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Title: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: j rake on March 16, 2011, 04:09:35 PM
They suck. They are lazy, rude and they suck. Or maybe they are extremely busy. But still. If you get an e-mail, respond, and at least let the person who sent it know that it arrived in your inbox and not some spam folder. Provide some indication that you've received the e-mail.

A simple, "Can't reply now, but will get back to you tomorrow" will suffice.

But jesus, at least respond.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: CNS on March 16, 2011, 04:24:00 PM
They suck. They are lazy, rude and they suck. Or maybe they are extremely busy. But still. If you get an e-mail, respond, and at least let the person who sent it know that it arrived in your inbox and not some spam folder. Provide some indication that you've received the e-mail.

A simple, "Can't reply now, but will get back to you tomorrow" will suffice.

But jesus, at least respond.

What if the email that you haven't responded to has a lot of questions that you aren't prepared to answer in it and you don't want to take the time to find the answers and it would be easier to act like you never got it? What then?   :dunno:
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: michigancat on March 16, 2011, 04:31:33 PM
They suck. They are lazy, rude and they suck. Or maybe they are extremely busy. But still. If you get an e-mail, respond, and at least let the person who sent it know that it arrived in your inbox and not some spam folder. Provide some indication that you've received the e-mail.

A simple, "Can't reply now, but will get back to you tomorrow" will suffice.

But jesus, at least respond.

why don't you call them if it's so goddam important to get an instant reply?
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: The1BigWillie on March 16, 2011, 04:55:31 PM
J_Rake is stalkin' a bitch.  :lol:
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: j rake on March 16, 2011, 05:01:27 PM
J_Rake is stalkin' a bitch.  :lol:

 :pbj:
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: CNS on March 16, 2011, 05:04:48 PM
Really surprised Dick Vermeil hasn't blocked you in his email security settings yet.   :dunno:
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: j rake on March 16, 2011, 05:20:44 PM
Lots of people I know prefer e-mail. They tell you, "just e-mail me."

Then you e-mail them, and no reply. It's annoying.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: pike on March 16, 2011, 06:29:19 PM
My adviser is famous for not answering emails. It usually takes 2 or 3 of them to get the lazy POS to raise my flag  :curse:
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: michigancat on March 16, 2011, 06:30:02 PM
Lots of people I know prefer e-mail. They tell you, "just e-mail me."

Then you e-mail them, and no reply. It's annoying.

like, how quick of a turnaround are you expecting?
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: WillieWatanabe on March 16, 2011, 06:33:06 PM
"High Importance" usually works at my place of work.

I usually hate when you ask a person for like 4 different things. and they reply back only answering 1 of them. And then put a smiley face at the end. Which is pushed to the side because of their stupid baby pictures in the signature. goddamnit, getting fired up here.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: j rake on March 16, 2011, 06:59:32 PM
Lots of people I know prefer e-mail. They tell you, "just e-mail me."

Then you e-mail them, and no reply. It's annoying.

like, how quick of a turnaround are you expecting?

I am probably the least important person on earth, so I respond to all e-mails quickly, usually within an hour of receiving them. For regular or important people, I expect a reply within 24 hours. I don't think that is an unreasonable request, particularly when they tell you that it's their preferred method of communication.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: Rage Against the McKee on March 16, 2011, 07:03:32 PM
I have 2 email addresses. I give one of them to unimportant people who are likely to send me a bunch of forwards and other crap that I don't care about. I give my other email address to important people. I check the email for important people hourly, and I check the email for unimportant people like once a week, and I just skim through it then. :horrorsurprise: Maybe somebody gave you their email address for unimportant people.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: j rake on March 16, 2011, 07:09:37 PM
I have 2 email addresses. I give one of them to unimportant people who are likely to send me a bunch of forwards and other crap that I don't care about. I give my other email address to important people. I check the email for important people hourly, and I check the email for unimportant people like once a week, and I just skim through it then. :horrorsurprise: Maybe somebody gave you their email address for unimportant people.

I don't mind if unimportant e-mails don't get a response. I have sent 4,738 unimportant e-mails over the last few years and many of them don't get a response (Meek  :frown:). I get frustrated, though, when I send an important e-mail to an important (or somewhat important) person, one that requires an immediate (or somewhat immediate) response, and don't get a reply.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: ben ji on March 16, 2011, 07:21:37 PM
I have 2 email addresses. I give one of them to unimportant people who are likely to send me a bunch of forwards and other crap that I don't care about. I give my other email address to important people. I check the email for important people hourly, and I check the email for unimportant people like once a week, and I just skim through it then. :horrorsurprise: Maybe somebody gave you their email address for unimportant people.

