 2 decades.   But I just want to know . . . did you punch that guy?  Like really hard?

[HeinBallz]

You completely avoiding my post makes me think you hate yourself.  Put finding a man on hold and deal with whatever it is you have going on over there.  Good luck.


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[Dual Ju]

Well, this is awkward. 

[Kat Kid]

I was hoping you guys would PI me into long term material but everyone is being so nice  

Wow, shocking that a bunch of dudes on a message board who normally PI the other dudes are gonna be all ass-kissy when a chick starts posting.  

This is the Personal Development FOR SMART PEOPLE Forum.  To us elites, your compliment-fishing expedition was very transparent.

I'm submitting this entire thread to humblebrag.

 

What my wife said.  In my posts I thought I was PI-y but nice.  Buck up!  You are the 1%.  Get a cabana boy or some such crap.  Save your money and then in 20 years you can buy an antique chez lounge and have imported Portuguese and Italian attendant stud muffins feeding you grapes and giving you afternoon massages.

[stunted]

I was hoping you guys would PI me into long term material but everyone is being so nice  

Wow, shocking that a bunch of dudes on a message board who normally PI the other dudes are gonna be all ass-kissy when a chick starts posting.  

This is the Personal Development FOR SMART PEOPLE Forum.  To us elites, your compliment-fishing expedition was very transparent.

I'm submitting this entire thread to humblebrag.

If you are going to listen to kiss-asses more than someone who has dedicated a good portion of his life to this very subject, then I bid you good luck.  Why ask for advice when you are going to ignore real truthful answers?

On another note, there must be some correlation between the ass-kissers and those who complain about Frank/Snyder benching Angel/JO/Bryce.

[reidrolled]

I dont know if anyone has mentioned this yet.... but the solution for a long term relationship is very simple... once you find a guy that you can tolerate, make friends with his friends. If his friends suck, you wont want to be in a long term relationship with him anyways because he probably sucks. if his friends are cool and they like you, it makes it very difficult for him to break up with you. Also, he will want to be around you a lot more because he will be able to hang out with his friends while also fulfilling his obligation to spend time with you.

[Pete]

Has anyone in this thread "gone there" yet? I mean, there is an elephant in the room, is there not?






Is it possible that "long-term relationship" is merely a euphemism for fellatio?  Maybe she's really, really bad at it  or won't do it at all.    



Would be easier to say something like "not long-term relationship worthy," if you were him, right?      go cats

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[puniraptor]

I dont know if anyone has mentioned this yet.... but the solution for a long term relationship is very simple... once you find a guy that you can tolerate, make friends with his friends. If his friends suck, you wont want to be in a long term relationship with him anyways because he probably sucks. if his friends are cool and they like you, it makes it very difficult for him to break up with you. Also, he will want to be around you a lot more because he will be able to hang out with his friends while also fulfilling his obligation to spend time with you.

Relationship Inertia. This is actually something I have seen work numerous times.

[michigancat]

welp, this thread will hopefully take a fun turn.

[Pete]

welp, this thread will hopefully take a fun turn.

Fun?  Who the eff is joking around?


Ask yourself this, would you enter a long-term relationship with a woman who will not do "certain things."  If you answer yes, you are a dude who never got/gets any and you are desperate for any female contact you can get....but if that were the case you are probably such a wet blanket that she wouldn't want you anyway.


This is a serious issue.


Now, the question is how did the latest guy sniff this out after the fourth date?   

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[Pete]

Before this gets out of hand, let's play devil's (emawgeddon's) advocate here....


What if she really is a lady wildcat in the boudoir, but is very shy about it?  This could all be a HUGE misunderstanding.  These dudes could be running around besmirching Emawgeddon's romantic disposition, when in truth it's the exact opposite. 


What if all the "coaching" she really needs on relationships is how to sack up and unleash her lady wildcatness? 

I mean, we have to at least attempt to give her the benefit of the doubt, don't we   Seems like the least we could do for a fellow emaw, right? 



Do they make one of these with a different set of hand positions?   

[p1k3]

Mods, i wouldnt let HR see this thread...

[Kat Kid]

Oh pete.

 

[wes mantooth]

if I found out a girl I was dating was posting on a message board, I would think that was weird. 

[Pete]

BLAH, BLAH, BLAH, be yourself, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH, open your heart, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH, date lots of asian girls, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH...


LOADS of crap advice in this thread.  Tackle the big issues first, Emawgeddon, because if THAT isn't corrected you won't get far enough for the rest to matter.  

[Pete]

if I found out a girl I was dating was posting on a message board, I would think that was weird. 

Depends on the board, bro...

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[Pete]

Jesus christ, it's like most of you don't even give a crap about Emawgeddon. 


Basically, if she was chewing on the end of her ink pen and had blue ink all over her face, you guys would say "no, you are good." 


Good grief.