KK just curious, if one of these kids was one of your star tennis players you were coaching, what would you do? (I'm really curious, not trying to gotcha or anything)
I assume there is an ocean of of stuff that I don't know about my students. I care about their development and their lives, but I also think a lot of it isn't my business. It would really depend upon how it came to my attention. Obviously extra curricular activities are very different than school, but I don't know if I would kick the kid off the team for that. If they did it at school or at practice or something else like that, that is completely different.
What if it was brought to your attention by a Jewish kid on the team who tells you this is a pattern? I don't think I'd kick the kid off the team either, but can you completely ignore it?
No, I would not completely ignore it.
Let me give you my overall philosophy-
Schools get put in an impossible position when they try to hold kids accountable for behavior that occurs off-campus and is not school related. Obviously schools deal with lots of fallout from stuff that happens outside of school and affects things at school.
I think parents that call the school with screenshots of text messages that their children have received instead of the kids parents are ridiculous.
If it were my kids that was on the receiving end--short of threats of physical violence or something else criminal, I would leave the school out of it and would only alert the school to the extent that it was relevant (our kids sit together in math class).