I watched a repeat episode on TLC the other day. I was very surprised at how harsh Kate actually was on Jon. They were carving pumpkins for Halloween for the children. They were out in the garage, on a large table covered with butcher paper. It was no more a mess than the usual carving of the pumpkins...with "guts" and seeds from the pumpkins scooped out on the table. But, Kate was FREAKING OUT! She HAD to make Jon let her roll up the paper (he kept saying, 'Kate. just let me finish this one pumpkin and then you can clean up') she started saying she couldn't breathe until she "cleaned the mess up!" she was ridiculous. He SHOULD have told her to go inside, and he would call her when he was finished. It ruined the special, bonding moment for he and the children they were all enjoying! She had her way. Then later, when they were talking in the room she kept saying to him when he actually got a word in over her to talk about something..."Stop rambling Jon! You never SAY anything you just ramble on!" That had to embarrass him! He just stopped talking and sat there red faced and she started yammering. I hadn't actually noticed this before. She is emasculating him! She is always doing these little "calling downs" like he is one of her children, not her husband. There seems to be zero respect for him from her. This doesn't sit well with any man!
Yes, it's so sad. I do feel for the beautiful children. However, they really DO need serious counseling and intervention as a couple so that Kate sees what she does to push Jon away.
I'm not making excuses. If he has cheated. That's NEVER right and nothing can validate it. However,
you can see how Jon would fall out of love with someone who treated you this way all the time.
Hope they work it all out. Changes need to be made.
I remember Ash saying she watched her and wanted to start treating Danny better because of it. I feel the same way. I have learned from watching her about respect, and kindness and not being so anal about things like cleaning up messes children are bound to make right NOW! It's just disturbing.