Author Topic: Golfing w/ new people (Read 9769 times)

j rake · « **on:** February 13, 2011, 02:38:21 PM »

The snow is melting, which got me to thinking about golf, which got me to thinking about playing golf, which got me to thinking about what makes me most nervous about golf: Playing w/ people you've never played with before.

Anybody else hate this? The idea of having to "prove" yourself to somebody new is just so annoying/uncomfortable. The first tee is the ultimate first impression; duff it or slice it and the walk to your ball is miserable. Your playing partners think you are awful, which you very well might be. But maybe not. You might go on to shoot 75.

I am a decent player, but I pretty much always downplay my ability anytime I play with someone new. Then I end up having no confidence and I play like a total schmuck.

Golf ... what a crazy ~~game~~ sport.

pike · « **Reply #1 on:** February 13, 2011, 02:41:32 PM »

Yeah first hole determines if you're a successful businessman or a scrub

felix rex · « **Reply #2 on:** February 13, 2011, 02:51:19 PM »

We do a lot of golf business meetings. Love when we bring the Arabs in. Terrible golfers. No pressure on the first tee.

_33 · « **Reply #3 on:** February 13, 2011, 02:54:36 PM »

Once I completely whiffed on the first tee.

WillieWatanabe · « **Reply #4 on:** February 13, 2011, 02:54:41 PM »

Golf is the most mental game i've ever played. We have a love/hate relationship.

j rake · « **Reply #5 on:** February 13, 2011, 03:03:39 PM »

I played high school golf for four years and did well despite thinking about the worst-case scenario prior to every swing I ever took. There would be times that I'd lag putt an 8-footer if it was even slightly down hill. I was such a nervous head case.

WillieWatanabe · « **Reply #6 on:** February 13, 2011, 03:06:23 PM »

Quote from: j rake on February 13, 2011, 03:03:39 PM

I played high school golf for four years and did well despite thinking about the worst-case scenario prior to every swing I ever took. There would be times that I'd lag putt an 8-footer if it was even slightly down hill. I was such a nervous head case.

I preferred being the #2 golfer on my team, instead of the #1. So much less pressure.

kso_FAN · « **Reply #7 on:** February 13, 2011, 03:10:31 PM »

I would rather play with people I know, but am fine playing with new people. I know I'm not really good, I just like to play.

Dugout DickStone · « **Reply #8 on:** February 13, 2011, 03:11:34 PM »

I caddied at Bushwood. Also played there some too.

WillieWatanabe · « **Reply #9 on:** February 13, 2011, 03:20:33 PM »

I'm also intimidated at bigger courses. So i rarely play them. I need to get over this.

wetwillie · « **Reply #10 on:** February 13, 2011, 04:18:39 PM »

Another thing I don't like about playing with new people is determining if you are going to play from the tips or from one of the forward tee's. If you suggest playing from the tips it might be met with a feeling of "look at this bad person, trying to show us up by playing from the championship tee's" but if you suggest playing from the forward tee's it is " what a pussy do you want us to play from the ladies tee's while we are at it?"

j rake · « **Reply #11 on:** February 13, 2011, 04:20:45 PM »

The tees thing is awkward, you're right. But as awkward as when your new playing partner tees up a mulligan?

pissclams · « **Reply #12 on:** February 13, 2011, 04:28:16 PM »

golf. a game of losers.

KSUBrian · « **Reply #13 on:** February 13, 2011, 04:28:42 PM »

Quote from: ksu_FAN on February 13, 2011, 03:10:31 PM

I would rather play with people I know, but am fine playing with new people. I know I'm not really good, I just like to play.

This

Trim · « **Reply #14 on:** February 13, 2011, 04:34:13 PM »

LOL at a drunk KSUBrian getting plowing the cart through everyone and everything.

pike · « **Reply #15 on:** February 13, 2011, 05:27:44 PM »

Quote from: pissclams on February 13, 2011, 04:28:16 PM

golf. a game of losers.

pissclams · « **Reply #16 on:** February 13, 2011, 05:36:33 PM »

golf, a sport that people who aren't good at real sports play.

j rake · « **Reply #17 on:** February 13, 2011, 05:41:07 PM »

Quote from: pissclams on February 13, 2011, 05:36:33 PM

golf, a sport that people who aren't good at real sports play.

At least you referred to it as a sport this time.

pissclams · « **Reply #18 on:** February 13, 2011, 05:47:16 PM »

golf, not.

pike · « **Reply #19 on:** February 13, 2011, 06:13:50 PM »

Golf is for people that smell good, enjoy getting outside, and have lots of money. Truly an elite sport.

Kat Kid · « **Reply #20 on:** February 13, 2011, 06:15:21 PM »

Quote from: pike on February 13, 2011, 06:13:50 PM

Golf is for people that smell good, enjoy getting outside, and have lots of money. Truly an elite sport.

Golf is for people too old and smelly to play tennis.

pike · « **Reply #21 on:** February 13, 2011, 07:15:46 PM »

Quote from: Tortuga on February 13, 2011, 06:15:21 PM

Quote from: pike on February 13, 2011, 06:13:50 PM
Golf is for people that smell good, enjoy getting outside, and have lots of money. Truly an elite sport.

Golf is for people too old and smelly to play tennis.

Tennis gets you way too smelly, and you can't get hammered while you play

OK_Cat · « **Reply #22 on:** February 13, 2011, 09:01:50 PM »

Quote from: pissclams on February 13, 2011, 04:28:16 PM

golf. a game of losers.

yoga-like_abana · « **Reply #23 on:** February 13, 2011, 09:15:19 PM »

Wish I was good at golf......swing the club likes its a baseball bat though..... need to take some UFM classes or something?

MakeItRain · « **Reply #24 on:** February 13, 2011, 09:20:25 PM »

Quote from: j rake on February 13, 2011, 02:38:21 PM

The snow is melting, which got me to thinking about golf, which got me to thinking about playing golf, which got me to thinking about what makes me most nervous about golf: Playing w/ people you've never played with before.

Anybody else hate this? The idea of having to "prove" yourself to somebody new is just so annoying/uncomfortable. The first tee is the ultimate first impression; duff it or slice it and the walk to your ball is miserable. Your playing partners think you are awful, which you very well might be. But maybe not. You might go on to shoot 75.

I am a decent player, but I pretty much always downplay my ability anytime I play with someone new. Then I end up having no confidence and I play like a total schmuck.

Golf ... what a crazy ~~game~~ sport.

It's worse when you are playing a white man's game and you don't want to embarrass your race. Even the most well intentioned withe dude says something to really make me uncomfortable. I've been asked at least half a dozen times about how I have been influenced by Tiger Woods.

As for the first tee thing, several times I have told myself that I am going to hit an iron off of the first tee to minimize embarrassment. I did it once, the first time I played at Sand Creek Station, a group of six BTW and I knew one other guy. I laced a 5 iron, still felt stupid.

Also why do guys like me who shoot in the 80's and 90's play the tips? I hate that crap, I don't get paid to play golf, what the eff do I have to prove?