I don't mind if unimportant e-mails don't get a response. I have sent 4,738 unimportant e-mails over the last few years and many of them don't get a response (Meek  :frown:). I get frustrated, though, when I send an important e-mail to an important (or somewhat important) person, one that requires an immediate (or somewhat immediate) response, and don't get a reply.

She's just not that into you bro
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: j rake on March 16, 2011, 07:33:57 PM
She's just not that into you bro

Thing is, these are pretty funny e-mails.  :embarrassed:
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: Dr Rick Daris on March 16, 2011, 08:08:20 PM
Rake,

Forward me what you sent and I'll make the call on how important/funny or whatever as well how big of a jerk the person is for not responding.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: CNS on March 16, 2011, 08:19:14 PM
post them
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: j rake on March 16, 2011, 08:39:33 PM
They are kind of graphic.  :horrorsurprise:
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: CNS on March 16, 2011, 08:40:44 PM
post them
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: j rake on March 16, 2011, 08:41:28 PM
I'd really rather not.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: wetwillie on March 16, 2011, 08:41:50 PM
They are kind of graphic.  :horrorsurprise:

We'll be the judge of that
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: j rake on March 16, 2011, 08:42:26 PM
If I e-mailed them to any of you, I probably wouldn't even get a reply.  :rolleyes:
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: michigancat on March 16, 2011, 08:47:20 PM
If I e-mailed them to any of you, I probably wouldn't even get a reply.  :rolleyes:

send pm.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: j rake on March 16, 2011, 08:48:19 PM
If I e-mailed them to any of you, I probably wouldn't even get a reply.  :rolleyes:

send pm.

I prefer e-mail correspondence.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: _33 on March 16, 2011, 09:13:17 PM
sometimes I don't check my email for long stretches during the day. Then somebody who works like all the way across the building will come over to my office and tell me something and I'll wonder in my head "why didn't they just email me" and then I'll look at my email later and see that they did email me way earlier and I didn't respond.   :lol:
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: sys on March 16, 2011, 09:50:25 PM
j rake, i doubt if the person means to insult you.  just email again asking if they got your previous email.  it may make the other person feel bad (turn the tables).  good luck.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: yoga-like_abana on March 16, 2011, 09:54:39 PM
Was it a forward? I don't think I have ever responded to someones forward in my life. I mean its not like you made the crap up, congrats on someone sending it to you and you figuring out how to hit forward and type in an email address.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: j rake on March 16, 2011, 09:58:53 PM
j rake, i doubt if the person means to insult you.  just email again asking if they got your previous email.  it may make the other person feel bad (turn the tables).  good luck.

Right, here's my thing: The people that don't reply to me in a timely fashion are always quick to exchange e-mails when they want something. I actually like helping people and doing favors, etc. I can't remember the last time someone asked me to do something and I didn't go out of my way to help them.

But it'd be nice if the people you help so often would reciprocate when you need them to return a favor.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: sys on March 16, 2011, 10:03:13 PM
Right, here's my thing: The people that don't reply to me in a timely fashion are always quick to exchange e-mails when they want something. I actually like helping people and doing favors, etc. I can't remember the last time someone asked me to do something and I didn't go out of my way to help them.

But it'd be nice if the people you help so often would reciprocate when you need them to return a favor.

i think you should lower your expectations re. email & spare change.  you seem to set yourself up for disappointment.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: michigancat on March 16, 2011, 10:03:37 PM
j rake, i doubt if the person means to insult you.  just email again asking if they got your previous email.  it may make the other person feel bad (turn the tables).  good luck.

Right, here's my thing: The people that don't reply to me in a timely fashion are always quick to exchange e-mails when they want something. I actually like helping people and doing favors, etc. I can't remember the last time someone asked me to do something and I didn't go out of my way to help them.

But it'd be nice if the people you help so often would reciprocate when you need them to return a favor.

I feel like you're withholding critical information.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: Trim on March 16, 2011, 10:11:47 PM
Wait, are you e-mailing people the donation link?
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: j rake on March 16, 2011, 10:12:49 PM
j rake, i doubt if the person means to insult you.  just email again asking if they got your previous email.  it may make the other person feel bad (turn the tables).  good luck.

Right, here's my thing: The people that don't reply to me in a timely fashion are always quick to exchange e-mails when they want something. I actually like helping people and doing favors, etc. I can't remember the last time someone asked me to do something and I didn't go out of my way to help them.

But it'd be nice if the people you help so often would reciprocate when you need them to return a favor.

I feel like you're withholding critical information.

A typical e-mail exchange ...

Them: "Jeff, I need your help! PLEASE! It's somewhat urgent! Are you free?"
Me: "Yeah, I'm wide open (not really) ... what can I do for you?"


Then, here's an e-mail that I might send ...

Me: "Hey, I hate to bother you, but if it wouldn't be much trouble, would you mind ..."
Them: [no reply]


Next day ...

Me: "Not sure if you got my e-mail yesterday, but again, if you could ..."
Them: [No reply]


Three days later ...

Them: "Hey Jeff, sorry for the delay! Yes, sure, I'd be glad to help you out! What do you need me to do?"
Me: "You're off the hook. Job is already done. Thanks anyway."
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: yoga-like_abana on March 16, 2011, 10:14:22 PM
maybe quit being a pushover  :dunno:
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: j rake on March 16, 2011, 10:15:14 PM
maybe quit being a pushover  :dunno:

Working on that. But I think I need to learn how to push other people over.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: Dr Rick Daris on March 16, 2011, 10:38:34 PM


I can't remember the last time someone asked me to do something and I didn't go out of my way to help them.


in all fairness, i asked you to send me the email in question and you didn't. pot meet very similar pot. also, why is it that the people that need the most help are the ones most unwilling to take it when it's offered?
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: j rake on March 16, 2011, 11:34:15 PM


I can't remember the last time someone asked me to do something and I didn't go out of my way to help them.


in all fairness, i asked you to send me the email in question and you didn't.

It's not one e-mail in particular.
 
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also, why is it that the people that need the most help are the ones most unwilling to take it when it's offered?

MIND BENDER!
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: chum1 on March 16, 2011, 11:49:13 PM
Have you checked your email settings?
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: Dr Rick Daris on March 16, 2011, 11:54:23 PM


I can't remember the last time someone asked me to do something and I didn't go out of my way to help them.


in all fairness, i asked you to send me the email in question and you didn't.

It's not one e-mail in particular.
 
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also, why is it that the people that need the most help are the ones most unwilling to take it when it's offered?

MIND BENDER!


maybe send me all the emails then? take the help.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: j rake on March 16, 2011, 11:56:24 PM
Have you checked your email settings?

Why yes, of course I ...  :horrorsurprise:
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: Tobias on March 17, 2011, 12:19:08 AM
You need to do a spell check-type thing except have it in angry thesaurus mode - lots of "rough ridin'" for "please", "screw" for "thank", etc type of substitutions.  Try incorporating  :chainsaw: and  :curse: into your email sig and report back
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: j rake on March 17, 2011, 12:30:28 AM
Umm, I don't want to come off as Jeff the Ax Murderer, I want to come off as Jeff the guy who wants you to do him a favor so please reply in a timely manner.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: chunkles on March 17, 2011, 01:05:19 AM
Pretty sure this doesn't fit your situation, but I really really like not responding, so that the person needing the help figures it out on their own and just does it and never again asks for the same favor.  Tough love or something.

goes more like:
Them (me): "Hey Jeff, sorry for the delay! I was super busy doing important crap, hope you figured it out? lol"
you: "You're off the hook. Job is already done. Thanks anyway.  You know, I really learned how to do some of this not-as-important crap and feel confident in accomplishing it!"
Them (me):  "go me!"
you: "You're kind of a dick though."
Them (me):  " :blush: "
and scene.
Title: Re: People that don't reply to e-mails
Post by: michigancat on March 17, 2011, 06:30:40 AM
Pretty sure this doesn't fit your situation, but I really really like not responding, so that the person needing the help figures it out on their own and just does it and never again asks for the same favor.  Tough love or something.

goes more like:
Them (me): "Hey Jeff, sorry for the delay! I was super busy doing important crap, hope you figured it out? lol"
you: "You're off the hook. Job is already done. Thanks anyway.  You know, I really learned how to do some of this not-as-important crap and feel confident in accomplishing it!"
Them (me):  "go me!"
you: "You're kind of a dick though."
Them (me):  " :blush: "
and scene.

agreed. I'm pretty sure this fits Jeff's situation, although he would probably ask the same question in the future.