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Title: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: The1BigWillie on May 14, 2014, 10:10:30 AM
Guy I work with just emailed me an invite to his "baby shower".  I would consider said coworker a friend but we've never really hung out outside of work.  I've never met his wife. 

I've never been to a baby shower, never wanted to go to a baby shower, and you can bet your sweet ass I will NOT be going to this baby shower.  Hell, I've never even purchased a gift for a f*cking baby shower... 

Question for my fellow GoEmawers.... Should I feel a damn bit guilty for not going and not gifting?  I don't.  But, should I? Is this a thing? Guys going to baby showers?  I mean... WHAT THE TAP DANCING eff?  Baby Shower!!?!?!    :jerk:
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: TownieCat on May 14, 2014, 10:12:54 AM
Your coworker should feel guilty for inviting you.
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: slucat on May 14, 2014, 10:13:13 AM
don't feel guilty...
however, maybe your co-worker wants to hang outside of work?  Maybe he doesn't have non-work pals...and the wife will be surrounded by all her friends and he doesn't want to be chilling at this thing alone.
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: puniraptor on May 14, 2014, 10:14:23 AM
maybe you can go in the backyard and pound brews and shoot guns and ride 4 wheelers while the ladies do the horrible baby shower stuff?
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: The1BigWillie on May 14, 2014, 10:14:53 AM
don't feel guilty...
however, maybe your co-worker wants to hang outside of work?  Maybe he doesn't have non-work pals...and the wife will be surrounded by all her friends and he doesn't want to be chilling at this thing alone.

Nope, he has tons of out of work pals. Has literally never asked me to hang out outside of work.
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: The1BigWillie on May 14, 2014, 10:15:21 AM
maybe you can go in the backyard and pound brews and shoot guns and ride 4 wheelers while the ladies do the horrible baby shower stuff?

It's in a subdivision in Shawnee.
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on May 14, 2014, 10:16:05 AM
Yeah, you shouldn't feel guilty. Unless you have given him some indication that you like to play party games like "Guess the flavor of this baby food" or "Guess how big around the pregnant lady's stomach is".
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: slucat on May 14, 2014, 10:16:49 AM
don't feel guilty...
however, maybe your co-worker wants to hang outside of work?  Maybe he doesn't have non-work pals...and the wife will be surrounded by all her friends and he doesn't want to be chilling at this thing alone.

Nope, he has tons of out of work pals. Has literally never asked me to hang out outside of work.

feel no guilt. prob just a extra gift in his eyes, knows you are EMAW and would give a $$ gift, but you'll mush his fat face in that load of crap.
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: TownieCat on May 14, 2014, 10:18:39 AM
maybe you can go in the backyard and pound brews and shoot guns and ride 4 wheelers while the ladies do the horrible baby shower stuff?

While this sounds amazing, a baby shower is an awful first bro-date.

Kind of seems like the Seinfeld episode when Jerry helps Keith Fernandez move. What's next...T1BW is supposed to pick this guy up from the airport??
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: puniraptor on May 14, 2014, 10:19:33 AM
pin the gens on the babe (baby)
eat a cupcake where there is frosting inside that indicates the anatomical sex
purse contents scavenger hunt
purse contents bingo
purse contents blackjack
baby name statistcal trivia

you really want to miss out on all this?
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: 'taterblast on May 14, 2014, 10:30:34 AM
wants gifts
Title: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: pissclams on May 14, 2014, 10:31:35 AM
would give zero fucks about not going and would be a little disgruntled  about him sending me invite but  wouldn't fight him b/c he's prob temp insane b/c kid
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on May 14, 2014, 10:31:56 AM
Did he invite other office people?
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on May 14, 2014, 10:34:13 AM
Guy I work with just emailed me an invite to his "baby shower".  I would consider said coworker a friend but we've never really hung out outside of work.  I've never met his wife. 

I've never been to a baby shower, never wanted to go to a baby shower, and you can bet your sweet ass I will NOT be going to this baby shower.  Hell, I've never even purchased a gift for a f*cking baby shower... 

Question for my fellow GoEmawers.... Should I feel a damn bit guilty for not going and not gifting?  I don't.  But, should I? Is this a thing? Guys going to baby showers?  I mean... WHAT THE TAP DANCING eff?  Baby Shower!!?!?!    :jerk:

I just reread this and realized it was an email invite....he wouldn't even spare an actual paper invitation for you then you shouldn't even have spared the time it took to write this post.
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: Emo EMAW on May 14, 2014, 10:40:23 AM
Guy I work with just emailed me an invite to his "baby shower".  I would consider said coworker a friend but we've never really hung out outside of work.  I've never met his wife. 

I've never been to a baby shower, never wanted to go to a baby shower, and you can bet your sweet ass I will NOT be going to this baby shower.  Hell, I've never even purchased a gift for a f*cking baby shower... 

Question for my fellow GoEmawers.... Should I feel a damn bit guilty for not going and not gifting?  I don't.  But, should I? Is this a thing? Guys going to baby showers?  I mean... WHAT THE TAP DANCING eff?  Baby Shower!!?!?!    :jerk:

I just reread this and realized it was an email invite....he wouldn't even spare an actual paper invitation for you then you shouldn't even have spared the time it took to write this post.

Was going to post same thing!  :love:
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: The1BigWillie on May 14, 2014, 11:20:27 AM
Did he invite other office people?

