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Title: When talking to someone face to face...
Post by: WillieWatanabe on November 26, 2012, 01:35:40 PM
where do you look? Most of the time i look at their mouth, which im not sure is normal. Usually when i make eye contact they are looking right back. Am i weird for not making a lot of eye contact? T-Y
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Post by: Saulbadguy on November 26, 2012, 01:36:34 PM
I walk away while i'm talking
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Post by: Cire on November 26, 2012, 01:38:05 PM
you/they can't tell where you are looking, it pretty much all looks like eye contact unless you are a foot away.
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Post by: slobber on November 26, 2012, 01:40:44 PM
where do you look? Most of the time i look at their mouth, which im not sure is normal. Usually when i make eye contact they are looking right back. Am i weird for not making a lot of eye contact? T-Y
My wife's best friend does this. It is weird; however, I can't confirm that you are weird, as you have always seemed pretty normal.
Title: Re: When talking to someone face to face...
Post by: WillieWatanabe on November 26, 2012, 02:11:23 PM
you/they can't tell where you are looking, it pretty much all looks like eye contact unless you are a foot away.

I dunno, i can tell when someone is looking at a mark on my cheek, then moves to my eyes. It's not usually a big deal, until i was talking to someone who was missing a couple teeth, i couldn't stop looking. They had to have noticed when i went from their teeth(tooth, lol) to their eyes. :ohno:
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Post by: Bloodfart on November 26, 2012, 02:23:09 PM
When talking to a customer my eyes dart around the room and I only make eye contact to emphasize something important.  The person usually locks eyes with me for a split second then they quickly look at something else.  I think it helps the customer feel superior by not making eye contact.   :dunno:
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Post by: Pexikan on November 26, 2012, 02:23:56 PM
For me, I give eye contact most of the time. Like at work and whatnot. Unless I'm busy. Or theyre an unattractive woman.  My older brother told me at a very young age, "never make eye contact with women you wouldn't eff." I don't know why that stuck with me.
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Post by: SdK on November 26, 2012, 02:35:17 PM
For me, I give eye contact most of the time. Like at work and whatnot. Unless I'm busy. Or theyre an unattractive woman.  My older brother told me at a very young age, "never make eye contact with women you wouldn't eff." I don't know why that stuck with me.

Do gay men never look women in the eye?
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Post by: yoga-like_abana on November 26, 2012, 02:57:32 PM
depends on if I want them to feel comfortable or uncomfortable around me
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Post by: Mr Bread on November 26, 2012, 03:03:02 PM
depends on if I want them to feel comfortable or uncomfortable around me

This is especially true when you're the listener.  Really throws some people off.  Maybe even more true when it's a small presentation setting.  You catch the speaker's eyes and it totally messes with them.  Like "Eek a connection! What was I saying!?" :runaway: :lol:
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Post by: kitten_mittons on November 26, 2012, 04:41:25 PM
I always make eye contact. But if someone starts boring me, I'll start to focus on some weird thing about their face and start laughing. It's not good.
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Post by: bones129 on November 27, 2012, 12:48:13 AM
Eye-to-eye contact is critical until there is no reason to continue the conversation. Then, repeated and long looks at your watch, followed by looks out the window, should send the "nice to meet you, now GTFO" message. Has worked many times for me. And I am still successful in my business.
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Post by: WillieWatanabe on November 27, 2012, 06:13:27 AM
hmm. so im not weird. However, i should work on more eye contact apparently.  Welp, time to make things awkward co-workers.
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Post by: KITNfury on November 27, 2012, 06:53:36 AM
I used to watch peoples mouths too, until I too realized it was weird. I stopped. I think the habit started because my hearing wasnt real good as a kid. Wasn't deaf but I was one of those that always had to get more hearing tests than the other kids. Anyway, I look at eyes now. Usually the other persons right eye (canter look at both without shifting eyes). It always makes it awkward when I get my tires rotated as the guy there has an eye that he can't control and is always pointed up and out. It's his right eye and out of habit I look there first and then I realize its messed up so I look at his other eye which is looking at me looking at his weird eye. 
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Post by: sys on November 27, 2012, 08:32:13 AM
where do you look? Most of the time i look at their mouth.

yeah, me too.  it's disgusting, but it's really hard to stop.
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Post by: KITNfury on November 27, 2012, 08:43:05 AM
where do you look? Most of the time i look at their mouth.

yeah, me too.  it's disgusting, but it's really hard to stop.
Also can make you seem really drunk, cept I think really drunk people tend to look at your nose.
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Post by: _33 on November 27, 2012, 10:17:28 AM
I look at the eyes.
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Post by: nicname on November 27, 2012, 12:33:52 PM
Look in the eyes, but periodically look away.  To much staring makes you seem a psycho. Avoiding eye contact maKes you seem weak.
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Post by: puniraptor on November 27, 2012, 04:34:57 PM
i stand next to the person and together we gaze into the great beyond.
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Post by: 0.42 on November 27, 2012, 05:48:55 PM
Look in the eyes, but periodically look away.  To much staring makes you seem a psycho. Avoiding eye contact maKes you seem weak.

yes

sometimes though i stare out the window to try and make things seem cinematic
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Post by: pissclams on November 27, 2012, 06:32:05 PM
i usually care a miniature cutout of whoever i'm going to be talking face-to-face with that day, in a manilla folder inside of my briefcase.

when i sit down to talk to the person, i set the cutout on the table in front of me and stare at it (in the face) while i listen to their drivel.  when the person is done talking, i fold up the picture, put it into my back pocket, get up, and walk away.

this is a new conversation type i've developed.
Title: Re: When talking to someone face to face...
Post by: Domino on November 27, 2012, 09:34:31 PM
Look in the eyes, but periodically look away.  To much staring makes you seem a psycho. Avoiding eye contact maKes you seem weak.

Same here.
Title: Re: When talking to someone face to face...
Post by: bones129 on November 27, 2012, 10:00:50 PM
i usually care a miniature cutout of whoever i'm going to be talking face-to-face with that day, in a manilla folder inside of my briefcase.

when i sit down to talk to the person, i set the cutout on the table in front of me and stare at it (in the face) while i listen to their drivel.  when the person is done talking, i fold up the picture, put it into my back pocket, get up, and walk away.

this is a new conversation type i've developed.

I may have to try this. I suspect it tends to eliminate needless follow-up and questions.