Joint Checking Accounts

[Cartierfor3]

Every time there is a wedding:

Me: "Do we have to get a gift?"
Mrs CF3: "Yeah, I just got them a $25 target gift card"
Me: "Sounds good. I'll eat/drink at least $40 worth of stuff so we still come out ahead on the evening"

That's why we're buds. 

[420seriouscat69]

remind me who's the bread winner again?  not that it matters, just curious how this plays into these situations.

I make a little more than her now. She use to be, but not since we've been engaged/married. We do fine, but we both have debt (good debt: student loans) we're trying to pay off and I want to get that resolved before a house/baby. Making it rain on everyone isn't in my cards right now.

[Rage Against the McKee]

You got married recently enough that it shouldn't be that hard to just spend about the same amount of money on these people as they spent on you.

Yeah, that's her rationale for this.

If all of these people spent $100-$150 on my wedding gift, I would have a hard time spending much less than $100 on theirs. If it's anyone else, I usually just go get something on the registry that costs $50 or less.

[SdK]

I'm shutting this crap down right now. The fact that she feels we need to give that much is redic. She's so afraid of looking cheap.

Rant over. I know this is bad BBS'ing for many to read.

Make her a nice dinner sometime and have a conversation about finances. Use a lot of I statements. Talk about your worries and fears. Avoid accusing her of anything or saying what you would do in her shoes or what she should do. Just explain your side, that you're willing to compromise on things. It's still super early in your marriage. Now is the time to have an honest, open, and comprehensive dialog about your financial future together. Get a solid game plan in place. Kids are just going to add more stress. If there is already money disagreements, coupled with increase in spending due to a kid, I'd worry about the happiness of your family unit.

[420seriouscat69]

 

[420seriouscat69]

Speaking about marriage. Next week is our one year. What did you married dudes do for your 1 year?

It's next Saturday. I plan on sending her our wedding flowers to her work on Friday and taking her out to a nice dinner. Any recommendos?

[mocat]

Speaking about marriage. Next week is our one year. What did you married dudes do for your 1 year?

It's next Saturday. I plan on sending her our wedding flowers to her work on Friday and taking her out to a nice dinner. Any recommendos?

that sounds nice. i took mrs mocat to paris.

[mocat]

CREDIT CARD THREAD!

[420seriouscat69]

She doesn't have PTO until August tho. I wanted to do Puerto Rico. 

[420seriouscat69]

Mocat, you travel so much for work, I can only imagine how many miles you have. I have enough for a big trip right now, but I can't.

[mocat]

Mocat, you travel so much for work, I can only imagine how many miles you have. I have enough for a big trip right now, but I can't.

i have only traveled one solitary time for work this year 

[Tobias]

book that crap before Nicole's niece gets it all for her preschool graduation

[420seriouscat69]

Really MO? I thought you were going all the time back in the day? I'm usually on the road once a month. Chi, Indy, Columbus, Louisville, etc. Mostly 3 boring states.

[420seriouscat69]

book that crap before Nicole's niece gets it all for her preschool graduation

You know her cousin? 

[Cartierfor3]

She doesn't have PTO until August tho. I wanted to do Puerto Rico. 

thought you were trying to save

[420seriouscat69]

Well yeah. We are. Free flight points and stay (from a good friend who has connections). Whatever we'd spend there for fun, is pretty much what we'd spend here for fun. 

[meow meow]

fun money!  i LOVE fun money!!!

[420seriouscat69]

 

[star seed 7]

I might be a pos, I've never bought a wedding gift before

[Mrs. Gooch]

I might be a pos, I've never bought a wedding gift before

Have you gone to any weddings?

[Emo EMAW]

I might be a pos, I've never bought a wedding gift before

Have you gone to any weddings?

In jeans I'm sure.

[star seed 7]

I might be a pos, I've never bought a wedding gift before

Have you gone to any weddings?

Yes!

[star seed 7]

I might be a pos, I've never bought a wedding gift before

Have you gone to any weddings?

In jeans I'm sure.

I don't even own a pair of jeans

[Gooch]

I might be a pos, I've never bought a wedding gift before

Have you gone to any weddings?

In jeans I'm sure.

I don't even own a pair of jeans

[yoga-like_abana]

last wedding I did not want to buy the couple a gift.. mrs yla is super artsy fartsy and painted this thing that looked pretty great. win win