I don't know... I'm going to find out. 
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: star seed 7 on May 14, 2014, 11:23:18 AM
don't the fathers usually skip out on the baby shower?
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on May 14, 2014, 12:02:54 PM
don't the fathers usually skip out on the baby shower?
Traditionally, yes but somewhat recently some people have changed to include both parents. This goes along with having joint bachelor/bachelorette parties.
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: waks on May 14, 2014, 12:07:16 PM
maybe you can go in the backyard and pound brews and shoot guns and ride 4 wheelers while the ladies do the horrible baby shower stuff?

While this sounds amazing, a baby shower is an awful first bro-date.

Kind of seems like the Seinfeld episode when Jerry helps Keith Fernandez move. What's next...T1BW is supposed to pick this guy up from the airport??
:D
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: michigancat on May 14, 2014, 12:16:08 PM
If it was a good friend that invited you, you should be happy to go. But this doesn't seem like a good friend and it's definitely an odd first social interaction outside of work.
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: TownieCat on May 14, 2014, 12:19:58 PM
maybe you can go in the backyard and pound brews and shoot guns and ride 4 wheelers while the ladies do the horrible baby shower stuff?

While this sounds amazing, a baby shower is an awful first bro-date.

Kind of seems like the Seinfeld episode when Jerry helps Keith Fernandez move. What's next...T1BW is supposed to pick this guy up from the airport??
:D

 :D
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: Gooch on May 14, 2014, 12:41:14 PM
Trim316
Title: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: OK_Cat on May 14, 2014, 12:58:34 PM
Get them a small baby gift and give it to him at work. You won't go to shower and won't feel guilty. Problem solved.
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: The1BigWillie on May 14, 2014, 01:06:35 PM
I'm going to ask the kid next to me who makes half what I do if he invited him.   :Wha:
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: slobber on May 14, 2014, 01:08:19 PM
Trim316
Is he a cool dude? If so, his wife is probably a cool chick. If she is a cool chick, she probably has cool friends. If so, and you don't have anything else planned, then you should go. A gift is like $20. Probably will eat and drink that much at the party. May meet a cool girl. Prosper.
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: slimz on May 14, 2014, 01:10:26 PM
On a somewhat related note, friend told me the other day about a wedding invite he received that was a specific "no plus one." He's single anyway, so he was like, "cool, I'll dance with a bridesmaid or something." But then he received an invite to a couples shower for the happy couple, which he declined because a) he's single and b) kind of a weird mixed message to send after the no plus one invite. I told him I hadn't heard of that type of thing before, but I'd have done the same thing.
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on May 14, 2014, 01:12:20 PM
On a somewhat related note, friend told me the other day about a wedding invite he received that was a specific "no plus one." He's single anyway, so he was like, "cool, I'll dance with a bridesmaid or something." But then he received an invite to a couples shower for the happy couple, which he declined because a) he's single and b) kind of a weird mixed message to send after the no plus one invite. I told him I hadn't heard of that type of thing before, but I'd have done the same thing.

Yeah, that seems weird, like "You can bring your date to the shower but we don't want her at our wedding"
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on May 14, 2014, 01:15:23 PM
Get them a small baby gift and give it to him at work. You won't go to shower and won't feel guilty. Problem solved.

There is no need for this.
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: mocat on May 14, 2014, 01:16:03 PM
that is the weirdest thing i've ever heard slimz
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: Mrs. Gooch on May 14, 2014, 01:18:40 PM
Is it normal to invite someone to a wedding with a specific "No plus one"?
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: OK_Cat on May 14, 2014, 01:31:07 PM

Get them a small baby gift and give it to him at work. You won't go to shower and won't feel guilty. Problem solved.

There is no need for this.

It's ok to think of others.
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: Cartierfor3 on May 14, 2014, 01:35:26 PM
I have a strict "I do not attend showers, be it wedding or baby" policy. This way its not personal when I decline.
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: pissclams on May 14, 2014, 01:38:30 PM
I have a strict "I do not attend showers, be it wedding or baby" policy. This way its not personal when I decline.

yup, same.  it's even on my card.
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: The1BigWillie on May 14, 2014, 02:02:51 PM
OK... I asked the kid next to me. he didn't get an email invite.... and they have Bro'd before and gone on road trips to KU bball games together.  I asked him if he supposed I got invited because the guy thought I'd buy him something and he wouldn't.   He said... "well if that's what he's thinking, he's at least half right."

EFF this prick and his baby shower stupidity. 
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: Cartierfor3 on May 14, 2014, 03:10:03 PM
OK... I asked the kid next to me. he didn't get an email invite.... and they have Bro'd before and gone on road trips to KU bball games together.  I asked him if he supposed I got invited because the guy thought I'd buy him something and he wouldn't.   He said... "well if that's what he's thinking, he's at least half right."

EFF this prick and his baby shower stupidity.

Don't call him names or get upset. Just say Thanks, but no thanks.
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: Bloodfart on May 14, 2014, 10:28:05 PM
Maybe he sent the invite to you by mistake?   :dunno:
Title: Re: Do I need to feel obligated to go to a f*cking baby shower?
Post by: The1BigWillie on May 15, 2014, 08:03:42 AM
No... because I ignored it and he came over to me and said... "Hey, did you get my email???"

 :whistle1: