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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #25 on: June 22, 2022, 03:21:50 PM »
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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #26 on: June 22, 2022, 05:36:24 PM »
if you don't have one now buy a king size bed immediately

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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #27 on: June 22, 2022, 10:02:13 PM »
The only real advice I could give is to be open to help from others but comfortable and confident with your own parenting style. Kids are pretty adaptable and what they need more than anything is just a safe environment (and lots of food and sleep).

Also don’t forget they’re little humans. Sometimes they just do things that make no damn sense.

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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #28 on: June 22, 2022, 10:07:47 PM »
Make sure to take lots of pictures as they grow up and keep them organized by years.  With the tech now, that is pretty easy. 

Also, just enjoy the time you get to spend with your kids as they grow up...it goes fast.
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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #29 on: June 23, 2022, 07:39:48 AM »
The first few weeks and months will be a rollercoaster. Nothing ever happens in a straight upward line. There will be bad days, sometimes several bad days. Then it will improve for several days, only to backtrack again. Try not to get discouraged. Over time it will slowly become easier and less stressful.
Be mindful of how your partner is doing. Let them have extended time away if it will help.
Never be afraid to ask for help from family (if they can be helpful). One of our biggest regrets was waiting an extra week before asking for help from my in-laws. Best decision we made was to ask for help.
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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #30 on: June 23, 2022, 10:49:08 AM »
The kingsize bed comment reminds me.  Don't have them sleep with you unless you like the idea of a 7 year old still sleeping in your bed and you never getting to bone ever again.

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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #31 on: June 23, 2022, 12:15:11 PM »
The kingsize bed comment reminds me.  Don't have them sleep with you unless you like the idea of a 7 year old still sleeping in your bed and you never getting to bone ever again.
This is false.
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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #32 on: June 23, 2022, 02:22:34 PM »
The kingsize bed comment reminds me.  Don't have them sleep with you unless you like the idea of a 7 year old still sleeping in your bed and you never getting to bone ever again.
This is false.

It's not a personal experience of mine, but several of my friends are currently going through this.

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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #33 on: June 23, 2022, 04:00:19 PM »
The kingsize bed comment reminds me.  Don't have them sleep with you unless you like the idea of a 7 year old still sleeping in your bed and you never getting to bone ever again.
This is false.

It's not a personal experience of mine, but several of my friends are currently going through this.

Yeah, i'm sure it depends, but I rarely ever let my kids sleep in my bed. I've heard stories about kids constantly coming down trying to get in bed with their parents and eff that. If something is up, we always go to their beds for a bit. Now even when they are sick they want their own beds.

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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #34 on: June 23, 2022, 06:08:33 PM »
Have another one as soon as you can
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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #35 on: June 23, 2022, 07:03:50 PM »
Have another one as soon as you can

this is bad advice.
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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #36 on: June 23, 2022, 07:10:44 PM »
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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #37 on: June 23, 2022, 07:35:17 PM »
Have another one as soon as you can

this is bad advice.
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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #38 on: June 24, 2022, 12:38:25 PM »
Have another one as soon as you can

If you are going have more than one, this is sound advice.  I will be south of 50 when our last of three is graduating from high school.  My uncle was 55 when my youngest cousin was born.  At this point in my life, that sounds horrific.
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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #39 on: June 24, 2022, 02:28:04 PM »
Have another one as soon as you can

If you are going have more than one, this is sound advice.  I will be south of 50 when our last of three is graduating from high school.  My uncle was 55 when my youngest cousin was born.  At this point in my life, that sounds horrific.

These people have no idea what they are talking about. I mean sure, if you want to have another kid, have at it, but spread it out a bit. All of the dumbasses that say "it will be great to get it all over at once" are giant huge dumbasses. Trust me.

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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #40 on: June 24, 2022, 02:42:17 PM »
Have another one as soon as you can

If you are going have more than one, this is sound advice.  I will be south of 50 when our last of three is graduating from high school.  My uncle was 55 when my youngest cousin was born.  At this point in my life, that sounds horrific.

These people have no idea what they are talking about. I mean sure, if you want to have another kid, have at it, but spread it out a bit. All of the dumbasses that say "it will be great to get it all over at once" are giant huge dumbasses. Trust me.



You have your thoughts and I have mine.  No need for insults there homeboy.
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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #41 on: June 24, 2022, 08:54:41 PM »
We had ours two years apart. 3 kids in daycare was excruciating financially, but now it rules.
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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #42 on: June 24, 2022, 11:09:42 PM »
Beat. Their. Ass.

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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #43 on: June 25, 2022, 11:31:36 PM »
The kingsize bed comment reminds me.  Don't have them sleep with you unless you like the idea of a 7 year old still sleeping in your bed and you never getting to bone ever again.
This is false.

It's not a personal experience of mine, but several of my friends are currently going through this.

Do not ever have your infant sleep in your bed unless you love smothering your own baby.

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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #44 on: June 26, 2022, 01:39:22 AM »
Find a hospital that will take the baby to a nursery. eff that “keep the baby in the room for bonding” crap. Did that with the first, it sucked. 2nd baby we were in the hospital for 5 days and they took her to the nursery while we slept/rested.

For the first 18 months you’re a supporting character. Just do what you need to do to help the main characters.

I couldn't disagree with either of these pieces of advise any more.

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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #45 on: June 26, 2022, 01:41:13 AM »
You're going to be tempted or your wife to buy a bunch of overpriced crap that you either won't use ever or seldom do. Do not do that.

Thrift stores, people to people sales, friends and family, and Facebook marketplace are your friend.

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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #46 on: June 26, 2022, 01:42:40 AM »
When baby naps, dad naps


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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #47 on: June 26, 2022, 01:44:54 AM »
The kingsize bed comment reminds me.  Don't have them sleep with you unless you like the idea of a 7 year old still sleeping in your bed and you never getting to bone ever again.
This is false.

It's not a personal experience of mine, but several of my friends are currently going through this.

Use a co-sleeper, absolutely the best thing we did with each monster in our herd.

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Re: Advice for a first time Expectant Father
« Reply #48 on: June 26, 2022, 01:47:32 AM »
Have another one as soon as you can

If you are going have more than one, this is sound advice.  I will be south of 50 when our last of three is graduating from high school.  My uncle was 55 when my youngest cousin was born.  At this point in my life, that sounds horrific.

These people have no idea what they are talking about. I mean sure, if you want to have another kid, have at it, but spread it out a bit. All of the dumbasses that say "it will be great to get it all over at once" are giant huge dumbasses. Trust me.

I'm guessing I'm the oldest person who had a kid. I love my son but my guy XT is absolutely right. If you can help it, I'd strongly advise against having children when you are in your mid 40s, for several reasons.